Do you think todays women still backdated to propose men for a relationship?
By humbleme
@humbleme (1004)
India
November 30, 2007 8:28am CST
Hello friends,Most of the time we get to see and hear that man proposing a woman for a relationship.Do you believe todays women still are backdated in time of proposing and convincing men for a relationship even if she feels it from her heart?Share your opinion and experiences with us.
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3 responses
@supersach (1523)
• India
30 Nov 07
I think it is generally accepted as the norm in most societies that the man makes the first advance when it comes to proposing. But nowadays, with women enjoying greater amount of freedom of expression, some of them may be the first to propose in a relationship. As far as your question is concerned, I don't think women are yet there along with men but I think they'll get there in a few years time.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
30 Nov 07
(depends on where you are and what its like)
Women have the ability to get there, but societal programming, their own thinking and some double standards prevent it from being like this. Plus, I've noticed personally and read MANY cases of inequality in dating. Its like this.
When it comes to somethings she's "traditional" (being wined and dined, he does the romancing, he proposes to her, etc), but in other cases she wouldn't be "traditional".
When it comes to other parts of life she's "modern" (rejecting men for any reason under the sun, dating multiple men, income, she's above him in dating/marriage, etc). But in other cases, "modern" doesn't apply and "traditional" is instead used (being wined and dined, he has to romance her, etc as I described earlier).
@humbleme (1004)
• India
30 Nov 07
Hello supersach,Thanks for your reply and you are just 20yrs
old so hopefully you will experience yourself in the near future according to your own prediction so get yourself ready for it from now and just wait and I wish you best ofluck hahahahahahahaaahaa
@supersach (1523)
• India
1 Dec 07
Theprogamer, I know what you are talking about. I have also seen girls that have these double standards that you talked about. Girls who will ramble on and on about men-women equality and when they go on a date, they will expect the man to pay the bill and if the man asks to split the bill then he is being rude. Not that if I asked a girl out, I would make her split the bill but it was just another example of the double standards SOME women have and yet they will go on and on about how women are subjected to double standards by men.
Humbleme, as far as I am concerned, I would never go out with a pretentious girl who has double standards that theprogamer talked about and I wouldn't care if she was the most beautiful woman in the world. Then again, I would like to say that not all girls are like that, some are and some aren't. In the end, as I said in my previous post, the things will get better or at least we can hope so. Thanks for wishing me luck, I guess I'll need it.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
2 Dec 07
Hello dear humbleme. Nowadays there are also many women proposing men for a relationship. As you know, our society is moving on and everything is possible. Thanks for your discussion.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
1 Dec 07
Times ae changing, women are inreasingly becoming assertive in these areas, but frankly a women doesnt have to propose to a man verbally through word of mouth-there are a number of non verbal communications that many women use to say "be my love", "will you marry me", "be the father of my children" etc. Nature in its wonders has endowed men species the descernment to distinguish these non unique skills abounding in woman, to state their proposal without being verbal about it-lets not expect women to walk over to us and say I love you, just look at a woman in the eye and you see a thousand non verbal proposals directly into your heart.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
1 Dec 07
Hello academic2,Thanks for your response and well said and I agree with you and its true and my girlfriend(my would be wife) proposed me quite similarly as you have described, however I will add with the changing of time, types and mentality of some women has changed too,firstof all they show total consent with their eyes, bodylanguage and even verbally using seductive indirect words now when the guy proposes, these girls just makes fun of that guy and I haveseen these cases multiple times happened with my friends
who are honest and serious guys and they had a severe heart break and I just used to tell my friends to wait to
get the real prove that these girls are absolutely foolish
and in time they will make their own life hell themselves
and trust me in these years none of my prediction went wrong regarding those self claimed smart modern girls.Thanks again.
