Think Hard: Is it okay with you?

I think marriage should be primarily about your relationship not just to have a family. If you love someone then you accept them in 'sickness and health' whether they can have children or not. My wife and I didn't have children for the first 10 years of our marriage, because that was not why we got married. however now we have a beautiful little girl and we are tremendously blessed.

Personally I have a twelve year old son, so I can't really imagine not being able to have a child. Either because I cannot have one, or because my spouse cannot. I would think it would depend on the strength of the relationship. As I can see how that would be a very hard thing for a couple to deal with. If the relationship is strong and true there are other ways to have a child. One could adopt for just one example, there are a few other. I do not know them all but if I were faced with that situation, I would look into it further.

No! Never. I married with my partener because I love her. I even can't imagine the life without her. So what if your patner can't give u a child. Just tell me, before falling in love or getting married with your partner u ever heard about it that any person make sure that his partener can able to give birth . I dont think that u ever heard about it. For me, if it happend with me,deffinateley i feel bad that i can't have my own child but to have my own child i can not sacrifice my wife.I can't even think in my dreams also. I will choose the second option and u know that. yes I will go for adoption.

If it was true love then of course it would have to be ok. I would definitely adopt. I don't see any problems at all in adopting (except perhaps the hassle some people have found in applying). I could love any child as my own I think as long as I had them from a young age. It would be a different matter though if my partner actually didn't want kids...!

i feel no good .iam agree with you..we must have child for future us.

it would really depend on you. though some people would opt for adoption, others would want their own flesh and blood. there are numerous ways of having a child. you can opt for in vitro. you can discuss it with your partner.

well, i hope that my hubby will be able to give me children and i will be able to conceive as well... but if God says otherwise and we can't have children, then we just have to submit to His will... anyway, we as human can only try and He is the one who make the final decision... as long as we have each other, we are happy... take care and have a nice day...

Well hopefully if it's something they knew before you married they would have told you. I think that while it's hard to deal with you have to remember why you married that person and why you love them, it's not because of the child they could give you. There are other options out there to become parents too and perhaps that would work for you as a couple.

Nope i wouldnt leave, thats not love at all. I would defintely adopt a cchild, and that would really replace for everything else.

Even before my husband and I finally decided to get married, we mutually agreed to have and raise two children; a boy and a girl ideally. After getting married, we were really anxious to have our first child, to the extent that my husband is already monitoring my monthly menstrual cycle. That time, I developed a certain kind of fear somehow - a fear wherein I thought I was barren and that my husband is going to leave me because of this condition. Because of this, we had a heart to heart talk with each other. He assured me that he's going to love and accept me of who I am, my imperfectness and being human, inside and out. It really eased my mind a lot. After almost two years of being married, God finally sent us our best gift from Him. And she's turning three this year. She's still our only child until now, though we never use any contraceptives. I believe that having a child or the ability to bear a child is not the basis of love or showing you truly love someone.

I'm not sure it is possible to say how we would react if that situation happened. I could easily say yes I am fine with it, lets adopt, foster or go down the IVF route. That's now though. If I were to faced with that situation the reality is that I would probably react totally differently. We can not predict how we will respond to a future event beforehand. Instead all we can do is say how we think we may react based on how we view the situation now.

I would be disappointed about not being able to have a baby together. I would still love him...and I would be willing to look into other options available.

i always love kids...thank God i got 2. but if ever i had a partner that can't give me a kid, it would be sad, but adoption is an option too. as long as we're happy together with our adopted baby it doesn't matter if it's our own blood or not.

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I assume by wanting a child you mean wanting to parent. There are lots of different ways you can parent that have nothing to do with sharing your genetic material. Plenty of kids need someone to adopt them or even foster them. If I could not have a child - which I can't or my spine would break - I would look into adoption, which is what I'm going to do in my case. There's no need to reconsider your relationship if this is agreeable to both people.

if its the reality that you cant have a child from the one you love then so be it.besides there is a lot of ways to have a child and call it your own,there is the "babymaker" where you will have to pay for her to have a child from you which requires husband participation,adoption is also one and a lot more ways to have a child that you can call your own.

it would be ok for me, maybe i'll suggest that we should try the artificial insemination, that's what other couples do lol but if it still doesn't, then i can't blame it on him because he also doesn't want to be in that situation either

it would be really hard to accept if ever my partner can't help me conceive a baby. of course we'll still try to consult doctors and kneel lots of prayer to God. but if all things fail and God didn't really willed us to have a baby, i'll consider adapting a baby. i really love to have a baby and i'll make sure that when i adapt someone i will never let him feel that he doesn't came from me. he'll be pampered with lots of love..

I aint marry the gal because she can bear a child. I marrey her cos I feel her; can't give me child, that is cool wid me. Peace!

Nope, I love him and we chose to adopt. We have each other and we have a wonderful son.