i need help...

So do you know what sets you off? What are your triggers? The first thing you have to do is figure this out. Anger management is only part of the problem. Everyone has triggers usually they are part of a larger issue that is internal to you rather than external to anything else. Figuring out what the trigger is, what the history is and why this is part of your make-up is going to be a journey for you. Another part of learning how to control your anger is learning to know how to see the signs and step back from them. This is also really difficult at first. You have to learn to walk away. If you feel yourself on the brink walk away from the situation rather than stepping into it further. Sounds simple doesn't it? But if you have an anger problem then what you really have is a problem handling your own emotions. It is a maturity issue. Children strike out with their feelings; good feelings result in laugher and glee. Bad feelings result in crys. Anger results often in physical assault. This is because children have no boundaries on how to handle their emotional highs and lows in appropriate ways. They have no standards of behavior that allow them to focus their emotions in positive fashion. When a child is angry he/she is unable to say "I am angry with you and need space to sort out my feelings". A child will simply strike you. When a emotionally mature adult is angry he/she has the ability to recognize anger for what it is and take a step away from the source of the anger. That is really all anger management is. Recognizing anger, learning to step back from anger, learning to manage emotions in more positive ways. We all get angry. It is normal. What is not normal is if you are doing harm to others through your anger or if your anger is violent or unwarranted. I am not trying to insult you at all and I hope that I haven't done so. Emotional intelligence is very difficult. Generally those with violent anger management problems, whether physical or verbal, have something else going on in their lives that they aren't owning. Until you own what is causing you to lash out at those you care for and wreak your future you can't own your anger or manage the outcome. Good luck.

One thing beside a "cooling off" is to actually try and channel the energies. I'd be careful with some of these though, they should be done alone. If you are angry at the day, you can try cooling off or a hobby. If its really built in though, yell it out. Yell out whats wrong, or write it out. If you yell out but noise will be an issue, find an isolated place or just get a pillow and yell into that. Keeping it in can only go so far. For something constructive, maybe write the anger, write a poem or slip into your hobbies as a distraction. Another option, embrace the "anger" a bit more but do it positively. If you are getting angry over injustices, wrongs or things of that nature... that is actually fine and perfectly healthy in my view. Its just a matter of not acting out or lashing out with anger that's the issue. That can be learned through meditation, acceptance (and knowing others accept that you are imperfect in this regard), reflecting, taking time with loved ones, sitting quietly and at peace. You'll have to judge what outlet to use, but there is no need to completely disregard the anger entirely. It can have its own benefits as well. Remember, no violence though. Patience can help too. Just like anti-anger issues, it really can't be taught. I can describe and recommend things however. The things that anger you, are they really a big deal, or do they just come across as a big deal for you only? For example, someone puts the dishes up in a funny way. Not much to get angry over, but I've seen people go far on this one. People have little habits and quirks and its better to take a distant and more rational take on the whole thing, instead of fueling anger. For a quick medication, I recommend a hot bath, at least 6 hours alone and 2 cups of tea. "Doctor's orders" Best of luck getting the anger under control.

Try this: When the emotion is ready to blow out... Collect the anger energy into yourself (use your feeling). Take 3 times of deep breath - along empty everything in your brain (to wash it). The last push of breath must be very relax and slow (as if you throw it out all). Be relax and drink fresh water.

busta1baby do get into anger management classes and let them help you as I know others who have been helped also you might think of some counseling too for the same problem. If you have some really close friend you feel safe in confiding in you should also turn to this friend and ask him or her how they manage to contol their anger. It is somethink we each have to learn to control and I am proud of you for realizing how important it is to learn how to control those angry moments so that you will not overreact and hurt someone whom you love very much. If one of your parents is close to you and is non judgemental you could also use them as a shoulder to cry on and a mentor to help you achieve selfcontrol.

WOW!!! The best the thing i can think to tell u is to pray about the situation and ask God to give the strength to overcome all of this anger. You only have 1 life sweetheart and u should cherish each day. No matter what that day may bring.

You need to find the source of your problem and clearly identify it. Once you have done that, logically think of why it bothers you. Then think of what you could do to fix it and realize it won't be easy most of the time, but with effort and dedication you can do it. It will take time but it is worth it, trust me and just do it, stick through it.

my hubby also has anger management problem... he can't control his anger and can get emotional very easily over small things... he will yell and bang at things when he is not happy... he is really missing out a lot and it almost ruins our marriage... fortunately, God has mercy on us and still protect our marriage... we are getting better now anyway and we try our best to control our anger...

Maybe u can try some meditation. Try to meditate in a peaceful place early in the morning. Try and take as many deep breaths as you can. That will help you to ease off the tension from your body. Do it 10 - 15 times until u feel relaxed and at peace with yourself. Even i suffer from the same problem and meditation has helped me to an extent to control my tantrums. Have a nice day ~pinks~

well whevever i am angry i try following:- Take a punching pad and beat it like hell :) start counting fom 10 to 1,(in reverse order)

Anger problem wefind common in youth or above or almost in all age groups. such type of people need some counselling or tyhe others should restrain themslves instead of reacting. things become hyper and hyper in anger. you should meditation. it will improve your anxieties and other problems.

If I have anger problem I aways go to jog.I through do some sports to give vent to bad emotion.you can try it. I hope that can help you.

Anger is an okay emotion to have, its rage that takes control and you can't stop it sometimes. I've dealt with anger growing up and I unfortunately carried it with me to my adult years. Its a hard habit to break but it will break others before it consumes you. All the advice you have been given will work. You just have to tell yourself that you'll beat this will hard work. Don't get angry just because you can, look for the underlying problem. Get to the root and yank it out, expose it and you'll see that it won't come out to easily. But you can control your thoughts that lead to anger. It's not all in your mind, its in your heart too. Examine what's good about you and focus on what makes you happy, then anger won't seem like such a strong and uncontrolable emotion. Hang in there.

don't worry... everybody has their own anger issues once in a while. i guess one advice i could give you is to be with yourself for a while and give yourself time to relax and reflect. i'm sure it will do good in managing your anger issues.

hey where almost the same, i get easily ticked off with the way things happening in my life. what i usually do is try to think of something else, the most simplest of things. like cellphone, or radio, just about anything that has nothing to do with the trigger of your anger. also when you feel like very mad, try to grab something to read, just about anything, newspaper, book. and try to focus your mind to it. when you feel like your anger have lessen, leave the person you are angry at. so you can calm yourself. that way you can think what words to throw to that person. hope this help you, goodluck

hi bustababy! S M I LE girl!!!!!.. Just try to close your eyes then make it clear. Erased all the things that make you feel anger. Breathe in and out then say....OOOOzzzzzzzzzzz. Let it out slowly open your eyes and say...hhooozzzzzzz. SMILE and twinkle your eyes and giggle your body and scream so loud....haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.! So, i guess you will feel better after that. LOL