Should I wait or not wait?

Be careful with this. One can wait, but are you sure he'll wait. Its the same on his end too. I hope you both did really talk about this. If you did and you both plan on taking it seriously then maybe you should wait. But of course, it is your life and you have your own decisions you must make on this. And if you wait, you both must talk seriously about any possible intimate relationship from the sound of his past and the wait involved.

Your heart will tell you what to do. I wouldn't make any decision right now. Just continue writing or emailing and see what happens. If someone else comes along and you feel he is right for you then you will know what you must do. Just leave it to your heart......and it will work out just fine!

I personally would not wait. Two-plus years is a long time to wait for a relationship that may or may not happen. I would date other people in the mean time. You may miss out on the love of your life waiting around. If you are both still single and find that you still have feelings for one another in two years then you can start something then. This is just my opinion.

well,Bethel I think you are in dilemma.. at this point of time you should be wise in making your own decision as this will decide your destiny. You seems to trust the guy, yet afraid that he will ditch you. It all depends on your mutual trust and faithfulness. If your heart really tells you that he is the one for you then I think it's worth waiting that very long.. as the fruit of a long wait is really sweet. I know that you did mention that he came from a broken mariage so it might be hard on his part to forget his past relationship. If he can't then it's better that you forget him 'cause he will not be able to serve both.. and you will feel dejected throughout your life not being satisfied with his love.I's quite natural that he won't be able to make you happy if he has someone else in his heart.You should be knowing better since you are the one who spends time with him... you can judge better.But hey! don't be upset...everything is a destiny and of course our own choice too. So pick it up.

how could you trust a word from a guy? if you come up a better guy, just date with him, forget Iraq! He will find a lover later. what you should do is being yourself.

Hi,there! Well,I understand exactly what you're worried about and what you're not sure of.I would suggest you just let it go naturally.You can keep in touch with each other but on the other side,you can still have your own life.If you meet sb who you love and you feel is more suitable,moreover,you're at the same place which means that he could take care of you much more easily,then you can start this relationship. If after many years,you still think he's the one that matches you,then you'll see what you guys gotta do at that time. Don't worry too much,just listen to your heart and see what's gonna happen. Best wishes for you and have a good day! I think it's good to speak it out so that you could be more relaxed and get to know more opinions:)

So I suppose this is a long distance relationship, and you are both from different countries as well. In this situation, I would like to look at it as a 50/50 chance. The balance is up to the both of you of what to choose, if you want to continue your relationship and trust each others words or either let it fail without even trying anything at all. If it's a "he says, she says" situation, then I'd go for it but THEN I would not expect too much from it since there is no guarantee that one can keep up to their word or promises..

Before you will decide on anything else try asking him first if he is really determined to commit to his word. If you are convinced by his promise then maybe its worth staying in your relationship. If I was in your position I will ask him to tell me what is his real intention and ask him how determined is he to commit himslef to you. The only who can determine what is good for you is you and your partner because we don't know the real story behind all those apprehensions.

Well, I should say that whether he gives you assurance, there is no guarantee taht he will be yours in time. Even in normal relationship, there is no assurance... even marriages have divorce. Everything is a gamble my friend. And you wont get a definite outcome. What I can say is if you love him, then wait... if along the way you grow tired... then stop. But always keep yourself open. Enjoy your life.

You are thinking if you are waiting in vain or what...flirting among guys is just but natural i think. Try to enjoy being single and not focus your attention to him. Who knows, there's a much better guy for you there. You say you love him, but you can still learn love a guy---a much better man than that one who's keeping you waiting.

you're too fine to have to wait for someone who for 3years and not know exactly if he's serious in what he tells you. Just go with the flow his actions and words will speak loud to you. If he calls you whenever he has time and enjoys being around you then maybe he's serious. You will know goodluck

Checking in on you to see what you decided about your relationship. Armyofficerwife

If he doesn't want to get serious, I wouldn't wait around for him. What says in 2010 he'll be ready?. Most guys who go to war want something serious waiting for them back home. Otherwise it seems he might just be exploring his options... Speaking from experience with military men.

well,i appreciate your struggle to achieve true love...but,if I were you,I wouldn't wait until that time.Maybe my opinions are somewhat negative,in fact,I never think those words said by men should be taken too seriesly...