Holiday Melancholy?

Stick that lip out, stomp your foot, and snivel and whine! If you can't get it out of your system here, there may not be anywhere else! We've all been there to one degree or another, and many of these good people are going through it now. Do what it takes to feel better!

well it is only once a year, but that's what christmas is too right? anyway I'm not really into partying so holidays for me will be either off work have time for myself or with close family and friends no strangers invited :):) If I didn't get this I would feel down, just like now because my family doesn't live here and so does my best friend for 15 years :(

I do not like the holidays at all. They seem to be more work than they are worth and I just do not get the time off around the holidays to get stuff done. I too have to work Christmas Eve b/c it falls on a Monday. This is the 1st company I have worked for that does not give Christmas Eve off. To me that is a huge negative because we have so many people to visit we have to use Christmas Even and Christmas Eve to cover them all. all Christmas is to us is another horrible holiday where you spend the day driving around. I also have to work New Years Eve.

You are kinder than I. If my hubby said "suck it up", I wouldn't talk to him until January. That is why you are married and I am not.I know how you feel. I am not in the holiday mood this year. If I had my way,I would skip the whole thing.This will be the 2nd year without my mom. I used to live for surprising my mom on Christmas day.

Oh yeah! I sure can relate. I am bummed out because I got to thinking about all our decorations that we have no room for here. We really dont even have room for a tree. I have a large collection of Dept 56 Dickens Village which I set up every year. Over the years it took up a lot of space but I loved creating the little town. Plus since my husband had to take a paycut last year and I have not been able to find any work we really are living just to pay the bills no frills. It botheres me that we dont have the money to buy the grandkids any thing.But one of these days maybe we will have better luck. So will you.

Frankly speaking, I used to feel sad during the year-end holidays, and was glad when I was told I have to work on the eve of Christmas and New Year. It sort of bury the unhappiness. Of course, now I wish for days off if possible from the eve of christmas till the first workday of the new year. lol.

Oh yes, I can relate. I used to own and run a takeaway, chicken/coffee shop. In October, I posted a sign to say I would be taking Christmas orders. In December I posted a sign saying I would be closed Christmas day. I had just under 30 orders which wasn't much but about all I could cope with. One lady wanted 12 bbq chickens! Eighteen chickens were not picked up and because I was closed, they had to be wasted. Over the next few days I was being abused by customers because they had called in expecting me to be open so they could grab a couple of chooks on their way to wherever they were going...on Christmas day! In the little complex where my shop was, the fish shop next door opened for a couple of hours to sell prawns and things but everyone else was closed. I later heard that they were bad mouthing me to the customers for not opening. The people who abused me, (I didn't recognise any of them) said they would no longer shop at my place. There were only 2 days of the year I planned on being close along with Good Friday. I can't believe the workload you have. It must be exhausting. I think you should at least get a bonus for Christmas for all the extra hard work. Too bad if you became ill. Heheh!

I'm not real fond of the holidays. I do get to see members of the family I don't normally, but I guess I've gotten to the point where the peer presure to have a special time just gets under my skin. Besides, it seems you have Thanksgiving, then Christmas and then ... what? A long, cold, boring winter stretching out before me.

Lol.Just go ahead estherlou and pout,but only a little.:-D Try putting the past behind you.I understand what you feel.But everyone faces grey moods of life.Just try to forget and enjoy the holiday season and festivities with your hubby and family members.It will make the present a precious sparkling gift that you need to just open to unravel the pleasant surprises it has in store for you. Merry Christmas!!

Too bad you have to work Christmas Eve. I hope you're getting paid well. The holidays are so much better when you can spend more time with your loved ones instead of working.

In away I do agree with hubby. You will only make matters worse by pouting. So make the best of it you will find you will be happier and others around you will be happier for it too.

You are not alone that is for sure. I am finding it hard to get in the spirit this year. I even went to the staff Christmas party the other night to try and find the spirit but it wasn't there. I also work in an industry where Christmas is a busy time. I have one day off between now and well after Christmas it looks. I even get the pleasure of working Christmas day and New years eve and day! Merry Ho Ho my A#ss! But I must admit that your husband is right and it is only once a year so I guess I will suck it up and make myself enjoy the season.

I can relate completly with you. I usually hate the holiday. When my sisters and I where growing up my parents did not want my twin sister and I. We where told on a daily basis we where not wanted. When November came around it was our birthday. Our older sister was the golden child she could do no wrong, she was the wanted one the good one. My twin's birthday and mine was in November. We where told " We spend the same amount of money on your older sister as we do you but since there is two of you you have to share it." That was a bunch of bull crap. Most birthdays we got nothing, and the golden child got a lot. When christmas came around the same thing. Presents under the tree for the golden child but not us. One year the golden child got a horse and a saddle, we where told there was no money so we got nothing. One year she got a set of dishes when she moved out we got nothing, what again no money. You get my drift? Then when I was raising our children we did not have much money so I hated christmas because I could not buy them what they wanted. Now christmas is better. It is just my hubby and I at home. Not a lot of things going on so we are able to afford a little bit more. Not so stressed.

The holidays always make me melancholy too. It brings back memories of years past and all of the good times we had when I was growing up. My parents,grandparents,some aunts and uncles,some cousins and some very dear friends are all gone now and my mind floods of memories of the holidays we all spent together. The dinners and laughter all all things of the past now and I miss them so much. I try hard to carry on traditions with my sons but they just aren't the same. Yes melancholy is the word for it.

aww stop pouting and get on with it the sooner done then sooner ya can get out of there and be with hubby for the rest of the night hugs!