Do you think today women have as much freedom as men have?
By nidhi_bansal
@nidhi_bansal (106)
India
October 11, 2007 5:57am CST
Do you people think today women enjoy same rights as men.I dont think so.Today also women are bound not free.After marriage they cannot have guys as their friends,they cant talk with their friends,they have to listen a lot from their father-in-law or mother-in-law if they even are caught talking with certain men.They have to do each and every household work,children responsibility is only theirs.
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9 responses
@coolmailraj (2460)
• India
11 Oct 07
Hi.
I do agree with you. But not only after marriage,even before they got married and all the responsibilities of the family and children they are not thought to be moving around or living life as freely as a boy can. I mean they are supposed to be in doors for most or even all of the evening, they are supposed to be back home straight after the classes and all that but boys can do anything.
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
12 Oct 07
Pfft. Not in all cases. Many times the guy works 1.5 times longer outside the home than women on average. Plus after working 9, 10, 11, 12 hours in a day many guys don't have the energy to do a thing besides work and sleep. All for the sake of their families by the way. Add 30, 40 or even 50 years of doing this and you have a much different portrait men have to fit. And before I forget, the icing on the tombstone is during or after working 9-12+ hours a day for 40 years some guys have to hear from either their wives or from society they still aren't doing enough! -_-
I'll save the instances of cheating and divorce for another time.
@kitty1234 (1476)
• United States
11 Oct 07
I come from America and here women are given the same rights as men. Women are free to have friends, work, talk to whomever they please. Women were not always free here but early in our culture, women stood up for themselves and became free.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
12 Oct 07
And depending on how deep you look, men are now becoming not so free, at least when it comes to marriage.
@ajrox1810 (992)
• India
11 Oct 07
Actually not. If you go to deep research, you will find that women are still being exploited.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
12 Oct 07
And if you go do some deep research you'll find that men are being exploited as well.
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
12 Oct 07
I live in Australia, and I know most Western countries are the same -
Here women do have the same rights as men, after marriage, or in a defacto relationship, we are still free to have male friends, as well as continue to spend time with our female friends.
Generally, our partners share the household chores and responsibilities, and we are able to continue with our own work and careers even if we have a family and home to maintain.
We are very much equals as a whole, even though there are still individuals who don't believe women are entitled to such rights, or controlling partners who don't allow us to have our own lives.
Now more than ever, women's lives are their own and we can make the choices regarding our futures, our career, family, behaviour and so on.
We're not the property of our fathers, boyfriends or children unless we so choose to be.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
12 Oct 07
Got some points Malyck. But just like you mentioned some individuals don't believe women are entitled to such rights, I'd say some individuals, parts of society and even laws are set up to screwball men. Its some pretty deep and sick stuff and its everywhere, one needs a bit of a perspective adjustment to see it though. I'll have to make a collection of events, cases, personal experience so I can have a one stop basic resource area for things like this.
@shanuri123 (126)
• India
11 Oct 07
You are right. today also, women don't have as much freedom as men. Certain things like talking to the people, buying watever we wish, enjoing the life in our own way all these things are not possible after marriage in India. But, being an woman i feel that, for the marriage to last long, to maintain the peace in the family and to bring up our children in a proper way women need to sacrifice a lot in her life. otherwise there is no meaning in the word family.
@shadowing (308)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 07
Hi nidhi_bansal. Personally, I am sorry but I am not quite agree with you. Haha. I mean we are not a must to live with his family, right? I mean after we get married we can stay away. Well, in relationship, I require a fair treatment. If he wants me to stop knowing guy friends and not even talk to them, I will make it ONLY IF he can do the same way to my girl friends. If he stop mixing and knowing new friend, then maybe I will consider of giving up too. Haha. Anyway, I don't really like this concept as a lady can't speak to others once after the marriage, if he is this kind of person, guess I will never marry him.
Well, housework, no, to my family, it's the responsibility of all, I mean my dad has to work for it, we children have to and mum also. And, children, I don't think is only mom's responsibilities, I mean my dad did bear the responsibility in educating us. Well, it's just my situation. Hope I didn't distract you.
@nidhi_bansal (106)
• India
15 Oct 07
Ya you are right,this should be the situation.But it doesnot happens practically.Here your in-laws make large promises before marriage but donot obey them once you get married.If you do everything acc to your own wish,they create quarrels in house and matter reaches to divorse.You can live alone but who suffers is your children.And today i have seen most of cases where ladies suffer just for the sake of their children and hence donot prefer divorses.Situation becomes even worse for housewives.
@shadowing (308)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 07
Sigh, yea, I am quite agree with that. It's why I used to say mother is always someone that is really great!!
Anyway, what to do? It is what we call LIFE. Haha.
@southernpixie (741)
• United States
11 Oct 07
In the US, I think that women have just as much freedom as men. I'm not sure what its like in other countries though. I am married and I talk to who I want, when I want. I don't think that women should become "prisoners" once they are married.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
12 Oct 07
Those are fair points. But I've seen both women and men become prisoners in their marriages. I've also seen a lot of nasty things too when it comes to the subject.
@rochel1011 (63)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Oct 07
hey I totally respect your view,but i think its situational.Its depends to a great extent on your surroundings and culture and various other factors.
