I need to help
By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48686)
United Kingdom
March 4, 2008 1:04pm CST
Most of my Friends will have heard Gissi talk about his Dog Friend Molly
Molly's owner is nice Person up until the new Year she used to drink a lot mainly wine but got in a bad way with it, I have to admit that I used to smell it on her every time I saw her, the reason for this I found out a couple of weeks ago
She has no Children, she has never been married, she does not have a Computer so she does not have Friends like me on the Net, she does have a Sister and Nieces and Nephews, well New year she decided no more drinking and she has done really well.
I saw her in the Shop today and she did not look to good, so I asked her how she is
She looked at me and started to cry, she said that she had got in a bad way again on Sunday, she was drinking and she didn't see no point in being in this Life, I was stroking her Arm to try and calm her, I felt so sorry for her
Well I will be keeping an eye on her as from now on, I will go and see her every other Day when I see her Car outside so that she does not feel so alone, she went to visit her Niece this afternoon. I will also get her to come round here and show her what she is able to do on the Computer as she is thinking of getting a Laptop but is worried that she can't use it, so I will teach her
She is about my age, she works to, but this is what is making her worse she broke her Arm and it was bad so she is not able to go back to work yet as her Job is helping Disabled Children and of course she can't lift them or anything, she loves that job and she can't wait to go back to it as that will of course help her to
So for now I will keep an eye on her and go to see her
I asked her why she did not come to see me on Sunday and she said that she does not like putting People out
I have made her promise that she will never think again she is putting me out, that she is to come straight to me and we will sort it
She promised, so I will help her to get over this all and make sure has things to do till she goes back to work
She asked me why was I so kind to her, as no one in the Village really bothers with her
I told her because I am human and everyone has their Faults and People need to realize this before they stick their Noses in the Air, she is a nice Person who is getting rid of a Problem and trying to make the best of it
Do you know anyone that needs your Help?
Do you help no matter what People think of that Person
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14 responses
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I think it is wonderful that you are helping your friend in this way. Her drinking may have gotten out of control. She may need your help as well as the help of others to conquer this problem.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 08
Royal thank you Sweetie and I am listening to you
I do know that she is already with the Doctor for all this I am hoping to help her by being there for her and keep her Company at times so that she does not think to much about things
Thank you Sweetie
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
5 Mar 08
It is good that she is working with her doctor and that she has you in her life. I know you will support her efforts. Keep an eye out for any signs of depression as this could take her backwards in her struggle. Report anything life threatening to her doctor so he can be of assistance to her. I know you will be a vigilant friend. I will keep a candle lit for her.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
5 Mar 08
Sometimes by helping others, we find that we help ourselves. I hope that you find this to be true as you help your friend.
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@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Hi gabs I think thats wonderful your helping her out. Yes definetly I would do it too. I think your right a computer would be great for her. It will keep her mind occuppied. I know I spelled that wrong.hahahah Your a good person gabs with a big heart Im glad your helping. Hugs!xxx
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@taramoon (740)
• Spain
4 Mar 08
Unfortunately now a days people just go round and worry about themselves and not about others, you friend needs all the support she can get, she does have an illness and people just looking at her and brushing her a side because maybe she smells and looks a bit or looks ruff is not going to help her at all but there is nothing you or i could do to change other peoples minds, they only look at the person on the outside and judge but that they can't see that there is a real person in there who could do with a little support and a shoulder to cry on. I would take time out and go the extra mile to help this lady. Luv Tara xx
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 08
Oh I will do
She doesn't smell or anything she keeps herself well it is because they know that she used to drink so much and the only thing you could smell before New Year was the Drink on her I will be helping her so that she does not have a set back again
Love you Sweetie
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@taramoon (740)
• Spain
5 Mar 08
You've got a heart of gold huni just read your post about your scan and doctor don't get worried they done all that to me last month when i was admitted to hospital. Like you i don't drink and had kidney and liver failure but i feel on top of the world now after all my treatment, so don't worry and i'm always here....lol...and there for you. Love Tara xxx
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I love to help others...I think that we are supposed to help others...
I have always been fortunate enough to have friends around that helped me through various things in my life and think that I should also be that way...
No, it does not matter to me what others think of a person...if I can help...I do...I am not a judgemental person and would never let another person decide how i should feel towards another...
You are such a kind hearted person and you are doing the right thing by your friend...we all need someone to lean on now and then...
Love and hugs,
Tina
@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
14 Mar 08
Thank you so much for the best response...
You are such a dear person and a sweet soul....
Huge Hugs,
Tina
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
5 Mar 08
You're doing the right thing here gabs. She sounds like a friend in need and it's a good thing you're around to be that friend. I've helped a few friends out before even when I was told that I was a fool to but it was my choice to help. It made me feel better to help in any way that I could. Bless you for being such a kind person and friend to her! You'll get yours returned ten fold some day.
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@ebberts (784)
• United States
5 Mar 08
Dear one:
God bless you for seeing someones need and helping them. There needs to be more people in this world like you. I think there are probally alot of people who care, but are so tied up in their own lives and their own problems, they feel they don't have time or the energy to help someone. There is such a fullfillment in helping others. If they would take the time to help their lives would be the better for it. We have helped people over the years and have had several live with us from time to time. I would do it all again.
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@GardenGerty (160626)
• United States
8 Mar 08
Gabs I can see where this is going to be helpful for both of you, as you can help your neighbor, and she will be company for you. I know that we, on the lot are good for you, but it is also good for you to be talking to real live humans and it helps you feel needed. You need each other. If she gets a computer and joins us be sure to introduce her around.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
5 Mar 08
I always help people in need,
I have taken people in who have no home, I have spent hours on the phone or internet with lonely people, I have given money when I had it to people,
however I can help I do
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@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
5 Mar 08
You are doing a noble thing. Good for you and you will get good things as a result. Sadly I have made some mistakes, very bad mistakes in my life. I have done things that I am not proud of and the worst of it happened when I had post partum depression after having my daughter almost 6 years ago. Unfortunately I did some things that I am not proud of. And funny how you talk about this. Today I was on a forum and ended up getting into a fight with a bunch of piranhas, they are nasty and cruel and supposed to be professionals??? Well.. I was not an angel with some of them and I did apologize for my wrong doing. It was the right thing to do so I figured I would pay my dues then let it go. Now.. thanks to one piranha, she somehow dug up something that I had written back when I was sick and this was AFTER I had apologized.. and now I have the worst rep, and I worry now that it will ruin business for me in the future. And yes people do have their faults, no one is perfect. I am far from perfect. We all make mistakes and learn from them. I have things now that I am battling. But the ones who have the biggest problems are the ones who stick their noses in the air and judge away.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 08
Mbs
I am sorry that you are going through this it is terrible
I just wish that People would not judge that they would get to know the Person and make their own minds up about that Person
We have all done something bad in our Life's that we regret and I will not believe if someone says they haven't because every one has like you say we all learn out of our Mistakes
I really hope that everything will be ok for you Sweetie
Please let me know how you get on
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
9 Mar 08
Yes there are and it is sad as they do not look at themselves and see their Mistakes that they have made
I guess for some People it is easier to judge others and condemn them for their Mistakes as they can hide behind their own then, but the will not be able to hide for ever
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@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
5 Mar 08
Thanks gabs, you have a very open mind and I like that. Well... all I can say is that I hope one day they'll get theirs. I just have to move on and thats it... and you are right, everyone has done something dark in their past. What matters now is that they learn from it, take responsibility for it, and then it should remain buried.. in the grave where it belongs. Sadly there are plenty of ghouls out there. And those are the ones who are very narrow minded or just downright cruel.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
5 Mar 08
Dear twin being able to help someone is a wonderful thing. In many cases the person needing help is not viewed that positively by others, but isn't that one more reason to do our best to help? LIke you I think it is :):)
Nose in the air attitude seems to come from any kind of people, even some that we think are really nice. I guess they can't help but to judge, when what they should do was to try and see it from the other side.
It's a big effort to change , specially in your friend's case, and she is doing her best - which is damn hard! - no need to get noses up in the air because when we think about it the person making such a big effort deserves much more credit than the ones judging her.
You're doing a nice thing twin, I would do it too - of course.. we're twins :):)
Give her a hug from me, together with my most positive thoughts and wishes that things will feel better for her soon.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 08
My Sweet Twin yes you would help I know you would
I hope that I will be able to help her as much as I can
She is a Nice Lady and I do not care what People think of her or say I have always made up my own Mind about People
Love and Hugs to you
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
4 Mar 08
Hi gabs,
You are one of the kindest, most compassionate people I know, and she's so blessed to have you. Loneliness is such a terrible thing, and there are so many hurting people out there. I hate to see anyone judging others, and many don't ever think what their lives could be like, if 'they' were in such a position. Getting a computer will be a wonderful thing for her, and hopefully she'll see that there are people she can 'meet,' and not feel so alone. My online friends mean so much to me, and yet I am blessed to have family and friends aside from this too. This lady has such a great job too, as it's a special calling to work with these kids.
I've had many people turn to me for help over the years, and I've always done my best, to do what I can. I've sat and listened by the hour to some, as they truly had no one who cared at all. Everyone needs to know that they matter, and that there's somebody who cares about them.
I hope she gets all of the help she needs, and is able to kick her drinking habit for good. Take care. xxx
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 08
Hi there Sweetie
I will help her as much as I can and I think it will help her a lot if I see her and listen to her and keep her Company for a while I hate it to People judging maybe they need to look a bit closer at their own Lifes before judging and maybe they should consider trying to help instead of judging
Love and Hugs to you
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
27 Mar 08
Gabby you are so kind, God put you on this earth to reach out to others. I hope Molly's mom is better now. It is three weeks now I hope she is back to work. We both know how hard it is to not be able to work when that is what we want to do the most.
Thank God you are in her life.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
27 Mar 08
I hope she is not drinking. What was her bad news that got her so upset, did she ever tell you?
I am so glad she has you in her life.
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
4 Mar 08
That is so kind of you to care and be concerned for her. So many people these days just look away and won't give it a second thought. It's nice of you to show her things to do with the pc too!
I try helping my own daughter(s) with their many issues, but it's not very well accepted by them most of the time. I should say my youngest daughter anyway!
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
5 Mar 08
At least the 21 year old is getting better about it! But now her usual response is I know Mom! I can always here her tone, even in instant messages!
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