Is it me or is it true?!
@hardworkingmom (1130)
United States
April 18, 2008 10:43pm CST
When your spouse(lover) get sick(like having the common cold or something minor that likfe throws your way) they act(or turn)in one of the kids when they're not feeling to well?!
The reason why I asked is because my husband came down with a cold and I had to take him to the doctor, go fill it and pick up his rx(mind you I had to take my youngest to the doctor also do a virus that is going around) and everytime I went to see if my daughter was felling ok my husband starts moaning and groaning,, coughing and all that good stuff. They both had me running around this house like a chicken with no head. My husband was on the cough downstairs and my daughter was upstairs. Then when he started feeling better I think he was still acting like he was going to kill over. Mind I can see it in his face that the meds was taking affect because he havd life in his face again, but he was like he still feel weak and then ask me to get him something or cook him something.
So I was thinking maybe he thought I was mom because I know for fact that his mother would've came to my house and babied him just like the way he wanted me too.
So is it me or do other wives go through the something or similar things like this? I've heard people say that your husband always try to turn you into their mothers(especially if they were momma boys) how true is that?
This wife thing is something new and I'm trying to get the hang of this. Haven't even been married a year yet. July 28th will make it a year.
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Yep, it's a man thing. Not all but most want to be taken care of and seem to think that their wives/girlfriends/partners are mom/maid/nurse all wrapped into one. Mine will lay on the couch sleeping and only wake up to ask me to get him something...yet if I'm sick, I'm still up doing what needs to be done and if I ask him to help he gets anoyed that I'm bugging him.
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@hardworkingmom (1130)
• United States
19 Apr 08
You are so right because I caught is cold and still had to clean cook and everything else. Then after all that was done I was asked how are you feeling. I was like WHAT!! Man if you don't get out of my face.
I was heated.
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I know there are some good ones out there that's why I said "Not all but most". It's good that yours was so helpful when you needed him!
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@suhasuresh (1)
• India
19 Apr 08
Hey. All man are not like that. I want to share one thing what happended few days back. My leg has been fractured a few days back. Doctor asked me to take bed rest for minimum 10 days. He also instructued me not to do anything during that time. I was thinking to call my mom for help during that time. But my husband, realy i should thank him, he treated me like a small kid and he not even let to do anything. He had taken care of all my needs. He cooked for me everything what I need.
@hardworkingmom (1130)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Yea right, do pigs fly LOL! Please he goes back to his normal self. Hon where is this where is that, so by the time him and the kids finish asking me zillions of questions like they don't live here I just get up and do things myself.
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@lucy02 (5015)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I think they are. I didn't get married until I was 39 and I found out the same thing. Also, as soon as I mention not feeling well, my husband becomes terribly sick with whatever I got. I guess this gets him out of waiting on me hand and foot, lol.
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
19 Apr 08
rotflmao LMAO young'un, you have so much to learn.... after you have been married a few years you will learn to throw the old man a box of kleenex, and show him how to heat up his own chicken soup! LMAO My goodness Mom, Sorry sugar I do not mean to laugh but I dare say that every new mother and wife goes through this. :))) And you are right in some ways brides replace mothers for some men.... But let me remind you, we teach them how to treat us. So if you want to baby and mother that is what you will be doing your life long. Nothing wrong with that, if that is what you want. Just take care and think about the next round of colds... You already have a child to raise did you take a husband to raise also?
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@hardworkingmom (1130)
• United States
19 Apr 08
LMAO, thank you so much because that is a real reality check right there. Thank you I need that.
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
19 Apr 08
rotflmao so glad I could be of service to you :))))))
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@podqueen (340)
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19 Apr 08
Men are so funny when they're ill! If they have a cold we call it man-flu because they always make out that it's worse than it actually is! I find it so entertaining! My boyfriend does the same thing when he's ill - he puts on this pathetic childish look as if he's 3 years old and speaks to me like he's going to die any second! I do make him cups of tea or get him water but I won't cook for him because if he REALLY had the flu he wouldn't feel like eating! In the end his stomach gets the better of him and he has to go prepare himself something to eat! If I fall ill I'm usually off my food and I just stay in bed and drink plenty of water but I don't expect him to run round after me and he shouldn't expect me to do the same thing! I suppose it all depends on how much you want to do for your man when he's feeling ill. I wouldn't make a very nurse would I??!! Hee hee!
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Most men I know love to be babied when they're sick, but want their wives to continue doing taking care of the house and kids when they're sick.
My mother made the mistake of giving in to that, and for over 50 years she had to baby my dad.
I learned from her to put my foot down at the beginning. Sure you can be compassionate. Just don't be a doormat.
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Oh yes, hubby whines, moans and groans worse than I do when he is not feeling well.. I just go to bed and just dare anyone to bother me.. and I'll usually get whatever I need for myself.. I do baby him somewhat when he gets sick or laid up.. but he works long hours and I work part time at home.. so I guess a little spoiling isn't too bad.. Actually I'm a bit lucky in that he doesn't ask for much.. And he doesn't want me to be like a mother, maybe a wench, but not a mother.. (No, I'm kidding! Mostly.) Maybe I broke him of expecting to be spoiled by expecting it myself when I got sick!
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@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
20 Apr 08
Okay thats one positive thing I can say about my husband. He does NOT pull that kind of stuff on me. Maybe its because his mother NEVER babied him when he was sick. But when my daughter is sick like she is now with a bad head cold, she LOVES the attention and I admit I am a sucker for it. I tend to baby her even when she isn't that bad health wise, I need to stop or it will backfire in the long run.
@cwilson26 (2735)
• United States
20 Apr 08
Oh yes men are big babies when they are sick. My father is that way and so is my husband but not as bad as your's. A nurse once told me that we wives take over for the mothers once we're married, so true isn't it? Sounds like you had yourself a handful. I have sympathy for you big time. I don't have any kids yet but sometimes I feel I don't need them because my 38 year old husband acts like an 8 year old, lol. My 11 year old niece acts more mature than he does. :)
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
26 Sep 08
I think alot of men do this to their wives. When they get sick, they expect us to take care of them. Most do not do that for us when we are sick though. We still have to fend for ourselves.
@gramskaren (661)
• United States
5 May 08
What you say is so true. They are the biggest babies when they are sick. They act like they are going to die or something. I have no kids at home now so it is just me and him, so he has to have all of the attention. WE have been married 28 years now and his mama would come over in a heart beat to take care of him. He too is the baby o the family. But you know when you are sick at same time as him you get no sympathy either.
@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
26 Apr 08
My husband is so good I sometimes feel I don't deserve him. When he's sick he doesn't tell me or he just shrugs it off unless he is in a lot of pain. At times I don't even know that he's not feeling well until he tells me. In fact, the opposite thing happens. It is I who becomes a "baby" when I get sick. I am the one who wants all the attention. But I have tried not to be like this because I think I am being unfair to him.
Why don't you explain to him that you cannot take care of him and the children at the same time. Tell him that since he's big/old enough he should not "act up" when he's sick specially if your child is also sick.
@phoenix25 (1541)
• United States
6 May 08
Every new wife goes through this. Yes, men turn into absolute babies when they get sick. I was recently sick and my husband had to work the whole time. I spent about 5 whole days in bed because I was so sick. It was rough for me, though, because I also had to take care of my son and take care of myself even though I felt terrible. It was all I could do to get some food for myself and my son, change my son's diapers, and give him something to drink before I had to go lay back down. My husband thinks I'm a baby when I am sick, but he is worse. When we first got married, he would ask me to bring him things and I did it without question. Now, I don't really worry about it too much. I will get him medicine and drinks, but I'm not making him grilled cheese sandwiches or anything. If he is well enough to talk, he's well enough to walk! :) If he is really sick, though, I will make sure he is taken care of, but if he is just being a baby I can tell and I'll let him take care of himself. If I have to tough it out, he can too.
