Do you like your children?

Have you ever heard of the phrase "Hate the sin and not the sinner"? I don't like what they do and I said to my son just las night, " I don't like what I see you becoming" because he just became a teenager this past October and as the other old saying goes: 'He is smelling his armpits." Please don't ask where it came from because I don't know but that is what he is doing and the attitude is getting out of control, plus I believe my eldest son may be rubbing off on him. You know how that goes! So I wouldn't say that I don't like my children, I just don't like their behavior sometimes.

I'm a mother of 2 incredibly smart, beautiful children. They are both under 6 and can be a complete handful at times. Either way, I love love love my children! There are times when they're acting a fool and I've told both of them that I don't like the way they're acting. I still love and like them, but I don't like their attitudes. They aren't bad children, but sometimes do bad things. There is a huge difference and as long as your children understand the meaning, then it's alright, I think. I do also call my kids brats, trouble makers, rotten, etc... but it's in a playful manner and they know it!

Every parents loves their child very much but sometimes when kids to make trouble parents say something in anger but parents have always soft heart for their kids. It is real hard to raise kids.

Every body like children.Every body who has children love their children not only them but also those who are not gifted by these little flowers also like them.Some are naughty and sweet.They really need care so that they dont go on the wrong path.

We all love our children, but there are days when they do push you to the limits, I think words like brat are what most people use on a bad day and I do not think they say it because they dont like their children. I use brat to describe their behaviour for that time, as soon as I say he has been a little brat today, people immediately know what I mean, but I guess if it is overheard by someone who does not know you it could sound quite mean!!

hi . it is true what i have heard too is almost the same behavior. but love for children varies alot depending on circumstances. for example when the child is sick no body in the family can give him dirty name.

Yes, I absolutely like (and love) my child. I have told him on many occasions that if he wasn't my son and I met him, I would still think he was really cool and want to be his friend. I sincerely mean this. I know the kind of thing you're describing and it makes me crazy. I don't believe in calling a child any kind of name like brat or especially "bad." I hate it when I hear people refer to a child as bad. I can't stand it when I hear those words because I think it can turn into a self fulfilling prophecy. This is not to say that my child is an angel at all times. Far from it, in fact. But even when his behavior is "bad" he is not a bad child. He is a good child, and I adore him. I wish that people would not have children unless they really truly want them and want to appreciate them. You can have a bad day and be a good parent. I just think it's important, crucial really, to endeavor to be your best at all times.

I love my children very much and never say anything demeaning about or to them. I've heard parents putting their children down and it really does make you wonder what in the world are they thinking! When a child hears things like that being said to them or hear their parents telling someone else things like that how does that make them feel? Doesn't it make the child have the same question? Do they really like me?

I love my kids but I admit, when they are getting on my nerves and if I am in a LOW mood and having a bad day, I may say things that I may regret later on. Yesterday I was making their dinner and I was in a horrible mood. I was exhausted and felt violated because of rumors being spread about me. I really didn't want anything to do with my kids to be honest but its my job to take care of them no matter what mood I am in. Well when I took their fish sticks out of the oven, I burned my hand which was the icing on the cake. At at the same time my daughter asks me to get her some water. I BLEW UP at the poor kid and called her a PITA and even said that both her and her brother are pains, she was shocked and right after I realized what I said, I felt like such s***. I can't tell you how many times I apologized to her and kissed her after. She has forgotten about it now but I still feel plenty guilty. But.. I was having a bad day, things happen. Maybe they say these things about their kids because perhaps their kids got into trouble earlier in the day. Hard to say.

Sometimes I try to look at my children (all grown) objectively, and I do wonder if I'd like them, like if I just met them somewhere. I believe I would. They are all unique individuals. Witty, charismatic, talented, compassionate, open minded and respectful. They all take care of themselves so well, have great work ethics. One is a math professor at a University, another a successful pastry chef in a fancy restuarant(as well as a good welder and artist), and the other is a wonderful mother, and singer/songwriter. I have another daughter, as well, who is a fantastic mother to 3 little girls. Sure they have their faults, we all do, but they are interesting and fun to be with. Alot of people have told me so, so it's just not me who thinks this. I'm immensely proud of them. I could never say negative things about my children, I don't know how a parent can. I do acknowlege their shortcomings, but they are also aware of them. I enjoy their company, however, and always look forward to being with them. I don't see how people can have children if they treat them so badly. Someone should only have kids if they know they will love them, and support them, and guide them, and help them to find their "calling" in life. They should always respect their kids, and treat them like precious human beings who have the potential to become a true asset to society. I guess it's ok to think your kid is "pretty" or "smart," but I don't think it's right to overdo that sort of thing. I mean my daughter is beautiful..but I've always told her, "you know you're pretty, and it's a gift, so do good with it. Don't manipulate or control people with your beauty, and always know, that real beauty lies within you, as your physical beauty will always fade." Then I try to teach her about that "real" beauty inside her. That's what really counts in the long run.

i think of kids as a niusance and trouble makers, but im not against children~, they just have to behave sometimes and ill be happy =)

I love my children. They can be trying at times and sometimes we lose our patience but we always love them. :)

I think all parents love their children. Although there maybe some who don't really show it, for sure they love their kids, too. I think it's natural for parents at one point or another dislike their kids like when they're misbehaving and getting into all sorts of trouble. When my kids misbehave, I don't call them names. I would usually tell them jokingly that I'd return them to the hospital where we got them from... :) ...but after every tantrum, trouble, mischievous endeavor your child gives you, at the end of the day, you still love every inch of your own child. :)

I absolutley LOVE my children. I do tend to call my oldest troublemaker, aka spoiled rotten and my youngest needy and defiant. They know I call them those names when they are misbehaving. I also call them the smartest children in their school, bright, intelligent, the most behaved, gratefull, thankfull, mature... I mean, it all depends on the relationship you have with your children. If you're sarcastic, they will be too. They really are smart enough to know the difference. Children are the greatest gifts and everyone knows that.

I was sitting with a group of women a few years back when my children were very young. A women was speaking to the group telling us how one day it dawned on her that she not only loved her children but that she liked them too. She gave it much thought as to why this was ringing such a bell with her that day and said she realized it was possible to love your children but not necessarily like them for what ever reason. It hit me and I had to think really hard on that because I also had thought it was the same thing. I thought how sad it would be if I didn't like my children and did I like my children? I knew for sure I loved them. I soon felt yes this women was right we have to love our children but we don't necessarily have to like them. I was so happy to find out that I not only loved my children but liked them too. Does anyone else ever think about if they like their children or not? Think about anyone in our lives; it could be parents siblings anyone close to us. Do we love them but not really like them?

I love my daughter. Sometime I call her a brat or something when she frustrates me but all in all id never do anything to hurt her or anything like that. It is hard sometimes as I think it is for most people. Other kids however get on my nerves badly. Some kids I just cant stand. Its different when its your own child. But I think it varies a lot depending on the child and the parents. I know a few parents that try their hardest and the child is still bratty, or the parents just dont care. I know a few of those as well.

Yes I like my children and I love them even more. There are times that I dont like what they are doing, but their mistakes, if they learn from them that will make them the ppl they will be in the future. I have never called any of my kids a brat, high maintaince sometimes and I have told them they are spoiled, then they give me that goofy smile and its all good. I also know my kids arent perfect angels, they are children, children like adults make mistakes, thats how we all learn. I am blessed to have my children and I love and like them very much :)