Why did I Want Kids?

Oh for crying out loud, that is so ridiculous that if your son doesn't have $600 by December 4th he'll go to jail for four years???? And over a broken door and a few stolen candy bars..How insane is that? There are worse criminals that walk free with far more serious crimes they've committed. This is so unright! You'll be in my prayers Faith that something will turn up and out for you (((hugs)))

Oh you poor thing, I know it is not always easy, and hopefully as he gets a little older he will see the error of his ways, and reform, I hope so for you anyway, I hope things turn to the better for you...

I would try to find a respected member of the community to be a witness for him. Many times, having a pastor, or someone that the community looks to as a moral leader go in with your child to the hearing may help. The judge may not dismiss the charges, but he could extend them. I would continue to do what you are doing, do what you can, and expect him to do his part. I would hate for the money to come easily for him, b/c it wouldn't be as hard as a lesson for him to learn.. This way, he sees the sacrifices that have to be made in order to rectify the situation. I don't know if 600 dollars is too much or not, it really depends on how much it cost to fix the door. I would hope that the judge would realize that 4 years in prison is an awful lot. I would also have your son keep documentation that proves that he has been looking for a job. anything that you can get your hand on that proves he hasn't been sitting on the couch hoping it would all go away. I would even go so much as to say, when he is refused a job, he could ask the owner, manager for a letter saying that he requested a job but was denied.. (not if they say they would consider him though, You wouldn't want to deter them from hiring him if they are considering it) Anyways, I pray everything works out, i'm sure it will. Good luck to you.

Maybe you could talk to Grandmas and Grandpas, aunts and uncles about an early Christmas gift....money to help the situation, he may not get gifts but it has to be better then Christmas in jail. Has he tried shoveling snow, he might do better then looking for bottles with nickel refunds. Man, I could use him for some work around here. I am still not done raking leaves up and I would love to put him to work. But Michigan is too far away. Good Luck.

Hi faith, well you go right ahead and rant , you probably have a lot of us right behind you ranting..I understand how you feel.My son got in trouble at 15 and he was on probation for 10 years,and he gotten off and own for years, he still stays in trouble.i do hope your son does better than mine..I do love my son but hes never going to change, hes too old to change now.I wanted kids too,and after they do so much you think why why, oh why did i ever want children.They are so sweet when they are little and they grow up and deal you pain.What about his dad, will he help him any? I had to depend on my son's father to help...I did more though because mothers seem to feel a deeper obligation for some reason.I called my sons Dad, this was after my son was in his 30's and he was still hanging on to my coat tail.I was angry,I told my ex , hey you helped bring this demon seed into the world and i expect you to help me with him, LOL i did not have him by myself...Guess what he did? yes he bought him a bus ticket to my house, so, what do you do? I do not have an answer.I know this is hard for you because i have been there.I have a friend that has 2 grown children, and they got mad at her over nothing, and they will not speak to her..She told me that she wished she would never had any kids..These stories are all over, people just do not talk about it much..No the punishment does not match the crime, you are right.Hopefull you son is young enough and he will do well, i surely hope so..I did the best i could and that is all you can do..I will say a prayer for you and your son..God Bless

Wow. That does seem pretty steep for a crime like that. My 16 year old brother just got put on probation and house arrest until his next court date for filing a false police report. The only money that he has to pay back (so far) is $40 which is the court costs! Of course, he'll have to pay the probation fees. I'm sorry that you're going through all of that. Honestly, I know how it is looking for a job in Michigan. I just started a job on the 16th of November and it only pays $7.50/hour and I have to drive 30 minutes! It's crazy! Good luck, hun.

I read the whole discussion and I feel extremely helpless. That is i dont know how to console you dear faith. But my prayers are with you, for God our Father, would never abandon His children in time of need. I am sure you will find a way. I too wonder that the punishment is too much for what he has done. On the other way, if he learned a lesson that is also a good thing. At that age, kids tend to get rebellious. But i am sure that he will come around cos , i know you are a good mom. Good luck and take care.

woooh, the story is really touchy ; my heart goes out for, my dear , is really pititful indeed to know such punishment is meted out to someone for an offence this small , and a teenager at that . To me , is inhumane - really . That being what it is ,it has also afford the young man time to study harder and come out with flying colours, and on the other hand - he got outrageous fines to set himself free . Woooh. Misblessing here. Honestly, between you and your dear child: sort out ways to pay that wicked fine ; cause nothing is too much when it comes to life matters . l also strongly admonish those lawmakers or whatever they call themselves , to reform those demonic laws -is inhumane . l think Transparency International should wade into these whole mess. l pray that God in his awesome ways would direct a philanthropist to help out here , l really pray so . Lastly, for you , try as much as you can to spend time with your children ; teaching them virtues of life, how to live right . Am not saying that you haven't been doing that or not - but is neccessary .

oh faith, i feel so sorry for you and your son... i hope everything will turn up OK for you... just keep on praying and keep your faith in God... it is ridiculous to face 4 years jail for a crime like broken doors and a few stolen candy bars... i hope God will give you a way to have the $600 to pay for the fine... my prayer goes to you and your son... take care and God Bless you...

I believe that the punishment is so stiff to prevent people from going from kicking in a few doors to raping and murdering and doing crimes of a higher nature. I'm not implying that your son will become a rapist ... but I believe most criminals have a record of petty crime before they committ crimes that have serious repercusions. $600 is a lot of money, especially this time of the year, I'm not sure how he can come up with the money. I do know that God is faithful and just to those who seek forgiveness. Besides that He owns cattle on a thousand hills.

i never thought unemployment rate there in US is high...i mean i always look up how great your country is...and never thought anything about that...i always think all people in your country are rich...

it is great that he is taking responsibility like he is, sounds like he is growing up... could a call be made to the court explaining the situation that it is not for lack of desire to pay the fines, but the lack of means? maybe they could lessen the fines due to the grievous circumstances - maybe son could offer to do community service for a portion as well?

Pathetic are the feelings of all parents under heaven toward their offspring. I have lost my mother for more than 7 years.

I know this is already past the date, but I hope it all worked out.. As for why do we want kids? Because the Creator gave us that desire and when they are little, they are so cute..Then they grow up..lol No, seriously, children are a blessing, though at times it doesn't seem like it. As much as my kids have all given me grief, I can also see where they have really been wonderful and I wouldn't trade them for anything..:)

I'm late posting to this, but wanted to say that I'm glad he was able to get things worked out. Kids make mistakes, unfortunately, this is one he'll have to live with. But it sounds like he's got his head on straight and this may be a hard lesson, but a good one. I pray that he continues to do well...

The teen years are the worst. I wondered many times why I had kids when they were teens. Now that they are grown and married, they are so much more likeable. LOL I am sorry that you have to go through all this stress. I am glad to hear that he is now on the honor roll. That is great. Good luck

Oh byfaithonly!For quite sometime I hibernated and was just back here in my lot yesterday. I remember you mentioning on your discussions here about your son's troubles.I pray for you to have more an understanding and patience and a courageous heart to face theses trials.I know no amount of words would suffice your pain and sacrifices.Let it be known that God gave you this not underestimating your ability to tackle it.God gives trials to us not beyond our capacity...You'll make it.I just hope your son would change and volunteer to better his life. I am again a new MOM and my son is now 4 months old.Been working too hard before, but now i stopped working for awhile and closed down my business.His formative years is essential and I need to be there for him...Such what you are undergoing is one of my fear being a MOM...But as early as today, I am working now for my son's future...to develop him...I am learning from your situation and is an eye opener to reality in parenting. I wish we are neighbours so I can soothe your pains and sufferings.My heart goes with you...Be Strong as Always.God bless you my friend!!!

Sorry I am just responding to this discussion and I pray that he was able to raise the funds that he needed to pay this off. My prayer is that he learned a valuable lesson as well. That is awesome that he is making good grades. I know all too well about having teens, I had to tell my youngest whom is 18 not to come back home the end of October, it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. But knowing she is safe living with my brother and his wife and now clean off of m-e-t-h for about a month now, makes me glad that I did what I did.

Every woman has dream to marry and be a mother to fulfil their life. Due to some bad companion our teens may do some offense and for which parents have to sustain huge pains and problems. This is our fate. But if everyone do not want child how the world will full with man or woman? We need child for taking care by them at our old age too! So we must have aim to give them proper education, good job and to teach them to keep away from bad companion. Though some child do harm due to ignorance or due to spirit of youth age. For this reason we cannot think not to adopt or not to take child. I think your problem will solve somehow as any problem cannot longer for long period.

I really hope that things get better for you and your family. Its good that your soon has taken responsiblity for his actions. Maybe contact the magistrate in your district and see if they can't help you with your financial burdens. Sometimes they can help.