What would you do?

I would follow my instincts. I might let her know that I have heard the rumours and I am there for her if she needs me. Even if they have done something wrong they should get a second chance. If she has done nothing to harm the relationship between the two of you I see no reason to drop or change it.

You don't wanna tell what kind of crime so it must be pretty bad. It doesn't mean she doesn't trust you,she might be just ashamed and afraid of losing your friendship. I would advice showing her that you're there without saying too much on the subject and she might open up. Some time ago there was a warrant for my partner's arrest-nothing too bad,just not showing up in court,but i didn't know that. And i didn't tell many people because that is pretty embarrassing

Well this person is your friend, she is not the one that commited the crime, it was her husband, so it really has nothing to do with her, she has no control over what her husband does, so this should not change how you feel about this woman. But if she is a true friend, You could tell her that you have heard the rumors about her husband and that if she ever would want to talk about it you are there for her.She probally does need a shoulder to cry on if it is as bad as you say..That is what friends are for.

Who! That is a tough one, but I guess if you know that their is a 'real' friendship between the two of you, that you should be able to talk to her about it. Maybe be subtle about it. Let her know you are hearing rumors going on about them, and not that you believe them, but would like to know the real deal in it all. Of course all done in a subtle way, and as a friend to her. If she values the relationship between you two as much as you do, she will be open and honest about it with you. Who knows, she probably is in need of someone to listen to her about it.It might just be the way to open that door for her. Good luck!

Oh you had to ask me my opinion didn't you!! Ok here it is, I would have asked her I would have been tactful, but I would have asked her!! Sometimes even though we are friends with people we can find it hard to talk to each other about really personal things, especially if there is a crime involved, she might feel ashamed, not know how you would react if she was to tell you, she might not know how to approach you, she might not dare to. My best friend moved about a year ago, and her daughter still attended my sons school, he came home and told me there was a rumour going around that this daughter was pregnant, I was straight on the phone, I was really tactful mind, and just mentioned that I had heard a rumour and that I was not going to listen to the rumour, but if she wanted to tell me then I was happy to listen, she told me then.

Well the police must be fairly sure that they did it if they have charged them but I think innocent until proven guilty in a court of law and youre being a good friend by sticking by them and being there to support them if they need it. I would like to think I could be as compassionate as you are being towards your friends

Oh wow! What a difficult situation for everyone involved! First, I'm so sorry that she and her husband are going through this tough time. This is just totally me, but here's what I would do. This is definitely a time in your friend's life when she needs someone she can confide in. You know she knows that everyone is gossiping and telling their own version of the events that did or didn't take place. She might not know, though, that you are still out there with an open mind and haven't let everyone's gossip turned you against her or made you think she's guilty already. You need to approach her and let her know that first of all, you have heard the rumors that are being spread about her and her husband. But let her know that it doesn't matter what other people are saying because they aren't directly involved or have all the facts. Let her know that you are there for her as an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on. You might even go so far as to say she doesn't even have to talk about what's going on if it makes her feel uncomfortable. Just letting her know that you are still her friend and are there if she needs you are the most important things at this time.

I would go with my gut feeling. I may would tell her that you know about the rumors but that you want her to know that you are her friend and you are there if she needs someone to talk to. I wouldn't say anymore than that about what you have heard about her and her husband but just let her know that you are there if she needs to talk.

Try and ask outright. If they didn't commit the crime they'll need support. If it'll put it in perspective, one of my friends got a crime accusation slapped on him. Rumors flew around and things became rough. However it turned out he didn't do it, but his life took a major hit anyhow (no charges, but the workplace needed a scapegoat...). He told me he was going to get away in due time... but at least he appreciated the support we gave him.

I think that if I were in your position I'd bring the subject up and say that I was there if she wants to talk and I support her. You could perhaps let her know that there's rumour flying around, so that if she wants to quash it by telling her side of the story she can do. I don't know what else you can do really.

Well, to tell you the truth, you never can be sure what your friends and or family are capable of. I have this same problem in our family. We have an issue that should never have arose, and it did, and some of the family members don't believe it could be true. It turns out that it is, and now it's spread all over the news and media. You could try looking up the crime in your local newspapers website, or just keep listening to the radio. Sometimes, you can be surprised what you hear or read. I hope your friend and her husband aren't really being charged with whatever crime they are being accused of. I hate it that our family is going through such hard times due to crimes, and don't wish that pain upon anyone.

ok that is a dificult situation.And it is hard to deal with it.But as a friend you should have confident in them for the fact is not opening and just rumors.But when you talk in private you should lead her to the right place even if you think you have the best friendship you can tell her about the rumors.Then think about the methods to help her through it. If they really commit crime please help her to go to the police station.If she refused to tell you the truth that means she didn't regard you as her friend.So just ignore it.

I just would find a way to casually mention that if she were ever to need someone to talk to, I would be happy to listen and let it go. That way, if she wants to talk, she will.

I would let her know you are there if she wants to talk. Then it is her call whether she wants to open up. She has been charged with a crime, but not convicted and even if she is convicted, then that is when she will really need a friend. Someone who won't judge her for the mistake she made. Ignore the rumours, they are usually blown way out of proportion. She may be too embarrassed to say anything, but if you let her know you are there for her, it may be a good support for her.

Well I've been in the position of being charged with a crime I didn't commit so I know how it feels. Unfortunately a lot of people think "well there must be something or else the police wouldnt suspect them, etc" Not necessarily true, it certainly wasn't true in my situation. I suppose I used to think the same way until it happened to me. I will never forget the people who stuck by me and supported me during that time, and most of them I didn't even discuss the situation with. I just knew they were there for me if I needed them. If I were you I would let your friend know that you're there for her if she needs you. Personally I wouldn't ask her about it, I think you're right not to do so. As you say, if she needs someone to talk to she can approach you about it.

If you feel so strongly may be you can go and tell them so. Nothing beats like having friends around in your difficult times. May be you cna do something to help out too. Why not visit the police station and see the details of evidence they have against them and tell police your side of the story to. You never know it might help them in some way.

If you feel so strongly may be you can go and tell them so. Nothing beats like having friends around in your difficult times. May be you cna do something to help out too. Why not visit the police station and see the details of evidence they have against them and tell police your side of the story to. You never know it might help them in some way.

Well since she is a friend and you see her every day at work, I wouldn't push it. But I would tell her that I am there for her if she needs someone to talk to. I would tell her I have heard the rumors about it and if she felt like talking about it I am there for her. I would tell her I would not judge her but just be a friend that would listen. And then I would leave it alone and wait for her to come to me. If she didn't come to me, then I would just let her be and let her solve the problem in her own way. Whatever the outcome of the case I would not judge her as everyone has their reasons for doing what they do. Just tell her you are there for her if she needs you, but don't get too involved.

If i am on that situation, i would be able to talk to them, and showing them my moral support atleast in some way i can make them fell feel better, atleast i care of what friendship we have... its nice to be kind to one another..

I would first of all pray about it . Then do whatever the Lord would guide me to do. The main purpose would be to find out how I would be of help for my friends to overcome the problem as well as encouraging them that God the almighty loves them the way they are and is able and ready to see them through the situation for the better..