How do you cope with the daily STRESS?
By thefortunes
@thefortunes (2367)
Netherlands
September 4, 2007 8:17am CST
For most of us there are times when we feel overhelmed. This mostly is so because we have too much to do and not enough time to finish it all, not even the half of all the tasks, and in my case even more than that.
This is causing me a lot of stress, and the stress is making me snappy, and irritated, and frustrated.
We all know stress is NO GOOD, and causes diseases as well.
In certain circumstances stress could be good however, but I am talking here about the STRESS on the daily bases which is bad one. How do you cope with it? And how do your family, husband, or partner, or kids cope with you when you're irritated, too often maybe?
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@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
4 Sep 07
Hi TerryZ,and thanks for taking part in this discussion :)
And I wish I could chill out, but being the perfectionist I am it's very difficult :) My partner is always trying to help, and i am having difficulties to not snap at him that he is always joking around while I could cry from frustration.he just wants to help and lift my mood while I snap at him, how bad is that...
@nishicash (11)
• Sri Lanka
5 Sep 07
Being a software developer I also get stressed out , when I feel I can't do anything right and feels so frustrated I play a simple game of hangman. It takes about 1 minute takes your mind off for a minuter and believe me man this relieves stress.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
6 Sep 07
Hi Nishicash, Thanks for responding in this discussion :)
Glad to hear that you make the stress go with the Hangman game, and I also play BeJeweled2 a few times daily, when I feel I cannot bear anymore of the online work, and it helps to get my concentration back at least :)
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
5 Sep 07
Stress is better dealt with with a planned life. Do everything at the right time and at the right place dont let any activity of life cheated if you want to avoid stress. Love your life be recreative and there will be stress
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
6 Sep 07
Hi Academic and thank you for your responce :) And as much as I planning the stress gets more and more while the task I have to perform grow and become more and more. One can plan as much as he/she wants, but the time we have at our disposal doen't get more because of the planning, or does it? IT will be wonderful if we could extend time as much as we like however, and try imagining life being made out of elastic, plastic :)
@AmbiePam (92865)
• United States
4 Sep 07
With all these new inventions and ideas, one would think life would be LESS stressful. But we know it isn't. I pray a lot. I gave my life to God a long time ago, but sometimes I try to take control without realizing it. Since God doesn't get tired of hearing us pray, I use that method a lot. But probably not as much as I should. : )
And as silly as it sounds, I get very still, and take a deep breath, in and out. I do that about five times. Or on occasion, I take the advice of a physical therapist friend of mine, and I lay on the floor, with my arms and legs spread out. I try to listen to any sounds, of nature or other wise. I focus on really breathing, and how it feels to inhale and exhale. And for a while, the stress has been relieved.
I do hope you get some relief soon. It can't be easy to have a family and not get extra stressed. I can't imagine what that must be like, since I am single.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
4 Sep 07
Hi AmbiePam, thanks for your insights in the discussion :)
I have only my partner and 6 cats, and my dad coming several times a year here. His coming brinsg stress because my partner doesn't want him around, but he has nowhere else to go, so all of us have to cope with the stress this creates. We do manage for now without fights and hoep it will stay this way until my dad goes. The stress is there even when he goes though, and now I am planning to start with joga as many friends have pointed - this might help get some relieve :)
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@indiavani (863)
• India
5 Sep 07
Hello Thefortunes! I do breathing exercises daily for half an hour. This helps me in coping up with stress. Walking also helps. When you feel irritated & frustrated due to stress, go out on a walk for 5-10 minutes, it really helps.
Vani^_^
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
6 Sep 07
Thanks Indiavani for your contribution, and is really valid! I am about to start learning how to use the right breathing exercises, and will try to get more breaks in between too :)
@nyumix (1658)
• Belgium
10 Sep 07
What make me stress at this time is the crying children. I have 2 kids, and when they both crying in the same time, that's the time I will feel a little bit stress. So normally in the night, I will try to release my daily stress with drinking warm tea and watching some movies on television.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
10 Sep 07
Hi Nuymix, thanks for your responce in this discussion :) and I think small kids could bring stress for their mum, but you seem to have a found a good way to relase some of it. We need a recharge of our energy, and yours sounds good to me :)
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
6 Sep 07
Thank you for your contribution TDonals, and congrats on your 1000th post!
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
5 Sep 07
well, for me i just take a time off... if i know that i needed it, i prefer to take it easy and let it go rather than making myself stress and frustuated which cause me to be grumpy with my hubby... so not thinking about it is a way out for me actually... :-)
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
5 Sep 07
Hi Lingli_78,thank you for jumping in the discussion :) If this was a possibility inmy current state of affairs I would do it too, however, there is no such option for me
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
4 Sep 07
I have trouble with coping with this. Sometimes I feel like I have so many things to do that i can't do anything, and it makes me want to give up. I also get irritable.
I try to make lists and prioritize, and not worry if not everything gets done. It's an ongoing battle.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
4 Sep 07
Hi Cutepenguin, thank you for dropping by in the discussion, and you sound in the same situation as I am in. Try joga dear friend, as this is what I am going to do starting next week. This might help you to cope better too :)
@sunshinecup (7871)
•
4 Sep 07
And how do your family, husband, or partner, or kids cope with you when you're irritated, too often maybe?
ha ha great question I sometimes have to ask myself. I think the key is I leave and get away from them all to be by myself when I am at my worse. No sense in me bringing every one down cause I am in a rotten mood or stressed out.
One thing that I do that greatly helps for me to chill out is a bit is yoga. I know many think you have to be skinny and limber to do that, well let me tell ya I am neither and I love yoga. It really helps to get the stress out and to make you feel better body and mind. I have been doing yoga for a while now, at least a couple of years and I love it. It's nothing as hard as many think it is and any one can do it. My mother whom is 65 does yoga now, so that tells you anyone can do it.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
4 Sep 07
Hi Sunshinecup, and thanks for your insights in the discussion :) If leaving and staying on your own for awhile helps you, than this is your way of coping and great for having it :) And I see you're in the joga too, and me I am about to start with it, and expecting maybe just a little bit too much from it, but time will tell :)
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
5 Sep 07
My best remedy for stress is do things which I love doing such as watching TV, reading my favorite book, mylotting, going to the spa or beauty parlor, texting my friends, or just simply lie down to rest; for me, the more I'm rested, the more I'll de-stress myself, and think things out clearly. When confused, I pray over it to make a sound decision. However, my best confidante aside from my two kids is my husband. But when I'm stressed because of him, I talk to him personally...see if we can meet halfway. My greatest source of stress these days are household chores which are non-negotiable since we don't have a househelp now...like right now, I just finished cleaning the yard and washing my uniform. After eating, here I am in front of the computer mylotting, before I do some school work.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
6 Sep 07
Thanks Psyche49f for taking part in this discussion :) And thanks for the new ideas you have given me, which I might try in my fight with the stress
@eachen2002 (889)
• United States
5 Sep 07
It's really hard not to let it get to me and I excercise to try and keep some of it down but it's not easy.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
5 Sep 07
hi Eachen2002, thank you for responding in the discussion :) and it defnitely isn't easy to do. maybe you could try the joga thing too?
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
6 Sep 07
Hi I_LUV_U, and thank you for the contribution in this discussion :) And yes, music could work wonder, and I love listening to some jazz and soul while working. It doesnt help me feel less stress however. It does when i stop working and listen to music while closing my eyes and relaxing with the sound...
@devilliers7 (63)
• South Africa
4 Sep 07
You must keep one thing in mind - stress is necessary to keep us going. But it is once you do not know how to channel your stres when problems start. So during a normal working day I have a build up of stress but the problem is I cannot vent it all. The solution? For an hour or so I hit the key board of my computer writing about anything that come to mind. Believe me it is very therapeutic for me. The benefit of this is that I have started my own website where I just publish these things I write. If you are interested visit me at www.freewebs.com/hendriklive
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
4 Sep 07
Hi Devilliers, thanks for responding here. And I said from the beginning thatthere is good stress, and that I am specifically referring to the one which is bad for us. Your way wouldn't help me (releaving me from the stress) as all of my stress is for the most part due to the 100's of sites I have and am managing on daily bases. At times I wish I had but a few only to write on and take care for. Good luck with yours :)
@gapeach65 (805)
• United States
4 Sep 07
I've been looking for a way to cope with my stress level, it's been awful lately, way above where I know it should be. In the past 6 months, I have had to deal with 4 deaths, and 4 memorial services, including my mother's passing 6 months ago, which makes it so much worse for me. That on top of a court battle with my ex husband over unpaid child support, and my son not graduating with his class in May. My son's also been in two car accident's in the past 3 weeks (one where he broke his nose and sprained his back-that was scary, when they said they were going to x-ray his back). I haven't been able to cope too well, I do ok some days, but I break down or have panic attacks on others. My family knows right now that I'm over stressed so they know to either just be there for me or to steer clear of me. I've been a little irritable, and can cry at the drop of a hat. I have just started to get up and get out more or just keep busy so I don't think about things. This is also a bit of a stress reliever in it's self. Thanks for letting me vent.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
4 Sep 07
Hi Gapeach65, thanks for taking part in the discussion. You really have had too much of stress and pain lately. Follow your heart and do whatever that makes you feel better, whatelse can I add. That yes, depression is stressful too, but there are ways to fight this one too. Good luck dear friend, and you're welcome to vent - if it helps even a bit :)
@Rajni9 (52)
• Mauritius
4 Sep 07
i think what is more stressful is finding ways to release that daily stress. u feel more irritated when u realise that u are not able to expel it all out. Since i joined teaching i had my skin allergy aggravated to such an exten that i passed out - thankfully not at work. the doc said stress! i started yoga stuffs especially the breathing techniques but i'm not sure enough if i am doing it the right way or if it is working. the frequentcy of the outburst has decreased though.. maybe u can try the breathing things.
it is the breathing in & out with some other such exercises..
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
4 Sep 07
Thank you Rajni9, and I hope the joga will help you cope better with the stress you are experiencing now. I will start with joga shortly too, and hope it will have the needed effect on me too :)