why does he make me feel like nothing???? help

First off I am a guy and i will say this because all the woman that have been in my life have always told me i treated them well so here is why i am responding. I have several woman friends who have gone through this including a sister. Men should treat woman like there own mothers and if this guy is doing this it is not you it is him and his issues. I enjoy it when my girlfriend goes out with her friends and i am not with her, why it is called trust and your fiance doesnt have trust in himself or the self esteem in himself. If what you have written is true you need to get out of the realationship for yourself what you feel is not love stand up for yourself and tell him where to go and move on there is someone out for you dont let someone take your character and the person you want to be away from you. You are missing out on wonderful things in life for what. Also keeps this in mind you have a daughter do you want some guy treating your daughter this way i bet he doesnt. hang in there.

**LEAVE HIM NOW!!!** No one deserves what's been done to you. This is sickening! You do have the right to be loved and cherished, not to be treated like refuse. From what I've read it seems like he's not your lover but an abusive family member.

why such a man treat his women like that?! this is really making me angry! dear, angelaglass2008, well first of all we cant stop people including your fiance saying rude thing and un support word and calling you ugly. In fact you are beautiful in your picture.Believe me if you come to Indonesia you can be a movie star with you appearance. I ma not liying. I thing he made it up so that you wouldn't have such dare to cheating on him with another man, not that serious, but he will take in charge to control you. He made it this way so tat you have a low self esteem. And i believe that when a man drunks, he turn out to be the really truth he is(I use to be a waitress so i know lots type of people generous, rude, stingy, twisted lots of type. Don't let his words hurt you. My mother always said to me, Dian, love your self first then somebody else. I know its sound selfish, but it is necessary. Loving our self means we are greatful to the God, for everything that he gave me until to day. I still have my eyes to see, all part of my body. Your fiance can't made eyes like yours or hands that can type this discussion. Only God can. I am pretty sure too that Madonna wouldn't wants him either. If you still love him, deal with him with a cold heart, don't lets any word of him hurt you. but out there lots of better man waiting for you. As long as you happy.

I'm so sorry hun, but your guy is a total loser, a control freak and a pig. You really need to get away from this guy before he destroys you and your daughter. Please hun, get away while you can, he isn't worth the pain and the suffering he causes you.

Angelaglass! If that is a pic of you at the bottom of your post - lord! girl what the hell is wrong with your confidence??? Get out of this relationship man! Whether you are overweight or not LOVE DONT SLAG YOU GIRL! SIMPLE WORDS YOU NEED TO REPEAT OVER AND OVER UNTIL IT SINKS IN IS...LOVE DONT HURT...Take a step back a while and think about things. sit in front of a mirror and LOOK AT YOU...JUST LOOK AT YOURSELF. Your confidence is ..in my opinion...non existent and you 'think' you love him girl! It's no excuse to stay with an oxygen thief like this just because you have a child with him. Do you realize that your child feels all your hurt? even though she may may not be showing it? You say you dont want to leave him? WHY..WHY???? Do you hate yourself so much that you feel you deserve such treatment? Take your daughter and get the hell out of that relationship. When a man lifts his hands to someone he proclaims to love!!! girl read between the lines..thats manipulation!!! You think you unhappy now...you stick around and ALLOW/ENABLE him to carry on making you feel worthless..in hope of him changing??? girl that type of oxygen thief dont change..they see how desperate you are/or seem to want to hold on..and they carry on the abuse!!! YOU ARE SIMPLY HIS PORT IN THE STORM - HIS DOORMAT HIS LIVE-IN MAID...need I say more????? are you only worthy of been that??? ONLY YOU can STOP this...

because hes a jerk!

First of all, the whole baby sitter thing is CRAP. That is also his responsibility. I feel bad for your poor daughter it is not a healthy place to be, I think that if I were you I would be picking up my daughter and taking her away from that atmosphere. Perhaps that would show him....I think he knows he has you where he wants you and he obviously is unhappy with you but at the same time he gets jealous if you have any guy friends. He may love you but again not healthy.

You are not going to get what you want and deserve from this man. He is insecure about the relationship and putting you down is his way of feeling superior to you. He is abusive and does not deserve you at all. If you stay with this man you probably won't make it past your daughters 10th birthday. The violence will only get worse. I had to live in an abusive household growing up and the last straw for my mother was usually when the guy tried to kill her. The last that I can remember clearly, was my mother having her head put in the toilet, The SOB was trying to drown her. The day I saw my mother fight back was the proudest I had ever been of her. Your daughter should not have to live in this kind of environment, it's not fair for her to see or hear your fiance beating or calling you down. She will get to a point where she will think you are all the things he says you are and she will start to disrespect you as much as he does. You must get out ASAP!!! He is a loser and you can do so much better sweety your beautiful and do not let anyone EVER tell you any different. Hugs P.S. if ya need to talk at any time just send me a PM

He is never going to make you feel special, wanted, needed or loved. If you think he's going to change forget it. He won't. They never do. Get out now while you can. Go to an abuse shelter if need be but get away from him. Trust me on this, he's only going to get worse. You do not want to be raising your daughter in that sort of environment. He will treat her like he is treating you. If you won't get out for yourself at least get out for her sake. This is not a good relationship. You need to think of yourself and your daughter and if you marry him it will only escalate from here. Break it off while you can and get clear. Run don't walk in this instance. If you have any family around ask them for help to get away. I've seen so many instances of this and the men only get more abusive as time goes on. You don't deserve that. You deserve to have someone who does treat you special and loves you for who you are. Tell him to hit the road. You don't need him.

Why on earth do you not want to leave him ?????????????? You and your daughter deserve better than that, Be strong and get out of that situation before something goes wrong..

You use the word "fiance", so you are actually engaged to this person and planning on marrying him? Wake up and smell the coffee!

You may be able to get help through al-anon! It is an international group and you can even find online groups! After that you will understand more about what to do with your situation!

You ask for help, but you don't want to leave this poor excuse of a man. You can't change him. He's not going to say or do anything to make you feel special or loved. Wake up and smell the coffee, sweetie. It's okay to be alone until you meet someone you can have a good relationship with.

My suggestion is to be yourself!THIINKING.

My mother was once in a relationship such as this. Lucky for her she got out after awhile. She loved him he supposedly love her but after so much she couldn't deal with the ups and downs of the relationship. She came to terms with knowing that yeah they were good times but the bad outweighed the good by a landslide. She had three kids at the time and she also seen how it effected us seeing her put down and made fun of all the time. It didn't do much for her confidence or esteem, or ours really. He also got drunk alot and was always apologizing for this and that but everytime he'd drink it would start back up..Yeah he'd sometimes go without drinking for a week but still the little nit picks here and there about her appearance. She took care of three kids and and the house all day and he thought she should be dressing sexy and always ready when he was..lucky for her she booted him and I made that a term in my marriage when I got married no drinking..I could see what it does to a marriage or relationship. And drinking is grounds for divorce. I don't ever want to go through what my mom went through. Yeah my husband still has his faults sober but that is easier to deal with.They always say drunks tell the truth when drunk. and If he is always saying your cheating maybe he is the one with a quilty shadow following him around becuase maybe he did or thought about it. I think your a beautiful and got alot going for you and I read that your giving him a last chance. Well I hope that it works out for you and that he finally realizes what he has..Your a keeper girl a diamond. Lets just hope he sees that before it's to late. Good luck and I pray hat things look up for you and your daughter. Have a nice day..

My God girl, you've GOT to get away from this jerk! I hope this doesn't offend you, but you did ask what you should do. You're not even married (thank God!) and he treats you like this? Run, don't walk, out of there as fast as you can. You've got to consider your daughter to, Hon, this isn't good for her either. I don't know you but I don't have to - nobody should ever take this kind of treatment from anyone. Annie

Mental abuse is just as bad as physical abuse where as the abuse last a whole lot longer, and you call him your fiance? uhh uhh, you need to drop the man and move on. You can do a whole lot better. Love is for good, not bad and again like I said before, THAT'S NOT LOVE!!! move on while u can.

Dump him. You can't loose weight when someone is calling you a fat cow. You can't stop being depressed when someone puts you down. He doesn not love you, he loves power. He loves having someone to put down. Find someone who loves you, really loves you, that person will make you feel loved. Don't date drunks. If they cared about themselves, they wouldn't be drunk, if he cared about you, he'd quit drinking. Date someone who either doesn't drink or drinks only 1 drink an hour. His way or the highway, the high way sounds really, really good to me. 6 years is too long to be with him. He pinned you against the wall, and threw you on the floor, what should you do? If you live in the US, call Stop Domestic Violence when he's gone or passed out and plan your escape!

He makes you feel like nothing because your too good for him and he doesn't want you to see that. Because if you do you might leave him for someone better. I think you should because your in an abusive relationship. It may not be physical, but abuse is abuse. You want someone to love you for the way you are not, because of how you look. Even if he wanted you to lose weight he should encourage you, not put you down. If you want someone better, and will give you the love you deserve, you should get your daughter and leave as soon as you can. If you think he will get violent because your leaving him, then don't tell him. I wish you all the best and I hope you find the loving person you deserve.

its a true fact as per ur sentences that he doesnt love u......i really pity at ur situation........dont worry think cool and come up with a bold decision i think u can do it good luck...may god bless you...!