Dealing With Anxiety

Hi Ravenladyj, I'm glad you have people to help you get through tough times, i wish i had someone to help me go through situations that make me have panic attacks and stuff like that, i am always alone with this situations no one really lives close to me to help, my friends dont understand the situation so i have to deal with my problems alone most of the time :(

I hear what you are saying..I didnt always have ppl to get me through, not by a long shot. In fact its only been the past few yrs that i've had ppl there for me but for the 20 yrs before that I didnt have anyone and as a child sadly the situations where made worse by my family becuase they found it amusing and would taunt me etc.... Try training yourself to do deep breathing, in through your nose, fill your lungs slow and steady and out through your mouth slow and steady...Generally if you do this BEFORE going into a situation it should help and if you are in a situation where a panic attack is beginning, take a step away from the commotion (outside, into the bathroom or other room, down a hallway like when you are in the mall etc etc) and do the deep breathing thing...also you should try and train yourself to talk yourself down from an attack...not easy but very doable... not that its any of my business but do you mind my asking what your attacks stem from (you dont have to answer by any means of course)? For me its the child abuse and rapes I went through and my lack of trust in ppl and the fact that when I'm in a crowd unless my back is against the wall I feel unsafe/vulnerable and can be easily attacked from behind...If you can figure out or already know where your attacks stem from then that will help a great deal... Feel free to PM me if you like and I'll help out any way I can :-)

Hi HighflyingXangel, I do the exact same thing as you, i make things seem so much worse than they actually are i analyze it too much and it makes me fear it more and more, if i actually do contront it and do what im fearing its isnt so bad once i get past the first initial stage of meeting up or getting to the place but the feeling it makes me feel just makes me not want to do it, its so horrible i just dont want these feelings anymore :(. Thanks for the comment.

hi babs_s im glad your anxiety doesnt effect you as much as it used too, i too have calmed it down a bit but i still get anxious really easy and it makes me avoid allot of situations because i just cannot deal with it. I will hopefully wont have too much of a wait for cognitive bahavoural therapy as i really do need some help curing this its really effecting my health and life style. Thanks for your comment.