My husband is driving me crazy

girl that is because when it comes to those thing mean never ever want to be told that they are doing something wrong! men are hard headed. why honey i have no idea. but i could only imagine what that must be like. thank goodness my man is not handy and doesn't like to fix and build things.

Your husband is a control freak and seems to be very insecure, which is probably why you're not allowed to have any input whatsoever. It's not bad to have your own say, never think that. He's the one that needs to be willing to listen. It really sounds like you two should go to some marriage counseling together if you want this marriage to work out; because right now, the relationship isn't a healthy one at all.

Oh I totally understand what you are saying mine does just about the same thing.. I simply ignore him in the most part.. I too get frustrated when he does the same.. I just say let him do what he wants and you do what you want.. That was he won't drive you crazy and vise versa... I am not saying you are driving him crazy in anyway but maybe that is the reason why he's doing this... Just never know.. All I can say is ease down some and relax and soon enough things will work out! I hope this helps!!

Some men are like that...I think it goes hand in hand with asking for directions. They just can't accept that they might need some assistance. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

Some people just HATE being told what to do and how to do it! I happen to be one of those people and apparently your husband is too. Some of us just prefer to learn things the hard way. I can't say why. Just plain stubbornness, I guess. He probably sees your "advice" as "criticism". Most everything is a matter of perception. You're perception is that you are trying to "help" him. His perception probably is that you are either trying to "control" him or "crititicising" him. As difficult as it is for you, I really suggest you try biting your tongue a bit more often (even if it hurts). One thing I've found is that marriage is definitely comprimise and somethings we have to do things that are against our nature, to show our mate that we love them for who they are, not who we want them to be.

for me you should really ventilate your sentiments.,just a one on one talk with your husbands.,both of you make some rules like no shouting or nagging or fretting over past incidents during your talk.,good luck to you

better get rid of him so that ui can be a happy in future.

Well I do not blame you for not saying anything I made that mistake for 21 years and then I got divorced for many reasons but I think you need to sit him down and talk to him tell him this can not go on I hope you get it sorted

Hmm !! a serous problem but quie a frequent and common problem among married couple. The thing is that your husband wants to prove his superiority in front of you and if u think , its not even that wrong, being the head of his family he feels to be his reponsibility to make it feel everyone that he is capable enough to take every decision of his own and give them all the full comfort

I used to constantly question why in the heck my husband was doing things the way he was. He is not a handyman and, while some things seem to come easily to him, most don't. I used to do what you do. I would look up the info then go out and explain why he should be doing what he was doing a certain way. He hated it and actually did the opposite of what I said. It wasn't good. I have been married 23 years and now, if he does ANYTHING, I am happy. I don't even look at how he does it or else I will start and he will turn into a 3 year old and do the opposite so I just avoid it all. Just a few hours ago, he and my son took my stove out and put it on the curb. Why? I have no clue. When I asked why he was throwing away the stove, he said he told me two weeks ago we needed a new one. Yes, he did and I have said it for four years but doesn't one usually buy a NEW stove before throwing away the OLD one? Whatever. I would go nuts if I stressed the crazy way he did things. I am sure I also drive him crazy so I suppose that is the secret of long marriages. Drive each other nuts and live with it. Haha.

From my point of view you can have a conversation with your husband sincerely. You tell him your really idea and hope he can understand you. And you tell him his mistake but you should use good tone

Homeflower - I highly recommend "For Better or Best" by Gary Smalley... it's hard to do, but he takes the approach of really, truly loving your spouse as a mechanism to bring about change and a happier marriage. There's a companion book for men - "If He Only Knew" - if you can get your hubby to read it, great. If not - you take the initiative.