Still getting up early and making breakfast?

I have been married 37 years and have never packed a lunch or made breakfast for my husband. Children change a family's situation. It is draining to deal with the responsibility of a family. I don't think you have anything to feel guilty of. My husband also does his own laundry and irons his own clothes. (I had 5 children close in age like yours are).

No you are not a less loving wife, you are just a tired wife and you have 3 good reasons to be. I used to get up with my hubby every morning at 5 am and get him off to work with a good start, but since I don't live with him right now, I can't and to be honest I like that I don;t have to get up so early. I don't miss that part of our relationship although I miss a lot of other things, like him. He will be visiting me at the end of the month, for a week. I can hardly wait.

My husband leaves @ 2:30AM for work and does not eat breakfast before he leaves as he says it is too early to eat....We will be married for five years this summer and have a four year old Autistic son who some times has sleep issues but beyond that I often work at my cashier job until 9 or 10PM and so often am tired as it is! What I did do in the beginning is get out of bed to see him off but now I do not do that as he wants me to stay in bed...He always kisses me before he leaves and then is home between 10 and 11AM anyways which is when he eats so I don't pack him a lunch either as his eating schedule is so messed up and he wouldn't eat it f I did pack it....He told me that at the very beginning and so I have never done that either! I really don't think that you are a bad wife for staying in bed...Your job with you children is just as important as his! ~Heavens~

You are by no means a less loving wife, you are just a lot busier! It is so sweet that you have the desire to care so tentatively for your husband but you must remember that he is a big boy now and you have other considerations that you need to tend to (ie the children) I hope your husband truly appreciates how incredibly lucky he is to have such a wonderful loving wife.

I've been with my husband for 1 1/2 yrs now and I would get up and fix his breakfast and lunch and get him off to work at 5 am then stay up til time for me to leave for work (around 6:40). When he quit his job and started working for himself about a month ago I stopped making breakfast. We don't have any kids at home (they are all grown) so I don't have that to worry about but don't you worry. He should still appreciate you and if he doesn't then he don't deserve you!!

yeah you are right!! the first two years we can fix all foods we want for our husband but when you become a mother of a few kids that maybe a matter of time management on how to handle responsiblities! there are women outhere i heard that they still do things on their husband despite of the kids. But there are husband too who understand and help thier wives in all household chores! in the relationship it should be give and take to each other!

first of all, i want to welcome you into this mylot community... i already married for more than 2 years now and yes... until now i still pack his breakfast and lunch every morning and send him off to work... like today... even though i am tired and want to sleep and today is my off day, i still don't have the heart not to fix his breakfast and send him to work... but we don't have a child yet... the situation is totally different to you having 3 children... it must be very tiring for you to look after them... so i don't think it makes you a less loving wife if you don't get up in the morning to fix him breakfast and send him to work... he just have to understand how tired you are...

My husband doesn't take lunch to work...not because I won't make it for him...but because he hates to carry lunch with him...and especially since his job entails travelling all over the city (which is all the more reason he should be taking lunch from home....he might get stuck somewhere where he can't get a decent meal). I used to get up early and make breakfast and finish cooking for the day (even though he doesn't carry lunch). But after the second child, it is getting difficult. I find it difficult to get up early (with the 16 month old who is up with me...whatever the time). But now that I will be working too...it's going to be difficult to get the 7 year old ready for school...and the toddler to go with me AND to cook breakfast or any meal for that matter. So, I will be hiring a live-in maid till my little one is a little older....and I will then be able to get up earlier and cook...and HELP the kids get ready. I had the same difficulty in getting up early with my older one too...but he was an easy child...and by the time he was 2, he was independant enough and I could get up earlier to do things....but I think it's going to be harder with the little one now.

I also used to make my husband's lunch, but breakfast he did on his own. But no way are you any less of a wife! He can do it himself, you have more than enough to deal with. And for the same reasons I also stopped making his lunch. I think us wives are overworked at times and most definitely under appreciated.. thats how I feel anyway. And it's also important that you do something for you, instead of for everyone else!!! Let him take care of himself, you have enough to deal with!

I have been married for 8 almost 9 years now and I get up each morning and make my husband breakfast and lunch. I didnt when we first got married but as time went on I feel like I grew into a better wife and now mother for his kids. I dont do it because I think I have to I do it because I want to. If he ever expected it I would stop doing it all together. He gets up early and so I get up with him and when he leaves I get and hour or two to just be me. I get to take a bath or exercise with out having a kid stuck to each leg. It has been a great thing for me.

I can say I am lucky that I need not get up early to make breakfast for the family. Breakfast in my family is pretty simple.... Spread bread with butter and peanut butter and we just grab along the way.

I usually do the same make lunch for him the night before and even though we don't have any kids I find it really hard to get up as early as he does and he really does not have time for breakfast anyway. He usually makes a protein shake in the morning and that is like having breakfast in a way and it gives him plenty of energy too plus it is quick and easy in the morning.

I am sure he does not expect you to get up at such an early hour especially with the kids too. I mean you need to rest up so that you have energy for the day so that you can look after them and him and yourself too. You are just as an important member of the family and should be able to rest up so that you can go about your usual routine and be able to manage everything else that only a mother does.

i think u are feeling the burden of responsibility with three kids its a bit difficult to handle.even my mom has done a lot of work than u she has to take care of our shop also...dont feel that u r less loving wife its the mental stress due to work overload showing on you........play with ue kids and do yoga daily and your problem will be solved...!

We actually pack our own lunches and we usually do it together the night before. I wouldnt get up with him after having 3 children, I'm sure he understands. An idea would be to make up a home made cassarole that he can heat up the next morning before leaving. Just an idea for a nice touch to let him know that you love him and are thinking about him. Or maybe a note in his briefcase or stuck on the mirror in the morning. Just to add a little spice to life. I dont think you're less of a loving wife at all! However if you feel this way maybe doing some special things would help. Good luck!

I miss being able to get up with my husband in the morning, but like you, I have a young child and another on the way, and I need all the sleep I can get. I got up with my husband in the beginning of our marriage and for about 2 years when our older two kids were finally sleeping through the night and before I became pregnant with our now 16 month old. My husband and I are part of a team, both as parents, but also in our marriage. When I am "down", whether I am sick or just overly tired, he helps pick up where I leave off. I do try to make muffins a few times a month so he has something he can grab and go and I also make and freeze pancakes and French toast in case he wants something he can easily heat up, but I do not currently get up with him in the mornings on a regular basis (there is the very rare occasion I do get up, but usually it is just to have some 1-on-1 time with him, not to make him breakfast). It does not mean I love him any less and he knows that, as I am sure your husband does too. It gets better as the little ones grow and you will probably find yourself getting back to doing what works best for your family and your husband will better appreciate it now that he has had to live without it for a while.

I know my mom she is good for cooking a nice breakfast in the morning. I know if we have grits, biscuits and eggs in the kitchen, I know she will end up cooking for us. Especially during the weekends. I really love a hot breakfast during the weekends.

I know people who get up with their hubbys at ungodly hours to see them off to work, I never have really. I started to about a year ago for a time, and then I found out something and swore I would never do it again and so I have not. I do not think it means you are less loving at all, if it does then I must not love mine at all ha ha. I make mine a packed lunch too the night before.

I have never packed my husband a lunch . I only get up earlier than him to prepare the breakfast for us .After breakfast we go to work ,and we eat lunch in our company . We do dinner together at home after work . And this isn't changed after we have child. And in our country ,most couple like us.

I try to look after my husband but now that we have children it is tricky. i also have greater work commitments than I did early on in our marriage. Do not feel guilty for not getting up early - you are helping him just as much by bringing up his family.