Do you ever feel like you have to explain or make excuses about your life here?

It has occurred a couple of times where I have had to defend myself. Usually it is against people who have made assumptions about me, or what I have written. They read a statement of mine & then take it all out of context. If I have to defend myself, I do it in a firm, but non-judgemental manner. A lot of the time you can ignore these small minded people.

I find this to be true not only here on mylot, ctry, but also in my everyday life. I don't know why people don't get it when you choose to live your life your way. Granted, your lifestyle might not be everyone else's cup of tea, but it's YOURS. If I am asked my opinion I will give it, but I would not judge you for your choice of lifestyle.

I ignore comments as such if they are in my discussion or one I am responding to. Mainly to avoid a confrontation or whatever. Each person has the right to speak their mind. But they could do it in a more sane and nice way I think. Sorry this has happened to you. I have been fortunate not to experience this as of yet. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

" Think about it!" That is the problem. The people you are talking about don't think about anything but themselves. And the sad part is they won't change. So the only thing to do is report them and they will be banned if they don't stop.Everyone has the right to voice their opinions but they don't have the right to be demeaning or rude.Ctrymuziklvr, don't worry about those idiots, you friends here like me.I always enjoy your posts.Take Care.

To me my lie is my personal things and it is my prerogative whether pr not I need to explain to anyone about it. I suggest that you just ignore the rude people and stick with lots of other friendly members here. Have a nice day and don't worry too much about what other people may think of you.

Nope. To be blunt and honest, I don't know anyone on here and I don't care what anyone thinks of me. I mean, that's not to say I don't like people on here, cause I do! But there are some people that I just really don't like at all or know at all and I just don't feel like I should have to defend myself. I mean, I don't defend myself to anyone really, so why defend myself to strangers. Honestly I think it's pretty funny when people assume crap about me just because of one or two responses that you post. Someone told me I "wet blanketed" a response and that "that says a lot about you!" ha! Whatever. Because I answered in a non specific way that says the WORLD about me doesn't it? Sure, there are some people who you kind of get to know a little about based on their posts, but it's not necessarily who they are and I mean, really what's the point in wasting your time creating preconceived notions about people.. or defending yourself to them?

Well said Sweet I am afraid to many nasty People are on this Site and they will always try and bring you down so don't make excuses for yourself anymore Sweetie as you do not need to it is your Life just ignore them they are not worth it Hugs

"Whatever the case may be nobody has the right to tell someone that their way of life is wrong" Bravo! and so very true...I've been verbally slammed more than once on here for everything from my abortion to the fact that I was a stripper to how I raise my kids and religion....My attitude is "whatever!"...if it helps them sleep at night so be it LOL but if being that way IS what helps them sleep I feel SO SORRY for them..at least I KNOW and the ppl who know me know the truth about me and thats all that matters ya know... MIND YOU I know many ppl online who really DO get affected and seriously hurt by some of the things the less than savoury and narrowminded say and thats just unacceptable! Sadly though those hateful types really don't care if they hurt someone, in fact chances are they LIKE doing it even if they arent aware...why? well, misery loves company and ppl like that live miserable lives...

I have only been attacked once in mylot and I just ignored it. Many people are just ignorant and can miscontrue things. Sometimes like you mentioned they are rude and small minded and no matter what you say, it will not change their minds.

Hi, I am not sure about what happened and to be honest, I am not keen to get entangled in online sparring as well. :P But regarding the topic question, I feel there is no need to justify yourself to anyone. You need to answer only to yourself and perhaps God (if you are religious). And I would suggest you take what others say (especially if they don't sound friendly lol) with a pinch of salt. You came to myLot to enjoy yourself right? So don't let them bother you. Live and let live. Be happy. Cheers.:D

Yes I agree every people live a different life, and think on a different perspective, We're all the product of our past, the past is what shape us into who we are now. personally I often feel there's no use on responding to those who hate us, because when its hate that talking, how good we are will always look bad to them, just like love, when we are deeply in love with someone there's a big possibility no matter how bad they are, we will still love them (and hoping them to change - for some of us) well the point is, don't waste energy fighting them back, take it as an introspective tools to make us a better person, or if what they say is really junk, just leave it :) you know who you are best, don't be bother by what other tell who you are cheers :)

Hello Dear!We all have our feelings and it is not easy to ignore all but as an mature person you have to be strong !During our lives we have to deal with a lot unpleasant thing and with lot of rude person!You know that you have a right to tell your opinion everywhere in anytime!Verbally attack can be much more worse that any other kind!Sometimes I feel that would be better if person punch me!You have a lot of as who are with you and we always be with you!!Be free and tell as your opinion on all topics and any time when you feel that you have something to tell and share with as!!Your friend Silvana

You know I felt this a couple times here too, but for the most part people are very nice to me. I do sometimes come across people whose lives are so very different then mine and their experiences are so very different that we are not likely to see eye to eye about things. I just live my life the way I want and what works for me. A weird one I had today was on a topic I made about Mylot which was all good and someone told me to go pray to Jesus more. I think though one challenge on a forum like this is that conversation is 90% body language which we can't have here. So someone reading my topics don't see me and don't get the full picture of my story. Also it is hard to get everything that is in my brain out it just one post. But I think I kinda did a good job of it on this one. LOL I have now chosen to take what info I like and lump the rest. Some people just want to put others down to feel better about themselves.

I don't know about this. I often am very opinionated and it offends people. I am normally a really chatty person who likes to debate and discuss things though. So for me saying I disagree about something is more like me trying to open up a discussion. This is a discussion board and we are here to discuss. People are bounch not to agree all the time. I do however realize that there are some very rude people out there. I think cursing is uncalled for. I do it a lot in real life but I'm trying to cut down on it.

Unless if I posted something I didn’t mean to then I’ll defend or explain my side but if out of some criticism, I won’t talk. Oh well that’s too bad for you but its okay mylot people just won’t care about some issues too long (I think). As long as you don’t violate mylot rules, stay and have fun. ;)

Those people that make you feel badly like that aren't even worth your precious time or effort hon. It's not their place to pass judgment on you and how you live your life. I've run into a few like that here myself, and unfortunately I gave in to the urge and had it out with them. And all that did was add to my anger and stress. You just keep doing your thing hon, because that's what is most important. Hugs to you my friend.

My Mom always told me that if you do not have something nice to say them just do not say anything at all.I know that i am not on your friends list but i am just answering random questions tonight, because i have answered all my friends so i like to do this sometimes.i am really sorry that you have been verbally attack, by others.I see no reason to be rude to anyone, but some people are, so you just have to over look some people..We all have opinions but that does not make us right.I would not give it another thought if i were you..You are right sometimes we have only a few choices so we just do the best we can.Im really not sure what you are talking about but i can say this all you can do is all you can do.Everyone is not in your situation so they do not know how they would react until they have walked in your shoes.I have found that the older you get the less you care about what others think, you just do the best you can under any situation..So cheer up, things will get better...

I am so sorry that happens to you. I agree with you that those people are very rude and narrow-minded. and yeah, if they don't have something nice to say then they should just shut up. they should know how to respect other people's opinions and views. if you believe on something to be like that, then its your belief and no one can change it unless you permit it. indeed those kind of people are just unfair, if they are opposed to someone else's view, then they at least could say it nicely and not in a condemning or insulting tone. I hope they would change for the better and I hope you won't experience something like that anymore. ^__^

Hello! I honestly don't feel like I have to explain my life or make excuses about it to anybody at all. First, it's my life and it's up to me how I live it, if I don't mess with your life then better not mess with mine. What i'm saying is mind your own life, that's all. But I guess not everybody gets that message, you can't please everybody. I reckon people sometimes should think first before they talk, be considerate. Take care. ciao! c",)

making excuses about your life, simply tells a wise person that you are a failure,great achievers do not give excuses of any kind,rather they accept blame and learn from there mistake.I don't feel like i have to explain anything.