right age
By decent07
@decent07 (232)
India
7 responses
@robynlisa (69)
• United States
27 Jul 07
I think the right age for pregnany varies. For me, it would be whenever I have the following:
-stable job
-permanent housing
-supportive partner
-desire to raise child
-willingness to put myself second and put the child first
-money saved
@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
30 Jul 07
just wanted to add to this list which is a really good list but one thing is missing. Have to be able to run after a 2 year old that gets into all your things lol.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
28 Jul 07
I think it depends on the individual person, i don't think 30-40 is an overly good idea, the older you are the more risks there are involved with pregnancy, the higher the chance of defects & problems along the way.
Being too young can result in you being too immature & not emotionally/mentally stable enough to handle a situation like that.
I was pregnant when i turned 24 & had my daughter about 2 months before i turned 25 - i think, for me, this was a good age :)
I guess you also have to take in to consideration if you can afford to be having children, do you have a stable job or partner that can be the sole earner while you take care of the baby? Are in you a stable home - whether renting comfortably, owning a home or having a mortgage that you could still afford on 1 income?
A lot of things have to be thought about but i think mid 20's is probably a pretty good time for most people.
@ChampagneGiggles (699)
• United States
27 Jul 07
Honestly, I'd say 25 to 35. At 25, you've presumably made a good start on your life and you have a basic idea of where you want it to go. You'd also have the energy and nest egg to give your child a good life, and would have lived your single, childless life for long enough to be content. I give it till 35 because the risks increase for a woman 35 and up. Her fertility begins to drop, and she's at an increased risk for ovarian cancer among other things.
@alstaxidermy (269)
• United States
31 Jul 07
I think it all depends upon the parent(s) in so many ways. Many people both older and younger that I have seen are in no way capable of delaing with children, and still go ahead with it. Honestly, I think a parenting license should be required with anual renewal requirements and training as well for so many people! My sister would be one of them! She is older, well off in life and still is incapab;e of handling her first and only baby! Constantly pawning her off on who ever is handy and only "caring" for her when she is being cute and adorable, it's like she has it backwards and thinks she is the sitter and everyone else can be mommy. On the flip side I have seen teen parents step up to the plate and do marvelously. Really there is no black and white to this at all.
@kimberly051521 (3)
• United States
30 Jul 07
twenty to thirty is a good age to have a first child if a person is responsible and is close 2 reaching her financial goals in life. having a child requires alot of work and i wouldnt advise someone that was still in college or just getting a career started to plan thier first pregnancy.
@CraftyCorner (5600)
• United States
27 Jul 07
For the middle class American, the best age biologically to have a first child is probably between 20 to 30. The best age financially for most Americans is probably 30 to 40 or perhaps later causing a quandary.
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The years between 20 and 30 are the college and early career years for middle class Americans and their finances are often not really stable enough to provide optimum for children with the skyrocketing cost of living. Many Americans don't mature enough this early as well, as very often they have to return to the parent's home.
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The 30 to 40 age sees middle class Americans more stable in their careers, maturity, and finances and they suddenly feel 'clocks ticking'. The problem these folks face is declining fertility, especially in women.
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Other parts of the world, and yes, in America too, there are people with differing rates of maturation and different values.