why are men such jerks

How can you even generalize such a thing? you may have a bad boy friend but that doesnt make all boys bad. I have seen a lot worst thing done by a girl than this ok!! and unfortunately it happened to me so i can actually write saga's about how bad girls are..... but i wont coz she was bad, that doesnt make everyone bad!!! there isnt anything like bad men or bad women, good women or good men, the truth is there are just bad people and good people!!!!

I'll admit some guys have their flaws. But unfortunately I have to say that women have them too and what you posted can easily apply to them as well. Some women think and act the same way you described. I've seen women act like real kids. I've seen and read cases where women act sadistic and manipulative. Both of those are because the women want it their way all the time and are not opposed to using any dastardly tactic to get it. Some in fact were either subconsciously or openly programmed like this by society, parents, media, etc. I've seen some want to be with friends more than the person they supposedly love. As for your specific case, I'm sorry you had to deal with that, but these things do happen. Don't let it get the best of you though. You've got your own life to live and if you want you may find someone worthy to share it with.

I do have to agree with cashcashcash! The reason your boyfriend didnt want to spend time with you is because he is imature like most of them. I do agree they are like that because of the way they were raised. For example my husband doesnt know the meaning of the word NO. He does what he pleases. He must have been spoiled rotten.

Okay, it does suck that he is not making an effort to be with you for the 2 days before you go, but your complaint is that men want things the way they want them and here you are just saying that you are not getting things the way you want them. My feelings would be hurt if my girl didn't want to spend the last two days with me before I went away for 16 months, and that is the way I would want it. If she wanted to do something else I would be upset because I wasn't getting things my way too.

Well I guess that sometimes we have bad luck in meeting men. I do admit that I know a lot of boys that are real jerks and think way to highly of themselves. At the same time I have met really nice guys; sometimes they just don't understand that it really means a lot to us if they spent some quality time. It's the trouble with boys, but it's something we all learn to live with!

I highly agree to your discussion. My husband when we first met, he was the sweetest guy. Now all he wants to do is watch tv and hang out with his friends than spend any time with me. We constantly fight over when we will get to spend time together. He even complains about going out to dinner with me, he'd rather have a guys night without women interrupting them. to top it off we'll be marring a whole year in december, and he is never around to begin with. He is in the military and gone constantly.

I've been married for almost 9 years now. My husband is pretty simple, yes you give his way he's happy. (Which is pretty simple give him a game and he'll play for hours) But when he don't get his way he acts like a child but then when I point it out he goes back to being an adult and takes it like a man and goes back to his games. Me on the other hand I'm no that simple I was raised on getting what I wanted when I wanted it. I might throw my little fit once in a while (which makes him laugh, plus my kids) because I do I have a problem of jumping up and down, and stomping through the house. We all have our little things, but I would be upset if my husband or boyfriend didn't want to spend the last couple of days with me. I hope everything works out for you :)

I have had some bad experiences with men to be sure but I refuse to base my opinions of men on the handful of experiences i've had. neither should you. to do so would most surely bring an onslaught of men describing their bad experiences with women and judging the whole species based on that. I found that what was most helpful was for me to really pause and wonder what it was about me that not only attracted these types of men but why did I put up with what other women would have run from?

cashcashcash, I'm not a girl but please allowed me to comment ok. What you had thinked about is also what most of men thinked. We (men) always think woman is the hardest to understand creature sometime. Most men want woman to do what they want, I saw this as a possibility that he had a bad experience before. Let me say sample, there are men that didn't allow his girlfriends hangout with guys because he had experiences that his last girl friend is cheating. So what I'm trying to say is, please, try to understand, you'll have good feedback from him. Maybe he is just too cares about you. Men like to acts that he should protect you, take cares of you, some men did this and they think that is the best thing they could do. But I think, this kind of man will make his girl thinked that he is over-protected. Am I right? Let me show you some tips, men need times to be spended with his friends sometimes. You can't just ask him to accompany you everyday especially for a whole day, come on.... If you don't love him, he'll trying hard to get your heart while you try loved him, he'll try to leave you. What do you think?