Do you read obituaries?
@lordwarwizard (35747)
Singapore
December 10, 2007 4:39am CST
Alright, I am not trying to be morbid here. I know it is Monday but there is really nothing frightening about death (not really) so let's look at this topic matter-of-factly.
Do you read obituaries?
You know, that notice of death published at the back of a newspaper.
When I was real weeny, I always say a prayer then quickly flip past the obituaries when I read the papers. But as I got bigger and like now, I don't skip them anymore. It is not that I pore over the details (one of my ex-colleagues looks over them for sales leads), but that I just glance over them casually then say a prayer over the deceased.
One thought occurred that this might have something to do with age. The older one gets, the more in-depth one is going to look and the more time one is going to spend. Maybe it has got something to do with the "which friends are still alive" question.
So, do you read obituaries? Let's talk about this positively. Your thoughts? =)
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@Savvynlady (3684)
• United States
12 Dec 07
Yes I do, and usually do to look for certain persons of families who perhaps passed on or for my own as was the case this year and previously. It don't freak me out or anything, just a fact of life.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Yes, I do read over the obituaries. I scan the names. If I see one I know then I will pay a little more attention. I am usually looking for data for my genealogy research. If I find that person connects to my family history, I will cut out the article and make proper notes about the publication. I try to keep my family documents and records some what organized. Then I enter the information into my computer program.
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@rx4life (1930)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Good Morning,Wiz...I must say that I read the obituaries fairly regularly. I too used to scoot by them while trying to think healing thoughts for the families..but as I "mature" I find that I do know more of the people listed and it provides me with information that helps in my profession also. Let me clarify that...I work in pharmacy and we happen to be in an area that serves a large population of retired and aging persons that live in wonderful assisted living establishments. These people are part of our "extended family" at work and I often find an obituary for one of them that not only notifies me of the passing of this great soul but allows me to prepare a sympathy offering in the form of words or actions that might help comfort the family. It sort of saves me having to put them through the repeated trauma of having to retell the news. It keeps me from asking about a sensitive subject for those that are having a hard time withit. Usually a family member will call us or stop by and deliver the news before I even read it..but it also affords me the opportunity to read about that person's life if I choose to do so. Many times in the past few years I have been shocked to find the name of a person I used to know well, listed in the obits...it makes me take pause and not only walk down memory lane ( good or bad) but to think of my own mortality..which we sometimes tend to push aside such thoughts. I do find myself always saying a prayer for those left behind to grieve...they are the ones that take on the pain. Good topic..as usual..:)
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
10 Dec 07
Part of your job, eh? :P
But you must need to have a good memory and all...
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@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
12 Dec 07
Another reason, associated with business that might benefit Rx is to know who is no longer filling prescriptions, on the off chance that someone might fraudulently try to do so, for their own purposes and benefits.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
13 Dec 07
She needs an embedded memory chip then.:P
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
I only check the obituaries when someone I knew passed away. At other times, I read it if I have nothing more to read in the newspaper. Now that you brought up this discussion...it just occur to me that I may very well enjoy a day of fame when my name will appear right there on that particular section someday. Not a very happy thought but a reality that we need to face.
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@darktwilite (48)
• India
10 Dec 07
well me i check them out is the persons face somehow catches my eye and i feel bad seeing an elderly person pass away...otherwise i just browse through the paper and read only stuff i find intresting
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
10 Dec 07
But that isn't really the purpose of obituaries though I do the same as you when it happens too.
Why do you want to be famous? If any kind of fame is agreeable, there are so many other ways to get famous.
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@keepermykitty (2573)
• Canada
10 Dec 07
I read them when someone I know passes , thats about it ...
Not being rude , but I find it really hard to think about this type of thing .
I do this only cause I have a hard time dealing with this type of Sadness now , so I always think if I read it I`m cursing everyone ....
I know thats not about to happen but you know ...
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
10 Dec 07
I always look over the names to see if it is anyone that I know. If I know the person then I'll read it but if not then I don't read it.
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Yeah I do read them from the little town where I used to live. I used to joke that I read the obits every morning to make sure I was still alive. I do look at the ones from this little town cause I either knew some of the people or knew of them. I also found it interesting that a lot of those people lived very long lives there. I wondered about that cause I always felt it was a boring little town.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
10 Dec 07
And it's always sad to recognize one. :(
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
10 Dec 07
I always read the obituaries, how else are we suposed to know if we're still here? hehehe Seriously yes I do read them because I have moved to the next town down and I have lost touch with a lot of folks and because I'm getting older and so is everyone else I hve noticed people have passed that I have either worked with or known.
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@saivenkaat802003 (4823)
• India
10 Dec 07
No friend, just as you were in early days, i still skip those pages and avoid it, but in my heart i will always pray for those peoples soul to rest in peace.
Take care friend and have a nice day:)
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@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
10 Dec 07
I only ever read them if I know or have heard that a friend or relative has passed. Generally, to make sure I got the information I was given correct. Location of service, time etc. Otherwise, no I don't. It makes me sad. I would also find it kind of creepy.
@Sephora (15)
•
10 Dec 07
Nope nope nope... I always skip them as quickly as possible! I don't even know why it's become a habit. But I do have this feeling that as I get older I'll start having a peak to see if anyone I know might have past away. Who knows how bored I'll get once I'm retired...
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Greetings oh wizardly one,
If I buy a newspaper I'll read it from cover to cover. Though it is a rarity. Instead, I get my news from online sources, generally from the international wires. Obit's are not listed in the wires. So, I rarely ever encounter an obituary. Though if I do, I tend to do as you do -- say a little prayer for the departed and their families, then take a moment to appreciate the majesty that is life.
I have lost many, friends & family, in my life. I've generally been notified by a family member or mutual friend. This is largely due to the fact that Hubby & I live over 2000 miles from most of our friends and families. So, it would be exceedingly unlikely that we would learn of the passing of a loved one in our local paper. Although, I guess the longer we live in our current location and as we get older this will happen with a greater frequency. So, I'll take your topic to heart.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
10 Dec 07
I do not specifically look out for obituaries to read except when I know someone already has a place there. Otherwise, it is only when I read the papers and happen to flip to the page. I would then take a look to see if there is anyone I know among the dependents :P
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
10 Dec 07
Looks like you seldom flip to the finance section which is just after the obituaries.:P
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
12 Dec 07
So sinful to treat the hard work of journalists like that.:P
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
10 Dec 07
I moved from a rural area of Texas 4 yrs ago, I had lived there for 10 years, a lot of the residents of that community were elderly, so yes, I read the newspaper from there online, and I do check the obits, so that I might send a card or make a phone call. I also research family history, and have read some very interesting obits in my research.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
10 Dec 07
Oh you research family history too? How interesting!
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
10 Dec 07
Actually, I am ashamed to say I hardly read newspaper =P
The only newspaper I truly read (only the second half of the paper) is none other than.. Newpaper (the soccer paper) =P
I do not think they have an Obituary section in Newpaper.
During those rare occasions when I actually take the effort to read the newspaper, I quickly flip through those pages too. I do not feel comfortable read those pages. I feel very sad reading it. =(
I do know of people who actually read those pages everyday. I asked them why they do that. Their answer was 'To look out for friends whom they have lost touch with'. =X
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
10 Dec 07
Ya... shame on you shui tong. You better start reading papers... I mean, how can you not read the papers? This is so shocking...
And you mean that thin FAKE newspaper that I thought has been or will be scrapped?
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
12 Dec 07
Geez, why do you even like soccer? Isn't being a shui tong silly enough?
Silly soccer shui tong.:P
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
11 Dec 07
*sob sob*
I need it for my daily dose of soccer news mah... Newpaper is important =P
As for newspaper, I think I prefer watching news for updates. Also, I do find the newspaper too biased. I read more of Time Magazine. I find that more informative and less biased. =D
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@makatas (1098)
• Greece
10 Dec 07
I dont read obituaries.On the other hand, i also dont read weddings, ceremonies,events and the rest that usually are in the last pages.Newspaper isnt a real routine for me, i only buy one at Sunday and enjoy with my coffee in the morning.Why would i read obituaries or the rest?Its like reading the open pharmacies section:only to be done when you want to find sth, thats my opinion.
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