What is the biggest bone of contention between genders?

Power. Just look at the current gender debate. Its not about freedom, its not about equality, its about power. Its also about making one gender more equal than the other (props to anyone who gets where that statement is from). Depending on where you are, there is also a strong contention point when it comes to relationships and marriage (and with the latter divorce). Things have become quite horrific but not many people see it. And once again, its all about power its all about my first point.

In my view the biggest bone of contention in all relationships is people's inability TO GET OVER THEMSELVES and accept people for who they are. In my work as a journalist, reporter, life coach and group leader conflicts between men and woman do have a base in 'power struggles' for sure. I also read your response about ancient archetypes that resonate into our current society. The fact that most references to Goddess Deities have been removed from religious frameworks is a big clue that the men are not willing to have woman as equal partners. So no argument on that one. However, as I mentioned above the most difficult thing for most people to learn is to accept and honor differences...and men and women are different and thankfully so!LOL Women say they are in love but admit to their gal-pals that they will 'change him' into her own image of the perfect mate after they are married. Hellllooo...the best way to make an enemy is to try and change someone. In my view the inability to accept and work through differences on either side is the biggest bone of contention between the genders...and believe me in the work we do we've had lots of opportunities to develop this point of view. Couple counseling is just one dimension to what we do...but the dynamics with the intransigent polarizing views that men and woman have of each other happens in other areas of life as well. Another interesting topic...you sure do keep them coming. Good job...good site! Thanks my friend.. Raia

hey remember me u called me a feminist good that you gave me an honest answer but believe me i am not I just wanted to give my opinion i think you got it the other way i am not trying to tell that its always men that are wrong women also are wrong you cannot clap with one hand all i know is don't try controlling eachother try and understand eachother A problem is not important in life but how u solve it is important and how u see eachother is not important but how you look at different things together is important I have a son and a daughter sometimes they try to dominate eachother i just tell them to do their work and don't try to pick on eachother and that solves the problem

thank you for responding that i am a feminist but let me tell you that i am not i was just trying to tell that if people don't interefere with eachothers work and don't try and control eachother then the problems will be solved i didn't mean it for men only it is for women also men have to work and women have to nurture and care and if we do this i think there should be no problem

It is not about who wants to be top dog, whether man or woman. Only feminists think that way, nor whether to lead or follow, or whether the man should rule outside and the woman should rule the household. The biggest are natural household things, such as he thinks eating meat and potatoes makes one healthy, while she thinks veggies, fruits, and salads are healthy and not as costly. The other things are the toilet seat that he wants up while she wants down. (how much farther do you have to bend if you are in a hurry?) the toilet paper sheets according to man must go over, while under according to woman. He squeezes the toothpaste in the middle, while she squeezes at the end. He uses four pots while she uses one in cooking. I do not know how long any of this has gone on.

Each one thinks that he/she is wiser than the other gender.

the main source of conflict between sexes is the EGO and and trying to control each other and having domaiaian over each other

I think it is because men are from mars and woman are.... well, better. Just kidding. If we never had conflict we wouldn't get any work done, we would be to busy lovin' LOL