My husband and video games!

my husband also love to play game, but he did that if he feel stress or nothing that he can do anymore (means all works are done...) If there are good movies or good tv programes he will finish the game, and he better choose watching tv with me. I think my husband still not addicted with games, because he still can arrange the time, and usually he play games until late in the weekend. And if I told him to help me, he must be do it for me first!! LOL

How long have ya'll been married, allenmatt?? My husband and I are together for almost five years now, and I remember at the beginning, how infuriating his video game addiction was to me! I 'ran away' from the house one day to get his attention on me and away from the games, but when I showed back up to the house about two hours later, he had barely noticed me being gone!! So, I understand your frustration, but there ARE things you can do to help, and it CAN get better. There have been many good suggestions made, but I'd like to also say that men do need the 'release' that video games provide. At the same time, you can place some minor restrictions that don't seem like you're 'grounding him'. :-) For example, since he's staying up so late, you can try to get him to come to bed when you do saying that you miss him being in bed with you. This worked with my husband - for awhile, at least! lol Another thing I've done with my husband, on his days off, he would like to spend the whole day playing, but if I know he has stuff that needs to be done (errands, cleaning, etc), I make sure that he doesnt pick up the controller until it is all done...it's just as if men were children when it comes to their video games!! :-) Good Luck!! ~Issa~

My bf tend to do that a lot its a bit annoying when there are things to be done but other than that it does not bother me at all

I too am a wife of an addict. He plays and plays. Sometimes he does the online games and he yells at the TV. He gets beat by a bunch of kids and he hates that he is not as good as them. It is like being married to a kid. I finaly told him that he could not play until the kids were down. It has cut back a bit, we will see what happens later.

We're not married yet but my boyfriend plays video games all the time like that too! Granted, we are living at my mom's right now so he has nothing else to do really, but still! What is it with men and video games?? Frankly, video games BORE me!

Well since I'm only getting your side of the story I guess I have to work with it. If you don't like him playing as much talk to him about it. What would you rather have him do for entertainment? Try not to make him do something not entertaining during his freetime. You wouldn't want him trying the same thing on you. Also be considerate of this issue as long as it is within reason. Again, you wouldn't want him complaining about you spending too much time on a hobby or two.

If the amount of time your husband spends playing video games bothers you or causes other problems in life or your relationship, you two really need to sit down and talk about it. My husband loves his video games and plays them a lot, but it rarely causes a problem. The few times is does cause a problem is when he says he going to come to bed at a certain time and plays for hours after that. We've talked about it, though, and it hasn't happened for a long time. I'm on the computer a lot and the computer and tv for video games are in the same room, so we still spend time together while doing our own thing. I help him with parts he's stuck at either by having played the game before myself or by finding help online. We also have some 2-player games that we play together, which is always fun.

Well you could do what my wife used to do. Grab the other controller & challenge him. She'd select some girl character & mine would end up with a halibert between his nuts. It was the only move she could pull off but she used it well. I couldn't do anything without catching a sword in the sack. If only it would have let me invest in an armor plated cod piece... There's nothing wrong with joining in.

Ahhh, it sounds to me like you are an "Xbox Widow" also! LOL My hubby does the same thing. He even bought a flat panel TV to hang next to our other TV so he can play and I can still watch what I want to. It used to drive me nuts, but now that I work from home at night it's kinda nice. He plays his game and I work. Look on the bright side allen, the gaming may drive us crazy but there are alot of other habits they could have that would be 10 times worse. At least they are home and not out in the strip clubs!

Ladies, ladies, trust me when I say its a good thing. As long as he's not so glued that he's missing work or forgetting to pick up the kids, etc, its a good thing. A man glued to the console has no time for real vices. Why don't you get him to teach you how to play a his favor two player game? Won't that be interest? (Caution, don't pick one you can actually beat him in, it could turn ugly...)

My husband does not play video games but we have had discussions about people that we know that are addicted to them. My husband says that if a man would rather be glued to a video game instead of spending quality time with his family then his priorities are definately messed up. Maybe you could suggest removing the video game or limiting usage for a trial period and see what happens.