Daring to be perfect

Beautifully put! The only thing I would add is that the alleged "perfection" is merely something people are taught to view as perfect or beautiful or manly or whatever. Real perfection, as you clearly know is in one's mind and in one's actions. I remember a little boy from grade school who was new to our class, and when he first came I saw him and thought, that poor little fellow, he is so homely, but day by day as we got to know the boy, we started to see what a nice personality he had and how smart he was and before long he was considered not only one of the most popular boys in town but also one of the cutest. What is pretty, or handsome, or cute always falls into a social reference. Just as one person's junk is another's treasure, so is one person's idea of physical perfection completely different from another's. Because of that, the standard keeps changing, too, which is a good reason not to make permanent changes to one's features. By the way, I truly think the idea some people have that women want their men to be really huge in the well you know department is one of the silliest myths around. See if you can fill in the blanks here: It is not what you have, it is what you _______ ___________ _________!

In terms of physical beauty you have your points and they are good. Why it happens? Well some of it is media and society itself. Another part of it is the selfish intent of the person actually going through any of the telling actions in this matter. Know this too Banita, there is a competition in dating and relationships. Sad to say but in plenty of cases the better you look the better you fare (at least for the inital parts). A lot of this garbage again, underscored by the media (TV, shows, magazines) and general societal thought (plus the actions/thoughts of individuals themselves). Why is it so hard sometimes to take a stand and be different. Again, too much concern for other people, namely what they think. Either you try to obtain the perfect image and you are a (sellout, clown, shallow) or you try to be as unique as possible and you are a (freak, loser, weirdo, not acting your race, not acting your society, etc). Its a no win situation. Frankly on this, society and everyone can go hellbound for all I care. How about another fun thought? People claim there is no need to be perfect and looks do not matter. But really look deep down at that claim in yourself. Look at that claim in others too, I mean really observe it. For a few it does exist, but for many it does not. Even misconceptions, stereotypes, general digust occurs in all people when they visually encounter the specific individuals around them who do not measure up to what they want. Anyone who hasn't had this at any point in their lives, they are lying. At least thats my opinion on it. There are exceptional cases, but I believe they are very few. Again, my opinion and experience on it. It would be nice if this nonsense ended. I do not see it ending for multiple reasons, and just on observations thus far. I doubt societies will cease seeking some false image of perfection. I doubt societies will truly accept anyone that's not "aesthetically pleasing". I doubt societies will truly accept the uniqueness people choose. Here's a solution for the individual. You are great. That's it. That's all. You are great. Someone gives you a dumb look, thats them. A group gives you a stupid look while snickering, up their ---. They do not know you, and they do not know how great you are. You can remember or completely ignore what happens, but the main point is to focus. You are great, never forget it.

Well, you know what they say, "beauty is only skin deep". Often striving for such perfection shows a shallow personality. Sure, this kind of perfection will appeal to other shallow people, but if you're interested in people based more on personality, such perfection is superfluous. Unique characters and variety make life more interesting, rather than a lot of cosmetically perfect air-heads. So I agree with your post!