Had bad news tonight
By estherlou
@estherlou (5015)
United States
November 19, 2007 2:38am CST
My sister called me. Donna called her. Donna and Randy adopted my 1st grandchild when my daughter decided to give up her baby. Anyway...they live in Ohio. They have another adopted child, Brooke who is 14 and amazingly beautiful. Brooke tried to commit suicide last thursday. Apparently she was pregnant and lost her baby. We don't know anything about the pregnancy, or the circumstances around it, don't know when she lost the baby...we know nothing. We don't know how she tried to kill herself. I asked why wasn't she still in a hospital under supervision. We don't know that either. Donna called to talk to someone but then had to hang up until later. This doesn't even affect someone in our immediate family and we are still shocked and concerned and overwhelmed. I don't understand any of it. Even dealing myself with clinical depression years ago and bouts in therapy...I never understood how someone could try to kill themselves. If you are a praying person...please help me to pray for Brooke and her family.
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19 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
19 Nov 07
I am sorry to here about Brooke.I hope she will get the help she needs. and i hope that everything is okay with her so she can have another baby when she is ready.Take Care.
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@estherlou (5015)
• United States
19 Nov 07
This comment is for everyone who answered and gave me well-wishes. I want to say thank you for your expressions of love and concern and all of your support. I won't have the time to answer each and every one separately. Just hope you all understand and read my sincere thanks!
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
19 Nov 07
I feel sad for everybody concerned in this saga. For Donna and her hubby (adopting a child needs a lot of courage and heart and when that child grows up and is in pain somehow, the adoptive parents do feel a different kind of loss other than biological parents), for your grandchild (who I don’t know how old, but will sooner or later feel the repercussions of the turmoil in the family), for you (for knowing and feeling the turmoil of a family which has adopted your 1st grandchild, you just cannot remain neutral and mute and hence you have connected with us) and lastly for Brooke. I am not a praying person, even then I wish with all my heart that she grows up to be a more mature person, doesn’t repeat her foolish actions and the beauty of both her body and mind is appreciated by someone who will love her truly.
And yes, I also wish peace and happiness for a wonderful couple who had the heart to adopt children and the courage to stand by them.
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@GardenGerty (161006)
• United States
19 Nov 07
How very sad, estherlou. It is hard, also with them being so far away. We will remember to pray for Brooke. With the way insurance tends to not cover things, she very well could have been put out of the hospital too early. I imagine she is very sad about the baby. Keep us posted as you learn more.
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
19 Nov 07
Dear Heavenly Father we come before you asking for peace, comfort during this time for Brooke and her family. We don't know all the details about what is going on for sure, but we do know that you are a Loving God and you have it all under control. Let them feel the warmth of your embrace, especially when they are feeling all alone, and to remind them that they are never alone that you are always by their side. This we ask and pray in your precious name Lord Jesus Christ. Amen
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
20 Nov 07
I've been on mylot for almost 7 months and whenever someone has asked for prayer, I make it a point to type a prayer for one, so that they know that I have actually prayed for their need and for two, so that anyone else reading the discussion can also read the prayer as well. And for three being obedient to God's calling for me to do this.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
Hi estherlou! Sorry to hear such disturbing news. Rest assured my friend that I will include them in my prayers and I hope everything will soon be alright for everyone. Take care and don't worry too much. God will always be watching and caring for them and all of us. :)
@alamode (3071)
• United States
19 Nov 07
Its such a terrible thing when someone so young feels that she has no options.
I hope that she will be able to get all the help she needs to come through this a
healthier, happier person. Keeping the lines of communication open is the most important first step. All my thoughts are with them and with you tonight.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
20 Nov 07
Dear Estherlou, I feel sorry for you and your 1st grandchild. I done know how old is your grandchild now. She must be feeling devastated if she understands. About Brooke, in this side of the world, we dont find much 14 year olds being pregnant. At least not often. I am so sorry about her for at that age, I think they are still innocent and protected. Anyhow, I will pray for all of you plus all the other young girls who get pregnant against their wish. Dear God, please show your light to your sheep and drive them towards the correct path so that they will not lose themselves from You. Thank you.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
19 Nov 07
A child doesn't understand the feelings they have when they are pregnant, let alone having to deal with losing a baby. She definitely needs help. It is a horrible thing, and I hope they are able to get her the help that she is going to need. I will keep them in my prayers.
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@copperkitten (3473)
• United States
19 Nov 07
I am so sorry something like this happened. She is to young to be trying to do that. I really hope she will be ok and get the help she needs. I will say a prayer for the family. "May the Kisses of an Angel Cover and Protect them Always!"
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
19 Nov 07
I don't understand it either but I do know that at 14 life's problems seem so much bigger than they really are. She may have thought that her parents would "kill her" when they found out about the pregnancy and been too scared to face it or she may have been too scared to deal with a pegnancy and thought that ending her life was the only way out. It's a very sad thing either way and I hope and pray this girl recovers and gets the help and love she needs to get through this. I think it's great that you are in contact with these people and that they are comfortale with coming to you with things like this.
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@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
20 Nov 07
Sometimes kids do things that they are not very sure of. Even how much you look after these kids they still do whatever they want. and brooke is already 14 and knowing that she can afford to produce a baby but she never think of troubles she might be into. I feel sorry for her i hope she learns lessons from that.
I will include her in my prayers as that is the least i can do..I hope she is safe.
@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
20 Nov 07
We don´t know much about the circumstance, so we can only pray for her and her family that they all get the help they need so much.
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
19 Nov 07
I'm really sorry for you and your family.I will pray for you and them.
I hope she will get all the help she need and all the support from her family.I think she really needs them.
@girljar (287)
• United States
20 Nov 07
I have already said a prayer for Brooke and her family, as well as for you and yours. I have learned from experience, that there is a reason for everything, and that sometimes it may take many years to figure out what it was, but eventually, you will be able to look back, and say, "out of that, came...". They say that if God takes you to it, He will walk you through it. I believe that 100%. Things like this are so hard to go through, but you and your family will come out stronger in the end. God Bless you all.
