Why do men like to marry younger women?
By bishu_sinha
@bishu_sinha (1457)
India
December 11, 2007 2:59am CST
Young women prefer older men because of their wealth and high social status, which makes them good providers for the offspring.
The men maximized their ‘evolutionary fitness’, that is, ability to pass on their genes to future generations, by marrying women who were 14 years younger, and vice versa.
The most couples failed to marry with the huge age difference, usually settled for a small difference.
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32 responses
@makatas (1098)
• Greece
11 Dec 07
Most of the times, men like their women to be younger, because they feel nice to have a younger woman on their side.It probably adds to man's ego.They also want women to be pretty and that also has to do with mans ego.Woman wants stability in life and security, they think having an older, mature husband gives them a feeling of safety.However, we shouldnt generalize-love is everywhere...
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@mary855230 (121)
• China
11 Dec 07
i find that many men dont wannar married until they are successful . most of men , whether he handsome or not , they wanna his wife are beautiful , nice ,yonng ,slim and well -education.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
•
11 Dec 07
men generally marry younger women because her years of childbirth with marriage are limited. A man can father children much older than a woman can give birth. Consequently, women are generally attracted to older men because he may have wealth. Men are attracted to younger women to continue the propagation of the species. In truth, in modern society, these rules have become blured. Now, many couples settle for a small age gap because the rules no longer apply
blessed be
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@wgn_white (77)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 07
This is what I try to explain to youless...
Thanks.
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@scorpionsoul (185)
• India
25 Jan 08
Mr_lipira i was thinking of replying to this guy in the same way and cud'nt have said it better... It is amazing that your insight is so lovely and i am sure the others agree with u as well.....One cannot just think abt oneself and what is a marraige when u don't think abt yr partner first..Bingo..
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
11 Dec 07
Marrying a younger woman depends on individual specifications and desires. I have seen young men marry older women, but mostly it is bacause of financial stability.
Though some marry out of love, most men marry younger women because they took their younger years building their future and when time reached for them to marry, their agemate (women) have reached menopause.....so they prefer younger women because their fertile years are more. Lol.
Am not really sure.
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@wgn_white (77)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 07
Yes, say this out,I am agree with you...
But, for the man that marrying older woman, it is okay.
Because the reason to marrying someone is because of
-LOVE-
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@asawanialvin0611 (1877)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
I think marrying is not an issue of age differences.What matters is how you feel for the person and if you can't live without this person
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@audrey1985 (47)
• Indonesia
18 Dec 07
yes, agree with you. marrying is not about age.
older man can marry younger woman, and younger man can marry older woman. It depends on the maturity of themselves.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
12 Dec 07
It a sad commentary that women are still subservient to men. I wonder how many men feel that way, that a man should be in charge of their partner. A partner by definition is an equal. I hope this isn't the majority of guys. Most guys I've known, friends - and my husband - are intelligent enough to know that the best marraige is a marraige of equals. I think you're right about to big of an age difference - especially if its the man who is older - for women statistically live longer then guys - which means they would be alone for a large part of their golden years if the man is a lot older. However, if it turns out two people get along, respect and love eachother and have good healthy communication, then age shouldn't be a barrier. Even if you lose one partner because of a huge age difference earlier then you'd like - like the saying goes - far better to have love and lost then never to have loved at all.
:) have a good day and have fun mylotting!
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
12 Dec 07
omg- lmao!!!! hilarious!! this is why we are loved by older men!!
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@theprogamer (10532)
• United States
12 Dec 07
Well for older men it could be superficial. Men are creatures of vision, no doubt (women are too, but hey, no one cares bout that side of the coin...-_-) Unfortunately plenty of people don't realize that there are other older men who end up with younger women because they are vastly superior to the venom spewing, verbal and emotional abusing ex-"wife" they had. A final thing, women go for older men a good deal of the time in the various age brackets, so should there be surprise if a pair up with young and old happens? -_-
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
12 Dec 07
omg I totally meant 12 years younger - I think I wrote that because he was eighteen.
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
12 Dec 07
Okay, you disagree on some of my points, but as you know this is okay with me, I do think that we all make generalizations its true (note all my responses that say blanket statement alert) but I do think each person is an individual and have different reasons for their actions.
That said - I love that you actually read the entire ramble that I wrote!
I will search for the thread you noted in here.
Can you explain further your comment on my crush on an older guy though?
When I first read the mylot alert - I thought we mylotters would be giving points but I guess not.........
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
12 Dec 07
For the comment on my crush - are you saying that I didn't have that 'more' to give?
Alright thanks for sharing this one, its different. But did you ever note that plenty of guys do not want relationship either on personal choice or because they realize women won't take them if they are not established? I've seen that personally.
CAn you relate this to what I was saying - because I didn't leave mike because he wasn't established. And in fact the funny thing with Mick - the older, established one, is that other people were suprised I was with him - seeing me more with an artist type. I do notice both of these things though - guys don't want girls on personal choice - absolutely nothing to do with age. And women I've encountered are all caught up in whether a guy is established. I was working in an all girl office when I was dating Mike. The first question from all of them were, "What kind of car does he drive?" I'm not kidding. "What does he do, and how much does he make?" Not is he nice, what's he like? He was going to school for Computer Science(he's now pursuing his doctorate - a full ride) and he was a trainer at a gym. Not mr richie rich. I paid for a lot of things and had no problem with it. I actually like suprising people with things, and for him it was easy as he needed to eat a lot of protein, so I'd get him chicken subs or something from Subway.
I did like that he had a good work ethic, despite what some would say about his youth. Or like his friends, who didn't want to work or go to school, just wanted their parents to support them. And if he wanted something, he went after it. Even with a full course load, his job, and his gym work out - he wanted to take Tae Kwon Do. Which takes up a lot of time, especially with traveling to some of the tournaments. But he wanted it - and he was able to juggle everything. I do like it when people can stop and smell the roses too though. He could.
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@acatantan (63)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
It's just that younger women are often better looking than the older ones. Also, we men mostly want our women to look up to us, so we want to be more mature, more successful, etc., than our women.
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@fanji008 (775)
• China
11 Dec 07
Hi,there! I think usually men prefer to marry younger women cause they could have the feeling that they can protect the women and give them a good life.The other thing is that younger woment look young and nice.Maybe they like hear the praising words from others that they've got young and good looking wives.It makes them feel successful.The other reason might be the social issue.The tradition tells us that usually men are older than their wives.That's a good match for both. Thanks for the discussion and have a nice day^_^
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@wing215656 (219)
• China
11 Dec 07
many men think they should make money or make their careers before their marriages.in the present time being,the society puts more pressure to everyone.when one marry,he must own a house or apartment,and maybe a car is necessity.so men must earn enough money firstly.and young women like old men,maybe for men's money or society statue or young women just want to live a better life.that's all.
@JeremyEdison (281)
• China
11 Dec 07
I'd like to marry younger women .but not too young.I think about 2-3 years is good.but right now I didn't have the idea of marriage.I am not rich both in spirit and substance.I need to experience more.I wanna married with someone before I am 30.nevertheless I am 27 now.I hope that I can find the other half of mine.
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@wgn_white (77)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 07
Me too prefer just younger than me 2-4 years...
Want to get married at the age of 25.
Now Iam 20.
But not yet find a girl worth to make a good wife.
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@anbrepaul (12)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
You are right! some women prefer older because of their money. Women think if they get married to older men their lives will be stabled! but sometimes women can fall in love with the older men.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I dont think age is a determining factor..The only time age needs to be considered is when one is a "minor"
I think we overrate age..Sometimes marriage between a younger female and older male can be awsome..or vice versa..between an older female with a younger male.
I think in my family...there was 20 years between my mom and my first dad..
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@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
20 Dec 07
I guess that is human nature , if you let a young woman to choese between a young man who is richer than a old man of course that woman would choese the young man unless there is no chemistry at all or the old man is so charming.
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@simplyman2006 (1706)
• India
17 Dec 07
u r mostly older men marry women just for showing something and women marry them for their wealth and other stuff .
@spiderlizard22 (3444)
• United States
19 Dec 07
Maybe Men are attracted to younger women because they look prettier to them then older women. That is just a thought.
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
19 Dec 07
A man in his 20s is attracted to woman in the 20s
A man in his 30s is attracted to woman in the 30s.
A man in his 40s is attracted to woman in the 20s.
A man in his 50s is still attracted to woman in the 20s.
LOL. Heard of this before? It seems like men are very visual beings. They are more attracted by the youthful and beautiful outlook than the inner beauty.
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