Making A New Friend?

I am always smiling and speaking to people just to be polite. If they are interested in a friendship, all they have to do is smile and speak back. Then one of us will find something to small talk about and then move on to more personal issues over time. Then we can exchange phone numbers and the rest is history.

I'll check her out:) In the real world, I'm not so good at making friends. I'm quite shy and therefore not outgoing. SOmeone else has to strike up a conversation with me. I just be myself, and when the opportunity arises to show that self, I let it. Sometimes people think I'm a freak and I never see them again. Other times they are down right ignorant, so I gotta show my prideful side and we become "enemies". Other times I make a connection and continue to hang around them In all honesty I only have three true friends outside of my family and online buddies. I have a handful of aquaintences that call me a friend when they need or want something from me, but that's about it.

Hi, again Minnie I sent a request to add as friend to Tia. Just waiting for responce. Maybe we can get her to talking.

Hi Minnie, I found the only way to make new friends, is to just open up and start talking to people. Don't put on any kind of a front though. Just be yourself if you like yourself any at all you will make friends. Fist you have to like yourself, and others can't help but like you also. Hi Tia, glad to have you here with us at mylot. Don't just set back and read what others have said. Start a discussion,and talk or ask questions about things that you would like to talk about.

Well, the one thing that I have found that always works,at least as an ice breaker is to compliment them on something. If its someone that you know a little about, you may want to comment on something that you know them to be passionate about. I always made that a habit when I had a job that took me into peoples houses. I would look to see what they are passionate about. That almost always stands out. If its their children, there are pictures every where. If they collect tea pots, those tea pots are gonna have a place of honor in their home. The one thing that most anyone will talk to you about is something they are passionate about... so just give them what they want and who knows you may just gain a new passion yourself.

Welcome Tia I look forward to getting to know you! Minnie, thanks for the introduction that's very nice of you.,

i haven't had a chance to meet your new friend yet... but i promise i will... i already say welcome to her in your father's discussion... anyway, when i make friends in a real world, i just smile, try to be as friendly as i can and introduce myself... that's it...

Hi and welcome Tia. My name is Howard and you have another new friend to add to your list.

I put in a friends request right after I read your dads post and she accepted I am pleased to say! I look forward to getting to know her better over time. I find it easy to make friends in real life as I am very outgoing and extremely chatty! xxxx

Hi minnie_98214! yes, I have responded to your dad's post and requested her as a friend but until now my request is pending. haha.. However, with regards to your question how do I make new friends in the real world. You are right, it is not easy. In the real world, people tend to be more timid and not that open to what they really think and feel. I, for example tend to shy away. It is different here because we can get to communicate easily and be open to what we really feel and think. In the real world, it is not that easy. I guess, it takes time to get to know someone personally. Trust is a big factor before true friendship begins. Just my thoughts dear friend. Take care and have a nice day!

I hate to admit it, but I'm actually kind of shy in the "real world." It takes me awhile to get comfortable and show off my real personality to other people. It's all the better if I meet someone more outgoing than I am. I think it takes time. I'm not the biggest fan of small talk, but that's where it usually starts. Then, I might throw in one of my stupid jokes or goofy ideas to see what kind of reaction I get. It all takes time. You start off as acquaintances. I don't just go up to people and say "Hey, be my friend!" or "Want to be me friend?"

I used to just go up to people and start talking to them, if I wanted to be friends with someone I was never bothered about striking up a conversation. Of course then I could never see the bad in anyone and just used to want to be friends with everyone. Then came the realisation that the friends I thought I had were in fact all very two faced and thought nothing of stabbing me in the back and so I stopped bothering with friends, it just was not worth the hurt when I found out what they really thought of me. But I am happy with the friends that I am making on here, it is different somehow.

Yeah, that is always great to make lots of new friends. And you will get to know them eventually. And you share your values with them. And they will do the same for you. So all of you will help each other. Communication is really important among friends. Have you ever heard of MySpace and/or MyYearbook? These sites are where you make new friends. www.myspace.com and www.myyearbook.com

I have requested her friendship and will start responding to her discussions as soon as possible.. My husband and I do flea markets 6 days a week and we have made so many friends while doing this.. I have always wondered what my talents in life were, everyone has at least one, well, my talent is making friends.. It is so very easy for me to make friends and keep friends.. I believe in listening when they talk, care about them and their problems and just being there for them in general.. I do give advice sometimes but not to much, as most of the time, people just want your ear and not your advice..

Yes hon, I already asked for her friend connection. In the real world, I don't try to make friends, I just be me and it just happens,

I've already added her. I have a hard time making friends. I didn't so much when I was younger. I tend to be a bit of a loner, always have. I am much more comfortable around dogs than people, lol. I guess its insecurity. You know that your dog is gonna love you no matter what.

It is so easy for me to make friends online. I was never good at making and keeping friends in my real life though. I have tried to have friends for many years but it never works out. I just recently tried last year in my adult years also to be friends with other adults and it wnet nowhere. My husband and my daughter are my only true friends.

Yes I agree it's a lot harder to become friends in the "real" world...I used to be real painfully shy as a kid and making friends was like torture for me when I was younger..LOL...to a certain extent I can still be shy, but I've actually gotten a lot more extroverted and downright chatty with people. This is true if say I'm in the supermarket and I see someone that I've seen several times....I'll then strike up a conversation...yup--little shy me starts off. The best place to strike up a possible friendship is in the pet food isle..LOL..we pet owners just LOVE to yak about their furbabies...this is how I met my one friend now of over twenty years. This was in the 1980s...the two of us were in the pet food isle both picking up food for our poor deprived kitties...LOL--"Bobbie" then blurted out "I swear my Sparky is the reincarnation of my Toby" Then THAT got us talking about reincarnation and a very heavy duty mystical metaphysical and philosophical kind of conversation...in the pet food isle...and this was around the time Shirley McClaine's book and soon to be mini-series Out on a Limb was popular...Anyway..point being...friendships can be found in the funniest places.

When you meet someone with common interests I think that is the best way to start a friendship....then it goes from there...Most of my friends share common interests that we can share together....but I don't have hords of friends....just a few really good ones!

Well I'll have to say hello Tia. Its hard for me to make friends because I'm soooo bashful, and I've been that way all my life, I don't like it either. I'll meet someone new and I don't know what to say to them, they probably think I'm snooty, but I'm just so shy. I'm just now getting to where I'll talk to my husbands family without being bashful and we've been married 5 yrs now...lol. Usually you'll have to come up to me first, I won't go to you first. So that must mean I don't have very many friends..lol. I do have a couple close friends, that I'm around alot.