confused girlfriend
By kaye0603
@kaye0603 (48)
Philippines
August 30, 2007 8:08am CST
i love my boyfriend..and he is so husband material!to me he is going to be a good husband and father to my kids but thing is sometimes i think that maybe he's not the one for me. i really wanted to live my life and do a lot of things in life on my own. but sometimes he just doesn't like what i want to do. should i sacrifice him to do the things i want to do or should i talk to him? but how? can you help me out?
5 responses
@puchapox (579)
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
What makes you think that he isn't the one for you? is it more like you're looking for something that he doesn't seem to have, or he has something that you wish he didn't?
If he is not letting you be the woman you want to be, I think you just need to talk it through and make him understand your side. Goodluck!
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
1 Sep 07
"i just hope he'll understand in time"
this can be a terrible trap to fall into.
waiting for them to one day understand and compensate to your own needs and wants in life.
there's a good chance that if you've already talked to him about it and he didn't understand, he won't grow to in time.
I don't think you should stay with him because he's a good guy and has the potential to be a good family man if he doesn't truly make you happy and let you be who you want to be. Don't fall in love with his potential or stay in the relationship because it's 'better than most' or something like that.
You deserve what you want, and if he can't give that to you and you don't really want to be with him, then don't.
Good luck, I do hope that it all works out.
@bdsmith214 (15)
• United States
14 Nov 07
If he is husband material and treats you well... hold on to him. Great guys are hard to come by. However, dont let him erase your dreams and aspirations. Sit down and talk to him about how you feel. Sacrificing him isnt a good idea, neither is sacrificing what you want to do. Good conversation in a relationship is key.
@J_e_R_y_L_e (37)
• Philippines
31 Aug 07
perhaps, you should talk about it...and maybe you could take a vacation, do the things you want to do, and go back to him...just make sure he's still there...i mean, he needs to understand that there are lots of things you want to do...
@redfruit2008 (6)
• Virgin Islands (U.S.)
6 Oct 07
I think you should talk to him and express to him how important your goals are to you and if he truly cared about you he would understand and support you to fullest
@ritazhang (117)
• China
8 Oct 07
If you really love him, nothing is difficult. Talk with him and tell him what you think and want. Try to share you feeling of things you are interested in. Do your best to know of his interests. Communication is very important.
