My Husband Has not Spoken to me in 2 Days.....
By slickcut
@slickcut (8141)
United States
April 2, 2008 2:00pm CST
because he is mad because a friend of mine that we both know well,came by my house and she wasgoing to get her a new cell phone and wanted to know if i would like to ride with her....so I said yes...She also said that she would take me by the mailbox so i could send off my bills, and also i had been wanting to go to the health food store,so she said she wouldtake me there as well.....So i went with her...Anyway when we got back he was all puffed up and mad...so now hes not talking and slept in another room...Now this girl i have known for 30 years,shes nice,she comes to see us and always shows respect for myhusband....I had not seen her in a couple of weeks,she is like family...anyway I really don't care if he is pouting or not..He does not work,and neither do I,hes on disability,and i see him 24/7,its not like he never sees me...So i just ignore him because hes acting like a child....I was married before for years to a control freak and i am a grown woman...I havenever done him wrong,its not a trust factor....Hes just a controlling.jealous baby.....Does your husband act this way????I just think hes acting stupid.......
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19 responses
@aero89 (422)
• United States
2 Apr 08
It's a bummer he's not talked to you for so long. Hopefully, this is an isolated incident and he was just having a bad week or something.
You're right, though - you're a grown woman and you can do what you please. If your husband constantly gives you grief about such minor things, then Double Bummer. If he does, you either gotta live with it or leave it.
Good luck (and while he sleeps in the other room, spread out over that bed - all to yourself! :-p might as well make the best of it hehe)
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
2 Apr 08
It use to be a bummer ,but i am use to it now....No it is not an isolated case he does this quite often..Its only jealousy and control,which he has always struggled to get from me..I was married for years to a man i adored and he was like this..I always had butterflies in my stomach worrying about making him mad,this time around with this man,i do not go there...I told him this from the very beginning...Thats how i feel he will live with it or leave...Oh i did i had a beautiful sleep last night all by myself...Hee hee...THANK YOU FOR YOUR RESPONSE
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
2 Apr 08
wow yeah that sounds kinda dumb to me the friend didnt do anything to him , ehh i think he's really just blowing things up outta what they really are..id say dont worry about simply because what he wants is attention and wants you to come to him and say "whats wrong?" making him the victory in his mindless battle that he created ...yeah just go on what your doing and ignore it he'll get over it
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@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
3 Apr 08
your very welcome , yep just keep doing what your doing going on about your day, hopefully and gradually he'll let it go , if not then , well ill say his ego is big as the earth itself , if you give in now just expect more outragous behavior from him
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
2 Apr 08
Hes a man, men are big babies, they like to pout and boo hoo. He is acting like a spoiled little boy whose candy was taken away from him. Good luck, whatever you do, don't kiss his "A$$", he needs to kiss your "butt", maybe I should say kick his A$$, hehe.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
3 Apr 08
i'm sorry to say that your hubby is very childish and yes, he is acting stupidly... it's not like you are going with a man or having an affair with anybody... you are just going out with a girl friend and he knows your friend as well... so what is the big deal??? he has no reason to be jealous with you at all... moreover, we all need a time break sometimes... and he is just acting like a jerk... if my hubby treats me like that, i will ignore him as well... he can do whatever he wants and sleeps wherever he wants... and i won't speak to him ever until he apologises to me... it must be very annoying for you... good luck... hope everything will be fine soon... take care...
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
4 Apr 08
Well today is the 4th day and he is trying to talk,but i am still mad at the way he acted....I cannot deal with his controlling ways...He is here all the time and he does nothing but sit in his recliner and watch TV,he rules the remote,but i cannot let him rule me...I have never done anything bad,i am not a runa round so he has np reason,like you said..Its just he wants to control and i do not go for it....I lived like this for years with my first husband bit i took it , but i have grown since then and life is to short....Thank you for your response...
@aquajules4 (583)
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3 Apr 08
Hi i'm sorry to hear your having husband troubles, i have a husband but i have just ditched a guy that got upset if i wanted time to myself. I'm glad your not taking any of his nonsense. If you do your own thing then it will be good for both of you. He's taking you for granted because you both are together alot of the time. I think it's important for you to have your own time with your friends. Does your husband not have any friends?. Perhaps you should encourage him to see them so you get time with your friends.
I hope it all works out for you.
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@anonymili (3138)
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2 Apr 08
Sorry to hear your husband's behaving like a spoilt child! My husband knows how to sulk but I don't pander to it. I wasted 15 years on my ex and although my husband now is a complete angel compared to my ex, he really does have his moments sometimes. See, if I get het up over something I can forget about it within minutes (or hours if it's extreme) and not hold a grudge but boy, he can sulk for days, so I just let him. If we keep begging them to talk to us or apologise for something we haven't done wrong, they'll just think they can do it again and again so don't let his controlling behaviour upset you. Hope it gets sorted out soon and hope you can talk about it calmly together and you can tell him how you feel about this kind of behaviour, i.e. you went through it with your ex and don't want to have to go through it all over again! Good luck. x
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
2 Apr 08
Oh i do not care at all hes acting silly like a kid...I use to beg my ex and try hard to smooth things but i was just sooooooooo in love...This time around i could care less...I was just wondering if other men acted this way or was i just getting ahold of a bad batch....Lol...As long as he acts this way i just go about my day and ignore the whole thing.....Thanks for your response...
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
10 Apr 08
nope and sometimes I'm the one acting like that..hahahha..and good thing my husband has the patience for me..maybe to solve that, you just need to talk to him! let him understand things and let him know that acting such way will not help you in your relationship! Im sure he just needs your attention, you know!
@manu619 (450)
• India
3 Apr 08
I dont think so..
Because am a Man.. I know about men..
So according to me he may misunderstanted you..
You have to ask him whats in his mind..
Since you are a lady try to make his attention towards you..By loving him,talking to..
Again your husband does the same..
Then try to seduce him..
He may fell in this..
Take this as serious..
If you bend your head a little towards your husband...
You wil get fine..
I think you got it.
@lancingboy (1385)
• United States
3 Apr 08
I think your husband over-reacted. I know people in my family like that and they are so annoying. My mom's husband is like that. She can barely go anywhere outside the house because he thinks she is checking out other guys or vice versa. Well reality check, she is legally blind so I don't think she can see them well enough to check them out in the first place. If she is staring for some reason, she is trying to see what the person looks like.
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@SassyKittyKat (2135)
• Australia
3 Apr 08
Sometimes my husband wants me all to himself and will get a little upset if he thinks I am spending to much time with others but for the most part he lets pretty good in this respect. Your husband seems to act like a little baby.
Honestly, I think letting him not speak to you for 2 days is the wrong move. There is no communication there and in a marriage it's important to communicate what's going on with the other. I think you both need to sit down and talk about it and you need to explain to him what you just explained to us and let him know that you have already been in one marriage with a control freak and you don't need to be another one and you will not stand for it.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
3 Apr 08
what i can say is he is crazy about you and afraid that the day he would lose you would come. so please dont overreact. just go and talk to him, unsderstand him. you would lose nothing.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I do not think you can be so crazy about someone that they cannot get out of your sight...I have NEVER been that crazy about anyone,and i do not think he is either...He wants to control and i cannot let him....If he talks i will talk,but me go to him,????I don't think so,he is the one that acted like a jealous child....
@kuan01 (135)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
you said the when you came home, he gone puffed up and mad? Maybe, if im on his place (let us say that im that man)... if I had a surprise with my wife and i came home that she's not alone. There are so many things would run into my mind, ex. What if she dont like it? When will she come back? and Why did she go without telling me?or Honey! im home, im hungry lets go out for a dinner. There are many reasons why men/women act childish especially when you miss something important like anniversary, date and activities. Try to talk to him why he act like that. Try to understand his side 1st and dont act like he's acting stupid. If you keep on doing things like that, you'll relationship will never as good as it shape before.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
4 Apr 08
First off he does not work,he is on retirement,he is home with me 24/7....He knew where i was going...He is not neglected,hes acting like a child.he is jealouand wants to control my every move...I can see you are not from the USA...But it sounds like you expect a woman to be at a mans command but these days that does not happen.....If he does not want me going anywhere than i don't care if the relationship gets better..He is not my daddy,I am a grown woman......
@myworkid1987 (755)
• United States
3 Apr 08
he needs to get over what ever is upsetting him this way. you went with your friend. lol Did he say why he was angry that you went out with your friend? If my husband got all mad cuz i went out with a friend i would tell him deal with it..your not my mother.
@elshaddai123 (3981)
• Kottayam, India
3 Apr 08
see that love can solve all problems, look to his eyes,and show some comics , he will laugh and come back to you, see that.
@libertarianfreedom21 (3198)
• United States
3 Apr 08
If you love him, i would let him pout till he gets over it. Hes being stupid to get mad b/c you wanted to go out one time. And if he loves you he'll get over it. best of luck to you.
@viewpoint (137)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
I guess he was getting jealous of the attention that you were giving to your friend. He's probably very used to having all your attention all day long. But I think it should be over with by now. Two days is a long time to not be talking with each other for a little thing like this.
