my bf is 16 and im 20 ewww ^_^
By shai_aguirre
@shai_aguirre (26)
Philippines
November 1, 2007 10:56pm CST
hi there this is Shai!
Well i'd like to share this to you, and please give your advice. (I will not blame you promise^_^)
I have a 16 year old bf and he's so handsome and super talented, i really like him and love him also hahaha! We used to go to different places and were always together, i loves him just the way he is, but i have a little problem, he is a 1st year college student. We used to go to restaurants and beaches and spend a lot of money but you know what? I always spend a lot of money when i was with him because im the one who dpend money for our dates and travel, sometimes i understand but most of the time im not happy with that setup.
What will i do? Do i need to spend money for him because i have the capability? Do i need to spend because i love hte person? Please i need your advice (i love him) ='(
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23 responses
@yukinolin926 (6)
• United States
3 Nov 07
Hi there~Dating a boy whose younger than you is a really popular things around the world now~And I really think that is really sweet as long as you love each other. Since he is a freshman of the collage, I think he should take the money issue as his rebonsbility now. I suggest you sit down and talk to him about this. If he really loves you ,I think he will agree it with no question.
@jharish2k4 (416)
• India
2 Nov 07
Your answer is there in your discussion itself dear. You say you love him and i don't think there is a question of who spends when loved ones are together. Do you think your guy wont spend on you if he's earning? If you truly love him this discussion would never have arised. So i guess you need to know if its lust or love you have on him!! No offense please. i wrote what i felt!! Have a gr8 day!!
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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2 Nov 07
this age fascism really annoys me. Im 46 , my wife is 39 and my girl friend is in her fifties, what you have to remember is that age is but a number, we have to assess people as people, not as a number, hasve fun with your toy boy
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
2 Nov 07
Hey s_a,
I don't think the money is the real issue-more importantly your bf is only 16 & you are 20-I think it would be different if he were 20 & you were 24 but he's got alot of growing up to do don't take that away from him.These years are very important & you should at least let him be free to date other ppl if he wishes.
+'s |:)
ps
If he's always in need of money that's a red flag -sounds like a gigalo |:(
@spiderlizard22 (3444)
• United States
2 Nov 07
Its legal to go steady. As long as the realtionship is platonic it is legal. It is technially legal for a 50 year old man to have an 8 year old girlfriend as long as their realtionship is platonic.
@saphire539 (1639)
• United States
2 Nov 07
Try and plan outings where it won't cost you a lot to go on and budget your money.There are lots of places you can go to spend time together that won't even cost you anything.Good luck
@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
what will you expect about this, the boy has no work , he is only a student and dependent from his parents, common girl wake up, you cannot expect too much from him. if i were you i will not spend money to that boy. if i were you i will look for somebody who is capable, lets say a man with a good and stable job.
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
2 Nov 07
Well it actually should be the guy providing for the dates I would assume. That would be ideal, but it also depends on circumstances. If you love him despite all cons of the situation then I would expect that you are ready for the consequences for this kind of a setup. And if you do love him really then money won't be an issue.
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
2 Nov 07
Well it actually should be the guy providing for the dates I would assume. That would be ideal, but it also depends on circumstances. If you love him despite all cons of the situation then I would expect that you are ready for the consequences for this kind of a setup. And if you do love him really then money won't be an issue.
@xxkennzixx (35)
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2 Nov 07
hi Age is only a number their is only a few years between both of you after all. I think that your money troubles need to be addressed more than the age difference as your bf is a few years younger he is less able to provide but this will change as he gets older mabye you could suggest he do some part time work without telling him its so he can pay his way without feeling like a sponger
@topei12 (272)
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
hi shai,
age doesn't matter as the saying goes. And it's true. My first girlfriend was 3 years older than me. I was 2nd yr high school and she was in 1st yr college. We do go out but not that much. We travel and she at times pay for those occassions but not always.
How about you? does this always happen or has he somehow shown means of paying for your dates? As a guy he should have shown some initiative in paying for most of your dates if not all.
Young persons should show maturity in handling relationships.
@shakirabijin (79)
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
hmmm...I think you are worried right now because of the kind of culture that you have..anyway it really doesn't matter if you spend a lot money than him, it doesn't matter also if you are older than your boyfriend.
Age doesn't matter and money matters doesn't matter what matters most is your love for each other, that you love each other selflessly....
Go Girl! :-)
@pearlineabraham (23)
• India
2 Nov 07
mony is materilistic.... but love isint.... and he's only in the first year.... he cant afford to spend.... if u love with all ur heart and mind.... dont bother about money.....
@anjalisk2005 (1492)
• India
2 Nov 07
hi shai,you sure are confused.but remember he is still a boy-a teenager.he has lot to learn if u keep pampering him like this he will get used to it.so limit ur expenses with him.and give him space to growup.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
2 Nov 07
I think you have some doubt or you are not liking this spending money.
thats why you have asked this question.
Now look, it depends on your priority.
If you think that you should not spend taht much, then you have to take control.
My advice would be that also.
But if you truely love him, then some consideration can be made.
@laurika (4532)
• United States
2 Nov 07
It looks like you are not happy with it and also I am surpriced your boyfriend let you pay everything. Becuase the most time man should be providers for family, or ok for girlfriend and he should invite you somewhere.I understand that he is still student, but he can still get some season job in the summer or when they have vocation from school and get some extra money and share the bill in the restaurant with you.I think it would be fair and you will feel better.Do you know how he feel about it?
@nanclie (73)
• China
2 Nov 07
hi there!i think if you love him very much,you can spend money for him just as you say you have the capability.as he spends money for you,why dont you spend money for him?you say he is a 1st year college student,so the money he spend for you must be earned by him.if so,he is so good to you and why dont you do the same thing to him.but you two love each other much,so no matter who spends the money,both are ok...:
@jamesarmstrong (251)
• China
2 Nov 07
Hi there!
Don't paid for him anymore if you are also charming and talent. And of course you are charming and talent! He is a man, you know, but you make him just like a little brother of yours! if you wanna marry him, you should consider about how to make your love last for a couple of years for you are both young.
@do0dzz (3)
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2 Nov 07
Yes, that's part of loving someone, you must share and give what you have in order for that person to make him happy, money can't buy all, and money can't buy happiness, which is being with to that person, may you should give yourself a time to think whether he loves you or not, think of the consequences and risk that may occur between your relationship, talk to him nicely and tell him what you really feel, coz if that person really loves you, he'll understand. Hope it could help you. Don't forget to ask God's help.
