What's the correctt thing to say when people you don't know say they are sorry..
By ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
United States
January 4, 2008 10:10am CST
I never know what to say to people especially strangers who tell me they are sorry for my loss when they find out that my mom has passed away. When I called to pay a bill this morning I had to tell them I was doing on the phone because I can't get there and my mom passed. Of course the man said he was sorry and I feel stupid for just saying Thank You but what else can I say?
Is there a correct reply when people say this? Do they think I'm being rude by just saying thank you?
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16 responses
@Phaedra_Scythe (3325)
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4 Jan 08
As Roberten has said; you don't need to say anything more than "thank you" or nothing if you don't feel like it. Even strangers can empathise with you. I know I do and I truly am sorry for your loss.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
4 Jan 08
I think saying Thank You is all that you can say. I don't know what to say either but I know when strangers say "sorry for your loss" that they do really mean it, and the fact that they even said it, means a lot to me, even though I don't know them. I don't think you were rude at all Ctry.f
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Jan 08
You would be rude if you said nothing.A heartfelt thank you is all you have to say.they want to show you that they care and by saying thank you , you show that theis love was well received.
As I write this , it is late Saturday night. I hope tomorrow goes as fast and as well as it can.And I hope Monday goes well yet quickly for you too. Take care.
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@andyliuzn (1029)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Jan 08
Hi,
I am sorry to hear that your Mon passed away. Well, we don't need to say "thank you" to this kind of comfort, I suppose you could just note to him/her and just say an "en" will do. If she/he is your good friend, you could just tell him/her that you could manage it so that your best friend won't be so worry about you.
Andy
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@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
5 Jan 08
No, I don't think so. i think that is the best thing you can say. they know that you don't know them and they are just trying to express their sympathy to you in the passing of your mother. I think a simple thank you or i appreciate that is good enough for them. God bless
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
5 Jan 08
LOL! yeah, i change my hair all the time, so you will probably see many different pictures of me with different hair colors. i don't have any recent pics now, but my hair is different again besides this one. It's black underneath and red and black throughout on the top. It's crazy i know, but i get tired of the same old thing all the time and have to change it every now and then. and it is okay about changing the subject...not a problem at all. God bless
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@estherlou (5015)
• United States
10 Feb 08
No you are not being rude. Everyone can relate to a loss in their family and are trying to empathize with you, but they don't expect your life history. They are just being kind to you. A thank you is sufficient.
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
4 Jan 08
No, it's not rude saying thank you. It's the right thing to say.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
4 Jan 08
That is the only thing you can say to anyone when they say they are sorry is "thank you" or you could say " i appreciate your concern" but to me the best thing to say would be "thank you"..I see not need for you to feel rude by saying "thank you"...When people have told me that when my mother passed thats what i said..
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
4 Jan 08
In situations like yours, ctry, a simple "Thank you," is all that is necessary. It is your way of acknowledging that act of courtesy from a stranger. They say the words that are expected of them, and you reply in a like manner. Most of the time, when you have lost someone dear to you, words can never be enough to cut through the heaviness you feel in your heart; but you will look back on these things later and remember them with the feeling that they really did help you make it through.
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
29 Jan 08
I just say "Thank you". I don't think there is anything wrong with that.
If they ask about what happened, I usually tell them, but if they don't, I just say Thank you and move on.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
29 Jan 08
I just say thank you and move on. No, I don't think you're being rude, I think you're being polite. Take care
@KingPiccolo (95)
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5 Jan 08
It's optional whether you reply or not as previously mentioned, usually if someone tells me sorry for your loss or along those lines, I just say [she/he] was a good person, that way I don't expect a reply either.
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@fec139 (810)
• United States
28 Jan 08
"thank you" is sufficient. you might say "thank you for your kind thoughts" but there is nothing wrong with just "thank you"...they are doing the polite thing. It's just like someone saying "you look nice today" or "i like your blouse". no need to elaborate any further.
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
10 Jan 08
No you are not being rude by saying thank you. Really there are no other words to say. Just a thanks or thank you is good.