Maam, Dear, Sweetie, Honey!

LOL Elusive, do you mean people online or in the real world? I don't mind when a friend on MyLot is calling me dear friend, honey etc, especially if it comes from other women, I think it's sweet. If I hear it from someone in the outside world it makes me unconfortable really, and if I think it seriously bothering than I say so too. But it hasn't happened many times really. TheFortunes

There will be no ma'am-ing me. I hate that. They do say that at stores at times and yuck. The others make me queasy. I much prefer someone to just say "Excuse me..." and ask or tell me what they want to say. No Dearies or Sweeties needed. PLEASE. The Queen works though. Haha.

I really hate when people call me them names.LOL I dont know why it bothers me so much but it does.LOL I like that call me the the queen.LOL Hey if the shoe fits.heheheheh

OMG!! LOL, sorry I do call people Sweetie. I like "sweetie" it sounds to me to be a postitive thing to call someone. In fact I called my youngest that so much that is what she calls her baby dolls. I HATE Maam with a passion, but can't really put my finger on way. Dear and Honey well those two just sound so bland and boring really. So if someone wants to call me Sweetie that is fine, but the rest I could do without. You know my Queen? :oD

Maam I do not mind as it is respectful it is the the other three (and more) which are endearments that irk me, I use endearments, mostly "love", to people I know but not to strangers as I do not want to sound patronizing.

Hah! I use "miss" Elusive! That wasn't on your list! I win the discussion! Plus I love using miss toward females.

Good morning Your Majesty. I hope you are doing well and enjoying the weather. I don't have a problem with people doing this. I do it as well. However, some people really don't like it. I once called a lady 'mate' (I was a supermarket checkout operator) and she really took offence and reported me for something trivial but when she spoke to me she was practically foaming at the mouth. She was so ridiculous it was all I could do not to laugh in her face.

I have been called Miss, and I have been called Ma'am, but not the other names. Mind you I hate being called Girlie. Since I have not been a girl since I was seventeen, I rather resent that. I think Ma'am is okay, at least it is better than Madam that insinuates that you run a cathouse. With Miss, I wonder whether I do not look married enough or whether they think no one would have me. Maybe I should shove my wedding ring in front of their face. That might help.

Hi ElusiveButterfly, I really hated it the first time someone called me 'maam,' as to me, it was about my age. I didn't mind being called 'miss,' and once in awhile when I was 'older,' I'd be pleasantly surprised to hear this again. As for the others you've mentioned, I really don't like to be called these in stores, places of business etc., as it sounds patronizing to me. They don't even know me. I don't mind if it's someone close to me, or online, if that's what certain 'friends' call many on here.

I guess it depends on who it is and how they say it. When I was delivering mail there were a couple impossible to please patrons who called me "Missy" and "Girlie" and I really hated that! Also, I remember when people first started calling me "maam" instead of "miss" and I thought, well, I'm now officially "old"...lol I'm in the habit of calling people, especially those younger than me "Hon" or "Honey", it's just kind of something my whole family (the females, at least) does. It's funny but the same word or term of endearment if you want to call it that can sound totally different depending on who's using it! Hey, this is a unique discussion, great job, Elusive! I mean "QUEEN"! lol Annie

LOL, that is so funny, Elusive! I had to laugh when I read this because even though I am now past 60, I still get called "Little Girl" by some people. I just wonder what can they be thinking? I used to have a doctor that always called me that, and I really hated it. I do get called a lot of different endearments, but I could never be that familiar with strangers or people I know casually.

HEHEHE Actually I don't mind miss, dear, sweetie and honey. But don't call me Ma'am, I hate that one. Makes me feel old. My boyfriend never says my name, he just calls me momma, which I don't like either cause I ain't his momma. I call him by his name so why can't you call me by mine. But Queen I like that one! Vicki

Hello! Funny post! *hehe* Everytime I go out I always received this Maam calling and I tell them straight away to not call me Maam as i'm not that old yet...LOL! But I like addressing other women as Miss especially if I don't know their names. It all started in my high school years as we were told to address our teachers as Miss. I seldom call others like here in myLot as sweetie or dear, I only do it when I know that the person is comfortable being called one or when she started it first. I don't actually mind people calling me Dear, Darling or Sweetie if I know them or they're my friends or family. One of my hubby's friend likes addressing his female friends as darling, when I first met him and he called me Darling my eyes rolled! LOL! but then soon I noticed he does it to every female friends of his...so now I don't mind it anymore. The Queen calling? I'm used to it..LOL! as my stepdaughter calls me Queen because she's the Princess....*hihihi* ciao! c",)

NO I DONT GET CALLED BY ANY SUCH NAMES.ITIS USUALLY A mr OR HELLO THERE.IF THEY DO I FEEL SOMEBODY THRUSTED SOMETHING ON ME WHICH I DONT HAVE THE STRENGTH TO DIGEST SUCH NEWS AND I HOPE IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN ALSO.BECOS U DON GET SUCH COMMENTS ACTUALLY!

They call me that quite often. It doesn't bother me at all. I even catch myself once in a while, doing it to someone else.

oh do you mean people that you don't know??? I cannot even imagine people like this calling me honey..it is unbearable..if you don't know me, you can call me miss or madam or as you say, you can politely greet and it is enough to start speaking. I am very shy and I don't like people intruding in my personal space like this. Moreover, I am a true lover of the power of language and I do think that words mean what they say...and so I think that honey or dear mean this and they are properly spoken only when speaking to close and dear people

For us Filipinos it is customary to use Sir or Maam as a sign of respect, so it is not offensive as far as we know. Personally I like it when somebody calls me dear, sweetie, or honey, because I rarely get that sort of thing!

hello Queenie! My mother said it really disturbed her during one of my father's last hospital stays - the nurse assigned to him kept referring to him as honey and sweet heart- (my father also does not like being called such names from a woman other than his bride) and my mother very much out of character told her "please, he is MY honey, not yours" When I was in nursing school we were taught almost from the beginning that you do not use such terms of endearment with patients or residents in a nursing home - because it can be viewed as demeaning and belittling. In my father's case it was just too personal for this woman stranger to be talking to him this way.

People who don't know me don't call me what is listed above. They would call me Sir and I am happy to hear that. But all of my colleagues and my students love to call me jisir and I am happy for this nickname, which was given by one of my students years ago.

it doesnt bother me.i get it very often where they will call me maam,sweety,or honey.i think its just their way of being polite to me so i tend to do it back.now if they called me queen that would be great hehe.