Im a lonley single parent. Are you? how do you deal with it and get on with it?

Hello ange, I hope your feeling a little better by now, if not I can tell you, you are not alone and this time will pass. I too was in an abusive relationship that I probably would have stay in if he hadnt started to abuse the children too, I put him in jail and me nor my children have seen or heard from him for 11 years now. The abuse he did to me and my children caused some major trust issues that it has taken till now, 11 years later that I am ready to remarry. I found a wonderful man that is great w/ my kids and his and he knew my issues and was patient enough with me to just show me he could be trusted with my and my childrens hearts. I pray it doesnt take you that long because being a single parent isnt easy by any means, but it is doable, and you seem like a smart enough woman and a good mom that you are going to keep your children as #1 and not endanger them anymore. I always say good happens and when bad happens something good has to come out of it. I know in my case someone asked me how can I find the good in what he did to me. I reply he gave me wonderful children and the good lord gave me the stregnth to protect them. I remember many lonely nights, but I would try to think that a lonely night was better than a battered night. Good luck hun and try to keep your spirits up, look at the smiling faces of your children, that always did it for me. :)

hey hey hey come on relax u r young and beautiful girl seems to be hard as well, and sure can manage this time, i know being a single parent is not easy, but its life dear so just relax and wait dont get depressed, ljust have one thing in mind that mother can never think bad of her kids so whatever u r doing for them is great. and i am sure soon u will find Mr right as well. in mean while just change ur life style, take kids to park or have some friendship with colleagues. wish u all the best

I think maybe think just how lucky you really are, count your blessing so to speak, I live alone and have no family at all, I know you are young but maybe if you thinkof the blessings you do have and how there are worse situations to be in. you really are lucky....

Good luck...it isn't easy. I have raised 4 on my own. I also came from an abusive marriage. After several trial and error....oh this is the one...relationships, I gave up. When I left the last "live-in" relationship to a man that I was engaged to, I promised my kids...its just you and me...never again will I put you thru that. I dated but did not involve any man in my kids lives at all. I actually happily dated a man for almost 10 years without involving him with my kids. Kids are grown now but I still have one at home...she is 14. I have tried...it is hard. most men expect you to find a sitter all the time or to just take over your household and start discipling your kids for you. This would not have been me a few years ago...but i've actually found a spot where I am ok without a man. If I have a man in my life, he will blend into my life but he sure is not going to be more work than I already have. I've grown very independent. You will too. give yourself some time and you will make wiser choices in men.

It is very hard being on your own with young children and I can understand how lonely and depressed you must get but you are lucky because you have your children. Don't despair that you will never find someone because I am sure you will. There are some lovely men out there who would make wonderful fathers for your babies so don't let negative thoughts drag you down. I know staying positive can be hard at times but someone will come along. Have you read The Secret? If you read it and practice it then your life will improve. Why not try it? What have you got to lose? Only those negative thoughts that are dragging you down. Chin up kiddo it will get better.

It sound's like you are using your kid's as a barrier. We all want the best for our children and like you mentioned, you have to be carefull who you let around them. But we all need a break at time's and being a good parent does not mean you should not be allowed happiness yourself. Ask a family member/mate to look after your children one night and go out and see what happen's. Night's out aint allways about "one night stand's", some people do actually go out looking to find a partner (ive come across some).