God, what did I do?
By goergineo
@goergineo (1498)
Jordan
April 23, 2008 7:26am CST
After breaking up with her. I decided to go on in my life. I am now with another girlfriend, who I really like.
yesterday we went to the movies. we decided to walk out there instead of driving a car or taking a cap. God, there were the best moments in my life.
during the movie, i did a horrible thing. I called her by my ex-girlfriend's name by mistake. and she got angry and turned into a dragon with a lot of fire getting out of her face.
I called her but she did not answer.
what did I do, I just ruined my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
what should I do now?
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25 responses
@karenkaren (205)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
never give up!
dont let go if ou really like her that much
try to explain to her the reason for your behavior..
if she dont want to listen, try every means possible..
by that she will know that you really is dedicated..
or maybe she just need space or some time to sort her feelings out.
Just wait for some time and you'll see she will talk properly to you eventually.
Just understand women's behavior..
You know us, weird sometimes..
But never give her up!
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@podqueen (340)
•
24 Apr 08
I'm sure your mistake was not intentional. These things happen especially if the relationship is still fresh and new. Yes, she might be feeling hurt being called by your ex's name, it's understandable. Give her a little time and try calling her again to apologise and ask her how she would feel about herself if she had done it to you. Sometimes it helps if the other person is put in your shoes so that can try to understand how you feel too. After all, a relationship works both ways.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
24 Apr 08
i think its a situation that happens with anybody. i had a work mate. he has a gf. but once he told me that it has happened to him as well. he just once called his GF by my name! And you think what she thought! But it was not beyond control as she knew we are friends.
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
24 Apr 08
Ouch. Tha must have hurt her like hell.
Even though it may not have been intentional she might need some time to cool off. I think its just one of those unfortunate things that happens in a relationship but the plus side to it is that it helps to test the stregth of the union.
I hope all works out for the best.
@chenzhiqiang (36)
• China
24 Apr 08
Well,you'd better calm down your heart first,try to ensure her that it's nothing but a mistake.But then you ought to take action so as to warm her heart as soon as possible.
Never kneel down to her if you 've self-confidence that you could handle it.And try to finish it in a short time.
@irened100 (132)
• China
24 Apr 08
If you just made a verbal mistake, and you really really like your girlfriend, try your hardest to explain your feelings to her. Be honest, and sincere as much as possible. Her feelings were hurt, and she probably feels extremely angry or insecure right now, give her time and space to feel better.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
ok, i think that is a bit understandable if it was really an honest mistake... but if i was your girl.. i would be really mad at you too... just give her time and explain to her how come you mentioned a different name... make a good excuse.. or just be honest.
goodluck okay.
@kareng (59167)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Go buy a bouquet of flowers and deliver them in person along with your apology. Hopefully she has cooled off by now. Good luck and don't forget to come back and tell us what happened!
@Candy056 (17)
• China
24 Apr 08
As a girl ,I think it really hurt.At first you'd better think about your own mistake. You call your ex name unconciously, but why?If you have find the real reason,then go to your girlfriend and explain. If she likes you ,and you are really honest, she may forgive you.
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
24 Apr 08
i have to grasp my breath when i read your story, haha kinda like my story but worst
i feel that honest mistake is understandable but you have to understand that it pains a lot and i was really devastated when that happened. it took me awhile before i accept his reason on why it happened and he is fair to give sometime to think about where he really stands in my heart and make a decision after that.
i feel if you are honest that it is just an honest mistake then tell that to her and most of the time guys often misnamed a person doesnt matter if he/she is a special person or not. you can show some studies to her that will back up your reasonings.
you can also let her read this thread and find out that it is such a common thing and though it is a hurtful and painful truth it do happens and not just to her.
anyway, just keep showing her how much you love her and that she is the NOW and the past is just a plain past.
i wish you all the best and hope things will work out with you both somehow.
takecare!
@xhp4786432 (11)
• China
24 Apr 08
hey,you don't worry,I believe she love you, and she will forget that and forgive you.
@kilani123 (864)
• United Arab Emirates
24 Apr 08
give her sometimes. she will realize that she over reacts and she could the one who gives you a call. but be ready man, you have to tell hear the sweetest words ever.
watch your tongue the next time, you don't wanna lose her.
@weiyi5151 (119)
• China
24 Apr 08
hehe, that's really funny,isn't it?
but,defenietly it's your false,you should apologize to her.
she was hurt deeply in heart....
if you don't ,then you won't have bright future with her.
@infobyaj36 (907)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Oh sweetie, you made a mistake. Your life is not ruined it is just confusing. If this girl feels for you the same way you do for her give some time for her to cool down, send her some flowers and an apology note. If it was meant to be she will come back if not your life will move forward and one day you will find someone just as special again to share it with. Remember your life is just that "yours" and it is wonderful to share that life with someone but her being angry does not ruin your life.
Best wishes.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
You know sincerity is the best when you go to her house and explain yourself. If you are really sincere in getting her back, she will feel it.
@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
23 Apr 08
Shite happens.. cant help it.. You could just meet her personally some day, wait by her office with some sweet candy and flowers and apologize. Now the thing is, you could use a little white lies. Tell her that a scene in the movie reminded you of her and that upset you a lot, although now you have moved on. Shed one or two if you can, you know what I mean. And you haven't ruined your life. But how could you do that i ask.. Seems strange..Anyways what's done is done.. Think about what you gonna do to get her back.. Write a book with her name on each page [ sounds extreme] but might work. Try to talk and explain the situation. rational explanation might help although feelings like love and hate are beyond the rules of rationalism. Talk is the only heavy weapon you got bro.. Just use it to the best.. Don't act stupid.. Best of luck
bourne
@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
hey you didn't hurt her intentionally it just slipped. just explain to her what happened and i'm sure she'll understand. just give her time to cool off and you guys can talk about it.
@zhongmingyunky (379)
• China
23 Apr 08
Another Qingchihengkong born!
She apologized to the brave,that she bought on weekdays like most of the items sent to her,and then downstairs to her house,with red candles into a heart to thd charcters,and then ignited and begged her forgiveness,and good luck!
@lizzy0529 (21)
• China
23 Apr 08
Hi guy,this girl is the one has bad looking when she eating?I just response your that topic right now.You are good kid but don't forget that no girl won't be angry when she is called as your ex-girlfriend!
You should find a right time and apologize to her pure-heartedly.Remember,the true heart is the most important thing.