Have you ended with the one you truly love? the person of your dreams?
By cielicesky
@cielicesky (71)
Philippines
November 15, 2007 2:27pm CST
How many of us here ended with the one we truly love? the man or woman of our dreams? Or got married with the person whom we had "given all of ours"? Honestly, I myself didn't end up with the guy i wished for my life to be with. I met a guy whom i wished would have been my lifetime partner. He is a picture of the man i want to grow old, understanding, affectionate, and everything else i was looking for in a man. There are times i feel remorse, but just being thankful that somehow i came to get crossroads with this guy. He changed my viewpoints regarding relationships and he showed me that there is really a silver lining behind the gray clouds. For those who ended up with someone, whom they didn't love truly, isn't it frustrating? BE HONEST! Comparing your present partner with the person you really wanted is inevitable, isn't it? Even if there's the will to make the marriage work out, it can not be denied that deep within you, there's the strong desire for you to be with the person you truly love.
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@marissa0124 (179)
• New Zealand
16 Nov 07
For me, I think I ended up with my true love. My husband's personality is what I really like in a guy. Responsible, Sweet, Thoughtful, Loyal and Very Loving. We are compatible in lots of things. The time he courted me and I said YES, I know in my heart that this is the guy I want to spend my life with. I don't have that feeling with my past relationships. He's really down to earth and very protective of us. We have some fights and misunderstanding but easily fix the same day or a day. I am lucky to have him in my life...=)
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@Jasmine78 (135)
• United States
16 Nov 07
Similar to me! My husband is similar to yours. He is the best gift I'v ever got by God!
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
15 Nov 07
I have no regrets, I was married 3 times, and ended up with my soulmate a year after my last divorce. I was married the last time for 16 years, and stayed with it for all the wrong reasons. But, a year after I left and spent on my own, I learned a lot about me, and when I met the guy I'm with now, we both new within minutes that we were meant to be together, we have been together for 2 1/2 years now. Are we thinking about getting married, not at the present time, nor near future, we have both been down that aisle and are in no rush to go there. As for the others, I look at events in my life as one stepping stone leading to where I am now.
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@alamode (3071)
• United States
16 Nov 07
I have been with Hun for 44 years... I never went out with anyone else. I have only ever wanted to be with him since the day we met. We have been through some terribly bad things in our lives, but we always handle things together. We have always believed that we were meant to be together.
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@Jasmine78 (135)
• United States
16 Nov 07
Yes. Several years ago I lost the guy I dream of almost everyday. He promised to marry me but things got changed because I happened to get much better chance to persue better life than he can. I was very sad and tried to maintain our relationship but ended up with failure. He soon married to another girl. I even sweared that I would use ten years of my lifetime to get the chance to be with him if it was possible. Nowdays I just find I was so childish at that time. Now I have a very good husband and live happily.
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
12 Dec 07
So frustrating- I want to love the person I'm with like I do the one I truly love but I just don't. I can't force feelings even though he's an awesome guy!
I totally compare and while it's not fair it happens maybe not even meaning to happen!
I can shake my desire and life's not over yet so maybe one day if it's meant to be it will sort itself out...I hope
@brimia (6581)
• United States
16 Nov 07
I love my husband. We were together for a long time before we were married and broke up a few times. We always got back together because I believe we were always meant to be together. I can't imagine ever spending my life with anyone else. He's a wonderful man.
@raphael_volts (1131)
• India
16 Nov 07
Hey I don't know whether my partner whom I have as my love right now, is corectly a match of what I dreamt. Actually after meating her I have forgotten of all what I have dreamt. Its not that she is perfect with everything, but whatever she does, I just love it.
I love the way she talks, the way she smiles and even the way she frowns. Actually, all our life, we keep searching for people whom we think are perfect, but for a fact, no one is perfect. Actually all we need awre partners who accept us with all our shortcomings, and to get someone like that you need to be true and ever willing to change.
When you accept others, they become more true to you. Actually when I met my girlfriend first, I don't know how but I felt a speceal chord between us and I was just lost. Now that we are together, the more I have come to know of her good or bad qualities, I have come to love her more, because she has been true to me. She has done her very best to be with me and change herself to help me and keep me happy. I know what all she faces and so I try to be whatever she needs, but sometimes I fall short, Actually a lot of times, that is. But still she loves me and she loves to be with me.
I just want to stay with her and grow old with her. I would never be this stupid that I would ever let her go with any one else until I come to see that some one can even love her more than me, or she could love some one else more than me.
As long as it goes, being stuck with the wrong guy, you can always make it better and loving, with a little bit of love and care from your side. I believe love can change everything.
Take Care
GOD Bless YOU
@kurtbiewald (2625)
• United States
16 Nov 07
hmmmmmmmmm
I'm a really good person.
I have noticed that I am tending to accumulate women.
I can't seem to get rid of them.
hmmmmmmmmmm
actually, there is one woman I fell for pretty badly, luckily she lives in another state and is illiterate , she can text only a little, any she is 90% imaginary at this point, maybe its best that way, someday , after many many mistakes, she will need my help I think
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
16 Nov 07
My husband has the major characteristics or attitudes that I dreamed of my partner to possess. I know he is not perfect just like me but without hypocrisy I would say that I married the one that I love and the person of my dreams. We have the same views when it comes to some important matter but we are also opposite in the others and I believe that make us hitched more. For instance, he is a bit quite person, I am a "talker". But he end up talking to me as long as I want to talk because I always "bug him" around if he is quiet.hehehe..Hubby is an early person but I am a "few minutes rush-in type". We are both NOT a party going, sort of homebuddy type people, very family-oriented and no vices and that's the similarities that we find very important in our relationship. Lastly, we both know "when to loose some more and when to tighten...
@shakirabijin (79)
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
well....I am not yet married right now, and I'm not even in a relationship right now, though I also really want to be with the person i truly love till' my life ends. I want to stay with the person I really love so much and the person whom my heart longs to be with.
As of now, I cannot invest to any lover relationship because I am longing for the person I truly love. Probably I can have a new relationship, If I lose my hope to be with him again.
@Kazashmaza (431)
• Australia
16 Nov 07
I'm not sure if I believe that there is truly only one person that is a soul mate. However I have met the man of my dreams! my boyfriend of a year and a half is amazing. He is my guitarist (I'm a singer) and is absolutely perfect for me! so I guess in a way I have met my soul mate!
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
Boy, I would hate to be your current husband! But if you come to think of it, I think a lot of women end up the way you did. Maybe it's because of the custom that it's the man who pursues the woman, then the woman just chooses from among her suitors. As a result, if the man of her dreams does not pursue her, there is no chance of them being together. I guess this is the sad part of being a woman. Isn't that a lousy custom?
Well as for me, I'm still in the process of writing my love story. I don't know yet how it will end because sometimes I feel she doesn't love me as much as I love her. Oh well, I guess there's nothing to do but give it a try, see how it works out.