When you get good advice here do you thank the member publicly in a discussion..
By ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
United States
February 12, 2008 8:57am CST
I have received a lot of good advice from members of mylot. Some from friends and some from people not even on my friends list. Of course I always apprecite it when someone has obviously take the time to think about my dilemma and puts thought into their response. While I'm reading the response I try to tell them right there in my response to them that I appreciate the advice and more than likely will take it. As for starting a discussion thanking someone I was under the impression that it was against mylot guidelines to start a discussion pertaining to a member here. Personally I feel that a discussion like that can't really be responded to. What can you say when someone is thanking another member? All you can do is agree and maybe say a few words about something the member has done for you. Again...this is just my opinion and I'm asking....how do you thank a member for good advice?
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18 responses
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
12 Feb 08
I think it's better to thank them in the discussion that way they will know what we are talking about and which discussion we are referring to.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
12 Feb 08
I was thinking of this exact thing this morning after I used my homemade frebreeze. I got some great tips on saving money here and am using them. I think that it is cool to make a discussion about it and let people know that the information was useful and the advice was very good.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
12 Feb 08
lol....that homemade febreeze is something I love! I can't tell you how many bottles I've made and used. My kids have even started doing it and thanked me a million times for the idea since it's saving them a lot of money.
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
12 Feb 08
I think any reasonable upright person would do that. I do. Many a times, some people have given very valuable suggestion and I accept and acknowledge their help openly. I consider it as important for me as well as the person who has taken the pain to advise others. He has spared his valuable time in giving useful hints. It is a basic courtesy anyone should extend, particularly recipients.
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@owlwings (43914)
• Cambridge, England
12 Feb 08
I believe that it's a very good idea to thank someone for their advice in a comment. I know the Guidelines say you shouldn't thank people but I think it means that kind of empty 'thank you for responding' after every response. Comments are there to add information so thanking someone for good advice, perhaps saying that you may take it, is definitely a good thing to do!
Starting a new discussion merely for the purpose of thanking people, on the other hand, is NOT a good idea (even if it is addressed to a number of people who helped). The proper place to put thanks is either in a PM or on the discussion where you received the advice.
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@owlwings (43914)
• Cambridge, England
12 Feb 08
Yes, I didn't mean that you shouldn't thank people, of course, only that there is a proper way to do it. Starting a new discussion merely to thank someone is not, in my opinion, a good thing to do and I'm sure that if you look at the guidelines you'll see why.
Anyway, why start a new discussion when you can add a comment to the existing one or send a PM to the person you want to thank?
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
12 Feb 08
I especially think a pm is more in order at times depending on the circumstance.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
12 Feb 08
No, I thank them in the actual discussion where they posted the good advice. I have once pm'd a person and thanked them also.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
12 Feb 08
I think sending a pm makes a thank you much more personal and the person receiving it would appreciate it more.
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@polofield32 (346)
• Philippines
12 Feb 08
Of course! When in need of good advice and somebody gives me one, whether on myLot or in person, I make it point to thank them. I show them how grateful I am for their advice. When thanking a member for a good advice, I simply say thank you. If I followed the advice and it really worked well, I make it a point to update them.
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@owlwings (43914)
• Cambridge, England
12 Feb 08
Good advice doesn't necessarily mean that one agrees, initially. Some really good advice can completely change one's attitude and way of thinking about something.
Naturally, there are discussions which get responses with which we may not agree. That's part of the rich tapestry of life! Sometimes we cannot agree with what someone else says but other times their point of view may cause us to modify ours.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
12 Feb 08
If someone agrees or disagrees with me that is not giving me advice or helping my situation at all. Good advice is when I have written about a problem such as one with my pc and members can help me figure out how to fix it...now THAT is good advice to me.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
13 Feb 08
You are actually telling them right now by writing this discussion..I would suggest that if you have someone you really want to thank personally,it would be proper to send them a private mesage..
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
12 Feb 08
No matter how you choose to thank members who have given advice, ctry, it is alright. I think a PM is nice, or, like you said, a few words in the comments you make will suffice. I find this to be especially true when I have been given help with solving an immediate problem that I'm having.
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@KissThis (3003)
• United States
12 Feb 08
Its been a while since I actually asked any of my friends here on MyLot for advice. When I use to ask for advice I would thank the person on the discussion where I had asked for the advice at. I believe that it is always respectful to thank others for helping you out. I agree with you that it would be hard for others to be able to respond to such a discussion.
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@shinjiao (1457)
• China
13 Feb 08
I agree with you ctry,and if I received good suggestions,I do thank the member in public,I mean,I will say"Thank you,xxx.Your comment is so useful and it helps me a lot" words like this under the member's response.I have seen so many members here are active and they are generous to share their opinions with others.For Mylot,this is a good situation.
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
26 Feb 08
I agree a thank you is suffecient. I don't take mylot serious enough though to take anyone person's advice. I may read all the responses and maybe consider all of them as a whole but I hve never actually taken anyone's paticular advice. People here don't really know me or all the facts pertaining to my problems so I listen and then evaluate everybody's response and with the help of my offline family, I may make a decission. But you are right about not starting a discussion thanking anyone in paticular because I do think it is against the guidelines here.
@lolalolacherrycola (899)
• United States
12 Feb 08
I comment on their response by saying thank you.
I hope this is appropriate.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 Feb 08
I know that it won't earn me any money but I write "thank you" to the person as a comment to the discussion.If they really helped me I want them to know it. And the best and quickest way is to write them personally. And since most that helped me may not be a friend, I'll write them in a comment to a discussion.
@princysherly (28)
• India
13 Feb 08
even i like it if it get advices especially wen 'm in desperation... it really hepls to 've discretion.. and things pop which u actually 've not thought abt... i'll first thank hem and analyse will it be of help for me... cos they spend their tym to read and to giv some soln for us... i wud really appreciate it...
