Have you found " the one " ?????
By mark17779
@mark17779 (667)
March 20, 2008 8:50am CST
Have you managed to find your perfect partner/soulmate yet, if so how many years and after how many failed relationships ??
A survey in todays news says us Brits take 22 dates, 3 one night stands and 3 relationships to find our perfect partner.
I thought I had found my perfect partner in my last relationship. she was smart,sexy,funny,caring,fun to be with,good personality.... shows Im not a good judge of character as we split 5 months in to our relationship.
Do you think "the one" is really possible to find or would you rather keep moving on to a different partner ?
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17 responses
@jsarten80 (25)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I thankfully have found my one and only true love. We met in may of 2006 and were married in march of 2007. I had to go through 3 painful relationships before I found my husband and 1 failed marriage to a man who cheated on me with anything that had legs. The guy I was with before my husband, I was with him for 4 years and did not want to get married. I had swore off marriage until I met my husband and then I couldn't get down the aisle fast enough. We celebrated our first anniversary a few weeks ago and we look forward to many more!
@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I believe that it is possible to find "the one" but it isn't like many picture it. I believe I have found the one but there's no certainty of that. Nothing is certain in life. I believe I have found the one, because he is the only boyfriend that I can actually picture my life with, the only one I can picture having a family with, and growing old with. BUt that doesn't mean that there aren't moments that I wonder whether he is the one or not.
I believe that if you can picture yourself with someone in such a way that you never had before with anyone else, it means that maybe there's potential there. And if that's the case and BOTH people feel the same way, not just one, then they need to make certain adjustments in order to make the relationship work. Many relationships and marriages fail because most people don't want to work and relationships/marriages require WORK. People usually want the easy way out so, they divorce or break up. But if two people who are together feel a certain special way about each other and feel that it is worth the time, then I encourage them to work on their relationship if they want to make it. Bearing in mind that it won't be easy, even if they are right for each other, because life isn't easy, but it might be worth it.
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@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
20 Mar 08
i think i have found THE ONE that i have always been looking for and that is my present boyfriend marco diolata ii.. Im so much inlove with this guy that i wanted him and that i also feel that he is gonna be my last.. well, i know i should put an end to what i am saying but this how i wanted it to happen.. well, for now all i think of is the present. by tomorrow, we are turning on our 1st year and 4th monthsary.. yeah i know it is too early for me to say these things but he is the last guy whom i want to spend my life with. it is very tiring to have another guy and doing the firsts firsts again... he is the only guy i was able to introduce to my parents and all i want is for him to be the last guy they'll be seeing until their end comes..
@nataliemurie (96)
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20 Mar 08
I know I've found the one. We're only 17 but we have been together for 3 years & we know each other so well. I wouldn't give him up for anything
@jona_jz (80)
• Philippines
20 Mar 08
DEFINITELY, I have found my ONE and only TRUE love. I met him over the Internet and we've been together for almost a year. We were engaged on June last year and hopefully will get married this coming June.
I have been to to many relationships and I wasn't expecting that I could find my one true love since I was thinking that I already found "them" but just not meant for me. But I was wrong, I found him right before I gave up looking for one.
Whatever you'll do and whoever you meet, you'll really find someone who is meant for you so it doesn't matter if you've been in a lot of relationship as long as you keep your heart open, you will really find the one who is meant for you.
Good luck to all of us!
@soulist (2985)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I honestly feel like I have found the one in my boyfriend. I'm 25 and he's 33 so both of us have had our share of failed relationships. I was engaged and he was married before but neither relationship worked out and taught us both how to really appreciate each other.
@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
21 Mar 08
I am not sure there really is a one. I think there might be several right people for me out there. I have been with my man now for 9 years I think. I really was not in any serious relationships before him. I was more in a series of one night stands with one person at the time.
@TravisE (440)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Finding "the one" is definitely possible. I got lucky in that regard. The first girl I dated (more than twice) is also the love of my life, a true friend and soul mate. She is the single best thing that God ever created. We have been together for 11 years, and married for 6, and a half, so far.
Finding "the one" is possible, but may not be likely. In my case I was not looking for "the one." In fact I had completely given up on finding anyone at all, and then she happened into my life.
@Crysi23 (515)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Yes, the one is possible to find. I have been married for almost 4 years to the one for me. Yes it took awhile after many relationships and after many failed ones. Infact, I have a son from a previous relationship and my husband loves him just like if he was the one that helped create him. We're pregnant with one and we can't be more excited. What I'm telling you is "The one" is out there, you usually find them when you least expect it. Especially when you aren't looking.
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
21 Mar 08
DEFINITELY YES!
after having my heart broken for 3rd time i finally found my "THE ONE" i didnt expect it to come so soon coz usually it takes me at least 2 years to get over the past pain but this one comes right after my heart is broken, it really blows my mind and heart coz when i look at him there is that connection that makes me feel i finally found him.
i tried to ignore such feeling and even warn myself that maybe i was just too hurt from my previous relationship that is why i am having such rebound but NO that is not the case coz each day such feeling is becoming more clear to me and you just know that it is the one you are looking for all this time.
i have a friend who once told me 'IF THERE IS SOMEONE WORTHY OF YOU LOVE, HE WILL COME'. and he does, i am very happy and grateful about it since then.
he's my husband now and we've been together for almost 5years now, wow! time flies! i didnt even realize it that long already, what great about it is that, each day i am excited and looking forward to grow old with him. it is just an amazing feeling.
surely it is worth waiting and fighting!
btw, i met him on my birthday and he is the only person who guess my right age for the first time, haha!
takecare!
@totalcomments_com (167)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I found my wife when I was 22. We love each other very much. She is my soul mate. I made many mistakes in the search but I was her first (everything. Now we have been married for more than 5 years and are expecting a little girl in about 2 weeks. (our first)
@chellekellam (146)
• United States
21 Mar 08
It is definitely possible to find "the one", and it is well worth it. I met my husband in a chat room on the Internet 9 years ago. It started off on a friendship level, but we talked on the phone for hours every day and, after 2 weeks, he came to meet me in person (we lived 9 hours apart). I know this is going to sound extremely corny, but as soon as I looked into his eyes, I just knew this was it. We've been together ever since. We're married and we have a 16-month-old son together. Of course, like every other couple, we have definitely had our problems, but we have always came through them better than we were before. I think a big part of it is that we were both married to other people once before who treated us crappy, so we know how to appreciate something (or someone) good. Personally, I think everyone has to go through one bad relationship in order to fully appreciate and respect a good one.
@alexdra77 (147)
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21 Mar 08
Nope. I havent found the one. i don't think i would want to keep moving on to different partners though.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
21 Mar 08
yes I have found the one for me, it took me through a divorce and living alone for 23 years after the divorce, but I finally found him and I have been with him for 8 years now.
@leeesa (884)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Well maybe I should move to England so I can find my perfect partner. Haven't found him yet and I've been through 3 husbands! Seems the younger girls were a distraction to my men and I couldn't compete! And at my age, there aren't many men left to pick from. I have come to the conclusion that there is no such thing as the perfect mate. I think I am destined to be alone...
@babostwick (2036)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I wish I could saay I have but no I haven't. It is possible and I'm on a journey. Will I find her? I would like to believe so. Been tough on that one. I don't know where she is exactly and who is the one for me. That has more value than any money made. I haven't had many relationships at all to be perfectly honest.