Money can change one's persons personality....
By lynpreety
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
Philippines
February 26, 2008 6:18am CST
Do you ever experienced or know someone that is nearest to you and have been changed because of money?
I have a very good friend that before she is sweet and very generous not only with me but also with her family and some of our friends anyway she really likes to help. I knew her for almost 10 yrs now and we became good friends through good and bad times. Recently she got a good opportunity that makes her to have more money than before although we help her also and she help us too. But sometimes we noticed and observe her that she was been very demanding and very nagger the way she treated us that she never done before, we only noticed that in only small things that she complained to us she do it sarcastically and we been very disappointed about it. We decided without her knowledge that we must talked to her and we want to tell her that she changed to much but we don't know if she will accept it. We don't want to ruin our friendship but we also want her to realize whats she's been doing is not right and can be a result of losing us.
How about you? what would you do if someone very near to you and been changed because of money?
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17 responses
@flakyyy (11)
• China
27 Feb 08
Hmm,in that case first i would think about the fren who is changing day by day becoz of the money matter,i would think about it several times that he/she might get busy due to the work load and pressure that is having becoz u know to earn lot of money means to devote yourself in some kind of work,it makes u tired as well as self-centered,one dont have much time for others even for their family members.So,theres no need to be afraid of ur friend behaviour or think that u might loose them.There will be a time when they will come to u,just be prepared for that moment,give them support.They will feel better.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
I think you got our point because of course we really been very concerned about her and try to find out whats been happening to her sometimes we feel that she is only acting that way because of stress and pressure just what like you said, that's why up to now we are still trying to have a good conversation to her not to the point of telling her new attitude we just keep have patient for her first.
@histechnoangel (356)
• United States
26 Feb 08
Yes- one of my best friends won her lawsuit and she was supposed to get like 500k. Well she got her money.. got a house.. car, brand new everything... new boyfriend... and I am nowhere in the picture.. not for lack of trying on my part either.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
Wow thats full of material things, maybe she has new friends too that like her...
Thanks have a nice day...
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
27 Feb 08
I have seen this. there are some relatives who were very nice earlier. but after they have started making huge money, they do not care for us anymore. also their attitude has also changed a lot.
Also have seen some who were rich earlier has changed a lot when the financial condition has deteriorated.
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@supeemom (121)
• United States
26 Feb 08
A very close friend of ours came into quite a bit of money from a lawsuit. After he had spent some of it on responsible things like buying a home and paying of debt, he then became very irresponsible and for lack of a better word lazy. He never really turned is back on his friends or became snobby. But he was very "flaky" and unreliable. However, I don't really blame him. He probably got tired of everyone asking him to help bail them out of financial trouble.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
In that case he really don't want friends that are in need thats why he never turned his back on his friends.
Thanks have a nice day...
@jaisundar (215)
•
27 Feb 08
I too have experienced the difference in people when they suddenly grow rich. One of my friend though she was close to me and loving, she wouldn't consider to talk to me when her own grade people are around. The world is like that only. We should only change our thoughts.
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@daniraius (98)
• Romania
27 Feb 08
Unfortunatelly there are many friends who had changed because of money and of their new stile of life, higher than the usual.But they don't realise this or they just don't care about us.I'm not disapponted because this is our society now and for me there are things more important than money.I can't change my friend atitude and in my way i try to go on without any influence of her.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
Yeah I really saw those things from her because she really chang a lot.
Thanks have a nice day..
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
26 Feb 08
I read a saying one day and it said, "Fortune does not change a man - it unmasks him". I think it depends on the person, there are some people that never change just because their finances have increased.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
Yeah I hope that she only had a mask and someday will realize whats been happening to her and accept it.
Thanks have a nice day...
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
26 Feb 08
After 22 years of friendship, me being the strong one, holding her hand thru all her many troubles (and boy, did she have them) she met a rich,rich man, married him, and all of a sudden (because I was married to an airplane pilot) I was below her dignity. She wrote me off in a heartbeat! Her daughter is my god-daughter, so I am still in touch with her (my god daughter) but have not spoken to her mother in years.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
Ohh it was also a sad but it's good that your god daughter still remember you and the mother did not manage to teach her not to keep in touch with you.
Thanks for your story, have a nice day...
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
27 Feb 08
This woman literally broke my heart....and now, I do find it very hard to give to anyone as much as I gave to her. It is one of the sorest points in my life and I'm mature enough I should get over this. 22 years is a long time. Thank you for listening.
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
It depends on a person if he or she will change just because they have a lot of money. Money cant buy friends and family love.. Sometimes it could be the cause of misunderstanding and break ups.. You only have the power coz you have the money to run.. but once you realised that they are all gone I dont know if you still want that power that money can never buy.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
Yeah your right I hope that she can realize it now...
Thanks have a nice day...
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
26 Feb 08
Well, in my opinnion that sounds like a good idea, i hope that it works out for all of you, and only good comes out of it. But seeing that she use to be so nice and generous. she might take it as a sign she needs to start acting right. Goodluck to ya, and let us know how it goes:)
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
Yeeah I hope so, we just been studying it so that we can talk to her not to hurt her feelings and I hope that it works without losing her.
Thanks have a nice day...
@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
27 Feb 08
I would forget about them. It happens lots of things change people like age, hobbies, money, and general circumstances. I think that if you still like the person tell them, if you are willing to let the friendship go then that's the easiest answer because they wont change back until the money runs out.
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
27 Feb 08
many of my friends feels that they are not part of our group because of their achievements. ..although many of my friends said that they are not anymore the same but for me they are still the same because they are good to me.
@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
26 Feb 08
If you think that she changed too much, now is the right time to talk to her. If your friendship is the real friendship, it won't be ruined by it. Instead, talking to her is showing your care. I hope she will appreciate it.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
Yeah your right thats why we really think that and I hope she will appreciate and admit it.
Thanks have a nice day...
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
26 Feb 08
You are absolutely right. A few people in this world cannot be influenced by money. Rest of the population easily be carried away by money. That is the power of money. Today someone can be your close friend, thickest friend, tomorrow when they feel they are well off with plenty of money to spend, they just desert you, because they consider that their ststus is changed and it is lower to move with you. That is most commonly seen in the world.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
Yeah your right thats why sometimes I don't like to be rich because I don't know if I will be like others and be overwhelmed and forget who really I am, I don't like to hurt someone.
Thanks have a nice day...
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
2 Jul 12
I think money changes a lot of the personality of some people. It does not change all the people some people do change. It is same as friends while some friends will be there throughout our lives while some others do not when we have bad times. @zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
1 May 09
I've heard about these stories so many times and always it has got to do with money. Sorry for this late response to this discussion. I have just came across it and thought that it's such a good discussion to answer. Friends come and go actually and the value of friendship is sometimes equaled to money. That is unfortunately true. Though I don't deny that there are truly good friends out there, but at the same time, there are more friends that do have change of hearts as well. That is probably one of life's biggest mystery as to how money can change 20 over years of friendship and more. I read one of the replies to you by our mylot friend and I feel that 22 years of friendship is really long and it's unfortunate that that friend chose to behave estranged towards her. That's a very heartfelt story. I have some friends in my life too whom have changed drastically. Either money or stereotyped thinking have changed them and made them people that I could not relate to anymore. But I'm still friends with some, only those that are very 'on the ball' about money, I tend to pry away slowly but surely.
