Doesn't want to have children?
By bishu_sinha
@bishu_sinha (1457)
India
10 responses
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
24 Jan 08
I say all the power to her! My sister never wanted kids, still doesnt (she's going to be 40 this yr)..Its not becuase she doesnt love kids, she does...she was a teacher for yrs and is now a principal..BUT coming from the background that her and I do and all the damaging after affects that background caused us much of which she hasnt healed from, she decided to NOT have children...
to each his own...Not every woman wants to be a parent and I think thats fine..theres no law that says we have to bear children...If one doenst want to then they dont want to..who the hell is anyone else to pass judgement etc ya know...
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@season0907 (671)
• India
24 Jan 08
Hi bishu_sinha,
In my opinion if a woman says that she don't want children, she is not a woman at all.Because women are the secrets of birth and if a woman forgets for what she has born, there is no place for her in this society. Woman should remember that only the children who give them the required support at later stage of their live, however bad a child is, he/she will not leave their moms.
Good Luck.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
24 Jan 08
"In my opinion if a woman says that she don't want children, she is not a woman at all"
*chin hits the floor* ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! A woman that doesnt want children "isnt a woman"?!?! Have you lost your mind?! I'm sorry but that is a VERY repulsive, ignorant, vile and uneducated thing to say! My sister DOESNT want children, never did..so in your eyes she's NOT a woman? WRONG! There are women here who quite happily DON'T want children...so to you they are less than a woman?! WRONG!
"if a woman forgets for what she has born, there is no place for her in this society"
So women that DON'T WANT to bear children don't belong in society?! WOW you really need help! I think that ppl LIKE YOU with that horrid attitude DON'T BELONG in society....
"Woman should remember that only the children who give them the required support at later stage of their live"
OOOH I GET IT! so we should have children so that later in life when we are in need of care they'll be there for us...Ah that makes so much sense now...WRONG! One doesnt give birth and raise a child so that they'll have free care when they are elderly...
"he/she will not leave their moms"
WRONG! oh how wrong you are on that one..I know many ppl who've left their parents and never looked back..I'm one of them...
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
24 Jan 08
What's there to think? It's her choice and it has nothing to do with her fertility or feminine nature. It's a choice that a person makes (for whatever reason) and why should anyone judge that unless she is trying to push her opinion down on people or forcing them to do the same?
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
24 Jan 08
I would think that she knows her own mind and is making the choice that is right for her. I don't believe that women exist only to create children, nor that they have to do so in order to have a fulfilling life.
I know several women that have chosen to not have children for a number of reasons, and a lot of them are very happy with that choice. As far as I'm concerned, the important thing is finding the path in life that makes you happy, not doing what is "expected" of you.
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@justrachel (98)
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24 Jan 08
There are some women who prefer a career and that is their choice. Life is all about choice and not everyone wants the same things out of life. It would be a boring world if we were all the same.
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
24 Jan 08
in todays world,i would think maybe thats a good thing. i always wanted kids and now i have three. i couldn't live with out them they are my world.
i feel it is her choice. there is nothing wrong with it. i think it would be wrong for her to have them if she really didn't want them. i know so many people that has had kids just because they were careless or because they thought it would keep the man they were with at the time. now these poor kids are not takin care of well and sre bounced back and forth between their mother and father.
i think it takes a very strong woman to say she does not want kids and lets no one change her mind. although some people think that is what us women are here for. these people are wrong and need to get with the times.
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
24 Jan 08
I agree with you. I have two beautiful daughters and I wouldn't trade that for the world. However, I know women that have chosen not to have children and they are just as happy. I was lucky enough to go for the career I wanted after they got older, some women want that career instead and that's okay, they don't have to have children to fill fulfilled. There are plenty that have kids that shouldn't be and the children suffer. As for those that think that's all we are here for.....what century are you living in?
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@contact2web (51)
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24 Jan 08
A woman's life is not complete without bearing children. Although sometimes even if we need we would not get the chance that is a different story altogether. We may need somebody to look after in the old age. Hence avoiding having children is a sin. If there is a problem in having children then it is OK.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
24 Jan 08
"Hence avoiding having children is a sin"
Okay ya knwo what...I just have ZERO tolerance for ppl like you and seaon (the first poster) today...You're both idiots! NOT having children is a "sin"? Have a child so you have someone to take care of you when you're older?! what the hell is wrong with you ppl?!
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@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Jan 08
They can be many reasons not to have a child. Perhaps this woman is afraid of her beautiful figure will be ruined because of pregnancy. And the cost to have a child is so high. And you have to be responsible to your child all the time. You have to sacrifice your time and everything.
@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 08
as crazy as it may seems.. yes, i have heard of this.
some women do not want to have children because they do not want to get pregnant, they fear going thru' the labor pains and the actual labor..
some women, i hear.. just do not want to have children because they fear they will not become a good mommy for the child - to them, it is totally not fair to the child, to be brought into this world and not have a good mommy..
i have also heard one that says it is just cruel to bring a child into the world we live in right now.. because the world is not safe anymore..
too many opinions on this matter.. and we should not judge anyone for their opinions.
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
24 Jan 08
I can understand that some people and women may not want to become a mother. It is every person's choice. I always knew I wanted to be a mother. I now have three children. However a childhood friend of mine who even at the age of 12 said she never wanted kids is now 45 and still never wanted children and didn't have any. It doesn't matter at all. To each their own.
@nancy555 (29)
• China
24 Jan 08
Surely it's someone's right to make the decision, and other people should not excoriate and criticize too much. As different people have the different situations, in the whole world some guy are suffering a lot in real society, if she hastily starts a family, however she has no ablilty to educate the kids well, so now do you think should she bear a baby?
