If I had of known...
By vicki2876
@vicki2876 (5636)
Canada
January 28, 2008 5:31am CST
Have you made a response to someones discussion about their life then read another discussion by them and think Oh if I had of known that! I wouldn't have said what I did.
For example
Discussion 1 "I'm getting married"
Discussion 2 "My boyfriend is a crack head"
If I had known your man was a crack head I wouldn't be saying congrats.
So what do you do? Go back and add to your first response? Make a response to the second one ignoring the first? Add a comment about the first in the second? Leave it alone?
Why would you leave out very important info that would change my opinion to a certain way. Like "I am trying to have a baby" "My boyfriend is cheating on me." I wouldn't tell you how to help get pregnant with a man who is cheating on you right?
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12 responses
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Jan 08
I've been in that position a few times. I'll give some advice I think is spot-on, and then see another discussion from the same person that gives me a whole other viewpoint on the issue.
In a way, though, that's part of what's neat about mylot to me! Kind of piecing together everyone's story from a post here, a comment there, a discussion elsewhere. It's like having thousands and thousands of different puzzles sitting in front of me. Of course I don't really try to keep up with every single user, but it's neat when I find myself talking to the same person a lot and learning different things about them, a little at a time. :)
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
31 Jan 08
I do think it is interesting to go back and see where people are at during times of their lives. and even my own. Like I am a total Gemini so there are discussions I have made 6 months ago that don't fit me now at all. Thanks
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
28 Jan 08
This is easily done as sometimes you have only responded to one of the discussions, if they are linked then you could have got the second one or only read the first one, so unless you read all the discussions that are interconnected or followed on from the other you won't get the full story, so it's not always easy and you can't as you know take back what you said, shame there's no edit button this too would come in handy here, but I would move on my friend.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
31 Jan 08
Edit would be a nice addition to Mylot. I would probably edit a few of my responses for sure. I know we can add stuff to it but still. Thanks Wolfie!
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
28 Jan 08
Yea I don't understand ppl like that either....and whenever I've found out something AFTER the fact I'll either go in (to the "congrats" response lets say) and follow up with how I truly feel AFTER having all the info....Does that make sense??
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
29 Jan 08
It does happen. If you want an example, I've got a discussion on gender confusion (and another one on age confusion from far back). People still have trouble disseminating lives on the net so confustion can happen.
I do agree with your thoughts on the presented cases. Both sounded really warped and I would not be congratulating. I'd instead be going "huh" or "wha..?" at minimum. At maximum I'd be tearing people up. Maybe that's one reason people keep certain details hidden. Other reasons may include personal choice, possible embarassment, or perhaps they've mentioned it in the past but don't revisit the items for other different reasons.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
31 Jan 08
I can understand it happening if the discussions were written month apart and may not be still related for valid. But the one that set me off were written within minutes of each other and 37 other discussions from the same person. So I read and posted a congrats on the first and the second was somethings terrible about that person. I thought WTF?
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
30 Jan 08
Yeah this has happened to me a few times. I usually will go back and make a comment to my response about it. But sometimes I don't bother because no one seems to read them anyways, at times, because they never comment back. I like to comment back to members responses on my discussions, but can't always do that either. So it pretty much depends on what the mood of the day is for me if I comment about it.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
31 Jan 08
I think it depends on the time I have too and how I feel. I rarely get on here nowadays so it is even harder. But thanks for sharing Chrislotz
@raychill (6525)
• United States
28 Jan 08
In my opinion a lot of people say a lot of stupid things and ask a lot of ridiculous questions on mylot.
For instance... asking advice on what to do about personal things when most of the people here are strangers. You want your friends opinion? Private message them.
I don't usually answer much in terms of personal stuff unless they're someone i'm particularly fond of on Mylot.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
31 Jan 08
Thanks Raychill, I sometimes like to do just straight answers too that are general cause somethings just seem dumb.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
28 Jan 08
I have noticed that on a few different occasions. It is strange how in one post their s/o can be a great catch and 30 minutes later the same person posts something negative about the same person. I think with these people it is their way of getting the answers they want to hear.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
28 Jan 08
Well yes that would be true. I mean it is like it is written to get people to say what they want to hear but not what they need to hear. Thanks
@bradthechamp (25)
• Australia
28 Jan 08
Yes, for some reason this always seems to happen to me. Why dont they just put it all in the same dusscussion it would make it alot easyer. Glad to see that I am not the only person making a big fool of themselfs
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
28 Jan 08
Thanks for letting me know I am not the only one feeling a bit foolish and see this too.
