I am an emotional wreck!

As always Sgtswife, you are welcome to vent. We are here for you. I really hope things rebound and I pray for you and your family's safety & wellbeing. I'll say you should calm a bit and relax, excessive and unnecessary spent energy is counterproductive for you and those that count on you.

I'm sorry for all the stress you are going thru, I hope your family or his family or your friends are able to help you out in your situation. However keep your chin up everything happens for a reason and woman are amazing people they can pull thru so much alot of what happens to us as woman is to show us how strong we really are. As far as your surgery make sure they check you and make sure you do not have MRSA that seems too occur alot after a surgery it runs high in hospitals (but they dont always think about testing for it)and its been broadcasted thru out america on how contagious it is. Make sure they check you for that, that alone will make you feel like crap if that is the case they will put you on antibiotics called Bactrim that will head off the problem and get you back on your feet, If it happens you dont have it YOUR A LUCKY WOMAN and you will get back on your feet in no time. the thing with surgery is every body reacts differently with each one and we all have our ups and downs when it comes to healing. Stress is another big factor, if you believe your sick you will be BELIEVE you are well and KNOW you are strong enough to conquer anything that happens in your life and you will fight off this infection and handle ur children fine. Just remember EVERTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON just learn from the incident and grow from it as well. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN AND GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. THANK YOU FOR YOUR HUSBAND FOR DEFENDING OUR FREEDOM HERE IN THE USA.

I read all the posts. If something does happen and you do have to go back to the hospital, God forbid. You or your mom should call the famiy center on the base and explain to them your situation. I do believe they will help by gettign someone to come in and help. All honesty, you should call them soon, 3 kids, your mom and her two. God Bless your mom for being there, but 5 kids is a lot to take care of. You are in my prayers, please keep everyone updated.

Hey girl, I am sorry that your having such problems. I know from previous talks that you have had a lot going on in your life and now to add this to it, and your husband has left....wow! I am praying for your safe and quick recovery. I really hope you are going to be ok!

I am so sad to hear this.. You have a double suffering.. Suffering due to the pangs of separation of your husband and due to that of the operation.. And i feel that you have made a good decision, by coming to this forum and giving up the long and deep buried anguishes.. Certainly i feel that you will get relaxed when you discuss here. One small piece of advice.. i want to say.. just dont think too much, on the future..by grooming over all if's and but's. These probabilities have less chance of becoming true, but its only our mind calculates at the speed of light over all UNSEEN CURVES. So just relax dear, and cool friend. Have a nice time and Enjoy Peace Within.

I'm sorry to hear your conditions.And I'm so sorry tnat I can't help you,but best wishes to you,God bless,and God is going to get you through this. Sometime, the fact is cruel and unfair,and what only we can do is facing it bravely,and everything is coming back good!

I am very sad and sorry to hear about your health not being very well right now and that your husband is not able to be there to take care of you and help you. I am sure that he is very concerned about you and will be checking on you frequently. I think the military should allow him to stay with you til it is certain that will be okay. The military should allow exceptions to those soldiers who have loved ones who are having health problems. I hope that you will be okay soon. Do you have other family who can help you with your kids while you are trying to get healthy? My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

I'm sorry that things are so rough right now, but keep your head up, everything will turn out ok. Those kids will surely keep you going whether you like it or not. :-) My family will keep yours in our prayers. Good luck.

Oh honey, what terrible timing! You are right, surgery is bad enough and now complications. Having your husband deported, just tops it off. Couldn't he get an extension under the circumstances? I hope you get better soon and don't worry about venting here--you need an outlet and this is a good one! Do you have family that lives close by that could help with the kids? Maybe if you had a few days to rest that would help the healing process? Keep us updated!

Well I do feel sorry for you... and I understand why you would feel the way you do. I am surprise that they would not give extra "leave of absence" to your husband while you are facing those problems. I hope that you do have some family to look after your children if you have to go back in hospital. What does your husband says about all this? The first thing you need to do... is to look after yourself and think of you as "number one". An ex girlfriend of mine had an hysterectomy for the same reasons. It was not a small operation and it takes time to recover from it. That is why I am surprised that your husband did not hang around a bit longer.

Oh my gosh gal! Just had surgery and your husband just left? Damn I wish we were closer for I'd be more than happy to lend a hand for I know what you're going through for I've had the same surgery and it's hell to have to get up not alone take care of kids! Do you know anybody in your area? What about your family? Can any of them come and help you? Let me know because I could look into finding some help for you in your area because you shouldn't have to go about this alone. My husband just retired and he should know where to get help. Bless your heart!!

I'm so sorry to hear about your condition. The greatest setback of having a soldier for a husband is that he will not be physically present during those trying times of the family. It's a call of duty for him and most of the time these things are beyond his control. Be brave, be strong for your kids. Find strength in the thoughts that your kids need you and you have to be there for them. See your doctor on how to take care of incisions and take med to protect you from infection. Should you need to go back to the hospital again, ask a friend or relatives of your husband to look after the kids when you are gone. These things will come to past. Lift your fears and sadness to Somebody up there. I know your husband feel badly leaving you in that condition. If he only has a choice, I know he will stay by your side.

I'll pray for you, asgts. I understand your situation and I now how you feel... Everything has a reason I think... even your being sad.. right? Your husband is a hero for he fights for your country, to protect it from terrorism. Do not worry... when he comes back, that would be a happy moment for you, your children and him as well. Your lucky to have them, asgts. We just have to endure these things and I think these are just tests on how we handle ourselves in these times of sorrow. ok? God will heal your head... I know. I feel it.

You don't have to be affraid of what will happen next day. No one can quarantee what will be tomorrow...But I know something.. God knows. you know.. EVERYTHING can happen because of HE lets it happen. Pray has a power. Have u REALLY prayed for somebody even you are really in a very bad position? GBU

same pinch..even i am a emotional wreck.. the people nearby will take care of the children unless your husband come back.. don't worry nothing will happen..