I like someone from work..what should i do...im confuse!!!
By daryljane
@daryljane (3406)
Philippines
October 10, 2007 11:18pm CST
given this pride that i have right now...i still live in the old MARIA CLARA tradition filipino have for women..although there are lots of time that i already wanted to go and push my luck..
for one, im also afraid for rejection.
Ok, heres the situation...
theres this guy at work that i like. Were not friends..He's new in the company. But one of my groups of peers is his family freinds. Weve been introduced a lot of times already, but when were both in the same room, i am the silent one which is way opposite from my true self when he's not around. And YES he knows that i like him, he smiles at me though.
I dont know, i dont want to take the first step to talking to him. im afraid of rejection. what if he doesnt like me...we cant dmand that on someone else..i want it to come naturally...oh well..
what should i do guys...
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16 responses
@mummymo (23706)
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11 Oct 07
Well we are all different sweety but pride and fear can really get in the way! maybe you should try talking to him a little and get to know him as a friend and decice where to go from there? My other half and I used to work together and became friends for about 6 months before we got together and we have been together for over 10 years now! You don't have to be too forward sweets - just be approachable - men are afraid of rejection too you know! xxx
@mummymo (23706)
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12 Oct 07
Don't be so hard on yourself sweetheart - we all feel and act like that sometimes! Reading some of your other responses I notice that you are usually with a lot of friends laughing and joking when he sees you - that can be very intimidating even for someone who is very confident! Try sending him an email - just asking if he is ok and that you just wanted to say hi - if you don't hear back from him could it feel any worse than the wondering what if, like you are right now! xxx
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
i see..thing is, we do have outlook so we can send out emails to all employees..i can start from that..but what if he doesnt reply..should i take it that he really dont like me.
i hate myself...im 28 and im acting like this...OMG!
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@shadowing (308)
• Malaysia
11 Oct 07
Hi Daryljane.
Sorry friend but I wonder how you know that he know you like him? You never speak with him before.
Well well, if you don't want to take the first step, then just don't take, let him be the one to speak first.
Anyway, I feel that when things are just right, they will just happen automatically. I mean, we don't need to teach you how to move or what to move, knowing him is a fate and it doesn't need a script and fixed dialogue for it, right?
It is going to be fine. Just be who you are in front of him. I mean a simple sentence like,"Taken your lunch?" will be more than enough if you want to speak with him.
All the best!
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
i like this one..thanks for this.
actually, one of my groups of peers at work happened to know as family friend. i didnt know, me and my big mouth, when he passes by, i just said it right then that i like him, the my friend made a joke out of it and told him to piss me of..of course thats for fun and i didnt get pissed :d
anyways, youre right, i guess i shouldnt be doing anything..ill just wait for him to do the first move..if not, then i think he really doesnt like my anyways..right?
@shadowing (308)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 07
Hi friend. Why not you just put it this way, just try to be as natural as you can and just be you. If he like the natural you, then it's good. If he didn't act, maybe he is not the one. I mean fate will bring everything to you, don't worry. Anyway, I mean from my feeling, I personally feel that you are someone who are very nice and sweet, I don't really think he can stay away from you. Haha.
Take care and good luck.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
19 Oct 07
i agree..right now, im not pushing the issue too much..its ok though if its not going to work the way i wanted it to be...i am still enjoying myself...
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
19 Oct 07
yeah..im definitely working on making more money here..thanks a lot! :d
@kornordie (119)
• Romania
11 Oct 07
well...uhm...what have you got to lose??...you guys aren't even friends...don't talk to eachother...I think you should try getting into conversations with him...find out what he likes to do...where he likes do go...so that it would be easier to start a conversation...and if he realises that you really like him and he likes you back, then I'm sure he'll probably ask you out...and if not, cuz he's shy...but he does give you some signs that he likes you...then I guess you should tell him you like him...there's no shame in that...I hate it when women think only guys should ask girls out...that's just bull...so I say...you have nothing to lose...if nothing...you still had fun ;)
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
oh..thanks for that..ok, ill take my chances..let me just start gathering my courage...here it goes...
@daveisdavid (878)
• Singapore
12 Oct 07
You can get to know him better by organising group outing including him if you're shy. Since he smiles at you, it shows that he doesn't dislike you and it's a good sign.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
that is about to happen my friend. in a week time, our common friend will be having a bday bash and both of us are invited..so i guess, ill have to wait and see what happens next. thanks!
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
12 Oct 07
Goodness sake Daryl, just GO FOR IT!! If you get rejected it happens. I'm thinking it won't happen though since you both seem to know each other and the guy seems alright. Plus you should make things clear, even with signals guys still have trouble reading what's going on. Just ask one of my high school classmates, he got suspended because some girl sent a whole bunch of signals but supposedly he "misinterpreted". Knowing the girl in question I still say 'foul play' to that...
Sorry to trail off. Just be honest with yourself and with him.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
hi there theprogammer..actually, few emails exchanges are happening and i think ill be contented with that for now..lets see what will happen tomorrow..:d
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
11 Oct 07
From experience, it's never a good idea to date a guy from work. If it turns out badly, it's a really awkward situation.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
19 Oct 07
oh..if ever, hope mine doesnt end that way...but judging by the things happening in my company, im already planning to leave in a year time..so no worries..:d
@southernpixie (741)
• United States
11 Oct 07
If it wouldn't interfere with your job, I say go for it! Get to know him better and become friends first and then see where it leads.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
i thinks thats a good way to start things..be friends first right? anyways, its not going to interfere our jobs in anyway though.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
not this company. as long as you take calls and not loiter around, no ones going to mind you.
about if in case we break up, this is big company with at least 3 doors large rooms where we can choose to stay..its not necessarily we stay in the same station for the rest of our stay here..i think that would be fine. :)
@navtech (1773)
• India
11 Oct 07
Dear daryljane, Keeping your friendship the way now you are keeping. In case he likes he would definitely take a necessary step to find out your interest. Wait. Do not rush things. Let the relationship continue. It will take time to know each others' feeling.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
thats what im doing right now. im taking things slow..thanks for that. i dont want also to keep on pushing myself too far..im really scared of rejection.
@tuayon_san (299)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
Well, since he already knew that you like him.
Maybe he likes you too who knows right.
Since, he knows already abou't your feeling to him
just wait a few days if he will make a move winning
your heart.
Let as see if he will do the first move.
Im sure he likes you too....
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
hmmm...i dont think he likes me..he knows what i feel for him but he didnt made any moves so far..
@claire03 (1443)
• United States
11 Oct 07
well, i think you should just let him come to you or wait till you get close to him or just let the situation make you closer. sometimes if a girl tries to be aggressive in this part, it can turn off the guy also. If you see him again just act and greet him casually thats how things always start. If he feels the same way for you, he will definitely make a move. You can also be friends at first until you get to know each other more. God bless!
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
thats also another reason why i dont get near him because i dont want him to think im too pushy with things and it might turns him off,,thanks guys!
@quiethorse (337)
• United States
11 Oct 07
This rarely ends good because when it falls apart, you still have to work with them. If it's a job you don't plan on staying with forever then I say GO FOR IT! If it doesn't workout, just get a new job.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
yeah..but good thing about our work, we dont deal with each other everyday. in fact right now, we dont see each other that much, not unless we see each other during smoke break and at the lobby..so nothing much to worry.
@Ironguy (7)
• Australia
11 Oct 07
You need to be more yourself seriously us guys like a confident women and that is what you need to be. You don't need to be loud and annoying, just yourself and confident because confident is sexy, you should be sure of yourself and don't let him make you feel less ever. Be yourself always and that is what he will fall for you. I think that you should let him give a chase too, don't be all over him because men like a challenge. Just be nice and polite and you can be funny too just not over bearing. I think you will find that he will come around and open up more too when you do too.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
11 Oct 07
you must go ahead with courage.
look there are two options, either you say clearly and accept what he ays.
Or you can keep mum.
He can accept and reject you.
In worst possible case if he also rejects you,
there is notyhing you can do. But he will know you like him.If you keep mum, then also you acn't get his love.
In that case you have to wait if he tells you himself.
My advice will be go ahead and tell him.
He can accept too.
Best of luck.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
Maybe just be natural, when you see him, I know the feeling of excitement when you see him that's why sometimes you feel you can't talk to him because of nervous hehehe. But if you act like naturals to him the way and actions you do just talk to him like a new friend constant talk can be a way of being close together, maybe he is also afraid to talk to because he has also a feelings to you. Me, I through believe if it is your destine to be with him it is yours. Goodluck friend.
