Do you let unkind remarks hurt you?

When A good friend tells me something about myself that kind of hurts, I KNOW that they are doing it for my own good....they are being honest. I have to kick back and listen. I am very sensitive and complete strangers used to really get to me with rude comments. As I got older, I came to realize that those rude comments most often said more about the person than me. It may be true that my hair looked horrible that day or my outfit didn't suit me. Still what sort of person would go up to a stranger or as in my case...someone behind a counter that can not do a thing to fix what is wrong....and comment on it? I work in a convenience store. I already know that I have a zit on my nose or that I ran out of the house with no time to do my hair....reminding me will only accomplish making me feel more self-concious than I already do. Yesterday, I had a woman come in and ask me if I had broke up with my boyfriend as she hadn't seen him hanging out. I had. She proceeded to offer to "hook me up". when I declined she implyed that I had "no life" and what was wrong with me. I got so annoyed. I said...look you don't even know me outside of this place. She agreed but continued..."do you go to the bars? exactly what do you do for fun?'....oooh i was sooo mad.

Yes there some unkind remark that will benefit us. But not all of them. There are some people making or saying unkind remark or criticism to other without any basis, they just like to comment to pull down the person. They did this because of too much envy. I have an office mate who has this kind of attitude, well i ignore him because i believe in karma. What ever bad thing you did to others, there is a bad effect on you.

I have to admit yes it does get to me. I admit I have low self esteem to begin with so I automatically believe any insult that I get is true. But I am also learning to consider the source in some cases. Sometimes I believe I may be growing a thicker skin, but other times when I am feeling really low, no matter who a negative comment is coming from, will get to me. It also depends on what was said to me, if its something that rubs salt in a wound no matter who said it, it will hurt. I am pretty sensitive however if a friend is giving me some constructive criticism, I may get upset briefly but... I definitely do take it into consideration.

unkind remark is very hurtful and nobody wants to hear those words especially when being thrown to you, i hate criticism but sometimes those also bring good somehow. call it constructive criticism, some unkind remarks are not actually unkind, sometimes those meant to be an enlightenment. whenever i hear unkind remark about me or my work i can easily get offended but only if i hear those words to the people who just love to throw remarks for the sake of hurting my ego, it's in the manner of speaking too, if those remarks were said by my superior in a gentle manner i presume those meant to teach me and let me grow. in that case i won't be insulted.

I can't help but be hurt by unkind remarks. But fortunately I do bounce back easily though. I don't let these unkind remarks embitter me. Usually, I mull over them for just one day and then forget about them the next. I figured I have much better things to do than waste my emotions on such trivial things.

Oh, I don't like it at all. I go into my feelings are hurt, you are a horrible person etc. etc. mode (silently) I back off that after a while and try to put it all in perspective. If I'm really being fair about it, I'll look at what caused the remark, whether the person was having a bad day, etc. I have to remind myself that no one can make me feel bad without my permission yada yada. Sometimes it works. whit

do I let ppls foolish, childish nonsense get to me?? LOL hell no! There was a time when yes it would hurt me and bother me but the reality as I've learned is this....ppl who are or do treat me that way, DON'T KNOW ME at all....so they are just blowing smoke out their behinds and trying to get a rise out of me..I have no time for that or them for that matter

I think you have to accept that everybody's view of you isn't the same. If they have an unkind remark to pass about you, yes, it will hurt, but you have to look upon it as their view of you. At least they've been honest about their feelings, in making this remark, and I appreciate honesty, whether it hurts or not. Indeed, it gives us an opportunity to consider that area of our personality, and to do something to better it in the eyes of others, don't you think? If a derogatory remark was made which I really didn't think was justified, I might ask others for an honest opinion about that area of my life. Then I would weigh one against the other and decide whether I needed to work on it. If not, I would just ignore what the original person making the remark had said, and carry on with my life. Everybody has an opinion, and I think it's good that they feel they can air their opinion of you to your face, both for them... because they are not harbouring bad feelings about you, and for you... because you can do something to better yourself and grow in spirit. Brightest Blessings.

I think I often get hurt because other's unkind remarks.Though I always know it does no good to myself.But I just too sensitive .I really do care about my appearance .sometime I just can't control my emotion .this 's may beacuse I'm not mature enough.

No..i dont want to put S**ts with anybody anymore.. When I was younger i always have problems fighting back because im scared because i get more hurt.

it depends on the person., truth speaks and people should know to accept words from other people. otherwise, grow up! however, never let anyone put down your ego... =)

If someone makes an unkind remark if it's good for me i will accept it.but if its not good then i will wait or an opportunity to pass the same remark on him.I most of the time ignore such people.when someone is unkind i also try to behave unkind with that person.

To be honest, I think I shut down for a little bit until I can clear it in my own head what they just said. Depending on who it is, also, is something to considder. - If its my husband, I usually get hurt depending on what was just said. - if its someone from work, such as a higher up person, I kind of become embarrassed, and again, depending on what was said and what it was about, I'll either get mad or try to work harder so I dont get fired lol. But say, if its my sister or brother and they are just picking on me then It usually doesnt bother me and I just laugh. What do YOU do??

When someone is unkind, i feel down at first. It's natural since i'm only human. Most of my friends know my habit, when someone unkind to me, i rarely speak and only work. After that, i usually try to get on the feet. Tell to myself. Keep going, think positive. Just accept it. Those critism means they are aware and take a look on you. Just do it better next time.

Mostly, I let it show me how not to be! Yes, unkind words hurt.. so I never want to be the one dishing it out.. It doesn't happen to me real often, but when it does, I try to throw it off.. like you said sometimes people like to do it to make themselves feel better about their self and that is so transparent! If it has a grain of truth, I figure, oh well, I knew I wasn't perfect!

of course i will be hurt. though it aint true harsh words can really be hurtful too cause it was said to you and that people think of you as what was said. i have been told bad words already in the past. and these have even made me cry though it was not the truth... i was hurt and could not take that it even came from someone whom i know.

I used to get upset when people would make unkind remarks to me. Then I learned to think about what they said. If there was a good reason, maybe I should make a change. Most of the time I discovered that those remarks was because I was different from the mold of what others were used to. If we could find a common ground then we either became friend or at least learned to tolerate each other.

I think that my first reaction is to bite back, depending on the unkind remark...but most of the time I instantly start to tear up and then I have to hold my breath so I don't say things I'll regret...and I usually end up going off to be alone - most of the time I don't see where the remarks hold a grain of truth (they're things mostly said in anger that don't mean anything) - but even though they aren't true most of the time, it still hurts and is still sometimes hard to get over. Sometimes your mind just doesn't let you forget no matter how hard you try.

Well,it depands on the situations.When someone is mean to me and give unkind remarks,I do feel a little upset ,then I will get over it.When someone is totally ridiculous,I just ignore him like nothing happened.When someone harsh remarks but have a grain of truth,I will think about it and think about myself,maybe I will take it.