Who do you run to?

So, does this mean that your hubby never finds out about what you felt? Well, I guess it does really help to write it out. Sometimes when you confide it to others, you'd usually get more confused as they start giving in their own opinions.

Well, I will talk to him on important stuff, but yes if it something dumb I over-reacted on he doesn't need to know. And sometimes it is important he know how I feel but if it was a "rant" I wrote I can often find a better way to say it, kwim? Writing gets the initial emotion out of it so it can be dealt with more effectively. BTW- the MIL comment is interesting. I have gone to my MIL before when we lived nearby and I talked to her on a more regular basis about daily things. She is VERY quiet when it comes to giving advice- she does an almost too good job about staying out of our business- so I definitely have to flat out ask her opinion if I want it. (Now, to get my mother to be that way...)

That's a creative way of doing it! Just curious, after you've written your songs/poems, what do you do to these? Make a compilation and hand it over to your spouse? :D ...just kidding.

hahaha... I haven't tried talking with my mom-in-law whenever we have marital problems and I think I'll only do so if I'm really, really, really desperate for help.

i want to be very desperate to talk to my mother inlaw....shedosent talk she only barks at you!!!!!!!!

True. When you tell others about your husbands imperfections, it gives your husband a bad image even if that was not really your intention of confiding in others.

Yup, true. Usually when you share your problems about your hubby with other people, they start getting this bad image of the man you married. Even if you tell your closest of the closest friends, they would probably still chitchat about your problems and your husband when you're not around.

Yes, this is one reason I don't vent too much to others. There's a fine line between talking out an issue and disrespecting my husband. I rarely go to my mom about things my husband does that annoy me because she doesn't like him much to begin with so I am certainly not going to add fuel to that fire. Maybe that is why *they* say going to his mother is a good idea- she knows his good qualities and bad...and she accepts him either way...?

Your best friend is a treasure! We rarely do get to find one person you can really be open with about anything. :)

Yup, I think He's the best person you can run to. At least, you're pretty sure He won't be talking about it behind your back because what you tell Him, stays with Him. He's also the only one person who truly understands what you're going through having witnessed it all Himself.

Well said ayou82! :)