Saying Hello to various people

Well, it seems to me as if your husband is attempting to make himself seem nicer than everyone else. Either way, if he's only speaking to someone based on their race, it comes across as racism. Granted, he may not be, but that is how it appears. Is he racist toward his own race?

I believe everyone is created equal also. I speak to anyone and everyone. No one is better than the other. But there are people who think they are. I just over look them and go on. I have a sister in-law who thinks she's better than me. I speak to her and if she response back great if not of well.

I'm sorry but I find this kind of humerus. To snub a person because they are the same race as you is different. I am like you and smile at ever one and say hi to all that look my way.to me they way you husband is seems to racist on the reverse. Maybe the black man got a bad report on a test and was put off about that. I just think it's funny that your husband thinks that other races are superior. Personally I think we are all alike all races have smart intelligent people and all have some very dumb or stupid people Those things have nothing to do with race or skin color.

Well that's a first to me ...lol I don't care what race anyone is. I have never figured out what makes a person think that a color of ones skin or what area they come from makes then any less or more of a human being. It almost seems as though your husband is constantly trying to prove he isn't prejudice...strange..lol Blessed be, Mari

I always smile and say hello to people I meet also but as it happened with your husband I have got hateful looks for speaking to a person of another race,I myself am not prejudice and do belive that other races or prejudice of White people. I don't think your husband believes they are better he is just being respectful.Have a great day!

I think your husband is just tryng to be politically correct and is in fact overdoing it so it comes off as being condescending to the person smiled at. tellhim to relax and just be himself and do as he has always done and forget the whole race thing.

I am like you the color of a person's skin has nothing to do with how I act towards them. I know someone who is exactly like your husband and is so determined to show that he is not prejudiced or bigoted that he completely over does it. I personally think that there is some kind of reverse psyche at work and he really is just trying to cover it up or not admit, even to himself, his true feelings.

I'm like you suspenseful, I like to smile and acknowledge all races and religions. After all, we all human. Thai people don't usually acknowledge poeple in their neighborhood. However, by me constantly saying "good morinig, and afternoon" in English or Thai over the three years I've lived in this friendly neighborhood,they all acknowledge me, and I've noticed they even speak more often to their neighbors. I love this area, the kids all 'wai' (Thai greeting by joining hands just under the nose, and the girls curtsy slightly). However, instead of saying Swasdee they say, "good morning, granddad." I love it!

It kind of seems that way to me also. I think we should all be treated equally no matter what. That ius what is so wrong with society these days. People are always going for someones looks, race, wealth, etcetera. I wish people would stop judging each other. It makes alot of people feel bad and they live the rest of their lives feeling like they do not fit in or feel accepted.

This seems a little weird to me..I have heard of people being predjudgist but not against their own race...He seems like he does not like white people but only likes black people...I don't understand what kind of statement he is tryin to make here,but we are all equal regardless of race..We were all born into this world as we are and no one is leaaser or superior.....We had no choice in our race...People are people regardless......

is you husband American?if so he needs to read the preamble to the constitution where he will find the following!... to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by ...

When I look at people, I generally don't see a color. I see the person for who the present themselves to be. I've never heard anyone present a situation this way. I tend to be the same as you are and try to speak to whoever speaks to me no matter what their color maybe.

I'm from India. We are neither White nor Black, we are said to be Browns, I guess. Your hubby might just wave his hand at me perhaps. You see, to me it all appears ridiculous to distinguish people as white, black, brown, green, orange and purple just based on the activity of melanin production in their bodies. I do think that your husband overreacted to the situation you recited. His behavior was in fact uncalled for; he could have easily treated them normally and that is what they expect at least to feel comfortable. You just need to bring him to normalcy, he seems to have reached the counter-extreme of racism.

I don't know whether you are right or not,just depends on you.But in my opinion,I think it's not necessary to treat someone on his color,only equally is ok.Maybe the black man is better to do something than other color people in some ways,but as the same,they also are weak in some other ways.(i'm yellow and i'm Chinese,I don't have the racial discrimination)So that's OK just treating each other in equal!After all we are from the same ancestor long long before.

I actually am in my own little world when I go out, so I don't say "hi" to anyone. But, seriously, it does sound like you're describing what some people call "reverse racisim". When anyone prefers any race over another, even over their own race, then they are racist. We are all basically equal, it's just that some have a few genes and life experiences that are different from everyone else. So, I don't see the point of preferring one race over another.

Dont care what color ya are it says we are all created equal and I smile and say Hi to every one dont care if they say hi back!

I agree with what others are saying. If he is trying "too" hard to be nice, it shows that deep down he has some sort of insecurity when it comes to other races.

wow that is strange. i think you need to be nice to all even if they arent so nice. The golden rule do unto others as you wish done upon you or something like that.

i honestly dont agree with your husband coz i feel it is ignorant to behave in such a way but then again he is his own person and have his own belief in life so i cannot say more but just agree to disagree. anyway, to answer your question based on my own honest opinion. i do smile a lot with people who smiles at me doesnt matter if it's a girl or boy, young or old, white or black, asian or american, and so on and so forth. BUT i dont smile to guys who smile out of flirting. i have nothing against them but i dont feel it is right (for my self) to respond to such initial contact. im married and i have such a huge respect of that relationship and love. going back to the topic, i have seen a lot of elders behaving the same way as your husband and some are not that tolerant when it comes to racial thing. i dont blame them coz i think it is part of their generation but i feel it is time to move on now. i have seen kids or other's being hurt really bad because of how others treat them and it is never easy to get over it. i wish most people are more accepting and more respectful about others no matter what color or belief of generation they are. life will be more happy if we only know how to accept and respect. i dont know, i think such thought is still a wishful thinking on my part. oh well. great topic though! takecare!

I think everyone including your husband should say hi to anyone and evryone you meet you should not think yourself or someone else superior than you, we are all equal.