im a mom i deserve respect not to be talked about

After having a child you realize they did not give you a "how to" booklet. You just have do the best you can with your child and you are the one who knows what is best. Staying at home is a hard job, I respect ANY mother who chooses that one! You do sound like you need a break. To be a great mother, I believe in taking care of yourself also.... Seriously, hire a sitter and go have some fun. You will be refreshed and ready to continue! ;)

Welcome to motherhood. It doesn't stop. Someone always thinks they know better than you do. Sometimes its wise to take advice if it's someone you're comfortable with. As far as not having breaks to do anything for yourself, not even taking a shower, again, welcome to motherhood. Get used to not being able to use the bathroom without a little head popping in the door, wanting to know what you're doing. Get used to being thankful when bedtime rolls around so you have time to breathe for half a second before you have to dive into all the housework and laundry you haven't gotten accomplished that day. And love every minute of it, because there is no gift like being a mother.

Love you are not alone by a long shot. I have been in the same boat for the past 4yrs. I am a full time stay home mom also. My youngest is 4 and goes to preschool part time. I have a medicle condition that limits what and who much I can do arround the hous but I do make shure that I get those things done on a daily basis. As far as a shower.....what is that. Like I said my youngest is 4. I have a total of 4 kids and when my older ones get home from school I am going non stop with home work, dinner, baths, and then bed. Then my job is not done. I get told far too often that I should do this and that. Yes it is anoying I dont deny that at all. What I used to tell people....especially strangers is this :thank you but I am already doingthat and IF I need help I will ask my mom or a family member. As far as family I just took everything with a grain of salt and let them be the protective family that they are trying to be. Like you they want what is best for your child and they feel that by voulinteering there parenting tips they feel like they hare having a part in your childs growth and development.

I hear you, I have certainly been there myself. My own Mother does it too. She was a great mom, but sometimes she will tell me to do stuff with my kids that she never did, this kind of bugs me. I know I am a good mom and I won't let anyone tell me otherwise.

sorry i can not understand your feeling,i am a boy.

I hate to agree with the other poster but it's true, this is a major part of motherhood. I'll straight up tell you my mom was a horrible mother and thanks to that I am so different from her and think I'm a pretty darn great mom, but don't you know she tries to tell me all the time what to do with my son. SO you know what I did, :) I moved 800 miles away from her! Fixed that problem right up! i realize that isn't possible for everyone, but you're an adult. Tel her look, you need to back off or I will have to limit the time you are around myself, cause you are making me crazy. Either she will lay off or she won't but either way, yuo'll have made your point and given her fair warning!

WOW Wecome to motherhood! If you think it will get any easier, think again. People are always full of help especially to new moms. They are only trying to help you, it isn't that they are trying to critize you or anything like that. Why would you think that anyway? I was happy to get helpful tips that I didn't know. Sometimes its wise to take advice especially if it's from someone you're close to. As far as breaks, you can take a shower when the baby is sleeping. Wake up a little earlier to have an hour of me time including the shower. Every new mom has to learn how to get some me time after having a baby. As the child gets older, you will have to get used to not being able to use the bathroom without a little head popping in the door, wanting to know what you're doing. When my daughter was little, I would get up with my mother before she went to work. I'd take a bath, get some coffee and breakfast and talk to my mother before she left for the day. Then I was ready for my day with my daughter. We'd play, read stories, etc. and have a good time. NAP time came and I'd start to pick up the swarm of toys and I eventually got her to help with that. They like to do what you do. lol Then after the toys were picked up, I'd put her down for her nap and clean the house or if I didn't have to do that, I'd lay down for my nap with her. You will start to love every minute of it, because there is no gift like being a mother. Again welcome to the world of motherhood

I understand. My Mom of course always had to put her 2 cents in ALL the time! Whether I wanted to hear it or not. I just kinda said yeah, yeah, and let go in one ear and right out the other. My sisters all had kids before me, but they weren't really that bad. I usually asked them questions every once in a while so they really didn't have to tell me how I should do stuff. But it would drive me crazy when people would find out he was my first (and only) child. For some reason its like, "Oh your first one.....well you should do such and such", or looking in your shopping cart saying, "Oh those are the cheap diapers, you should try....". It's like WHO ASKED YOU? Could you please BUTT OUT!!?? One thing I have to say though, is- (see I can't even stop advising!) I used to take my son in the bathroom in his car seat, so I could take a shower. Sorry I had to say it! Sometimes a nice hot shower makes all the difference. #:)

I understand how you feel. I've been through that but I do what best for my kids ignoring what they say, But sometimes as new mom I gather some ideas that will help me also but not to the point that they want to mind my business. Sometime we need supervision from the well experience mother but that all. I will not let them dictate me to do what the best for my kids I have my own mind and I want to enjoy the feeling of being a mother. Ignore them...

Everybody's an expert when it comes to your child! Been there, done that! Pay no attention to them, you'll probably have to listen to a lot of that. Many moms learn from their mistakes but it's too late by then so they want to pass it on. But what might have been the right thing for their child won't work with yours. Enjoy motherhood with all it's irritations and joys. There's nothing like it and I wouldn't trade it for anything! And keep in mind that you're doing the toughest, most important job in this world and many people respect you for it.

yes you do deserve to be treated with respect as a mom and anyone who grills you like that is just plain rude.I would just walk away when they start in as they do not deserve your time and energy. when I was a young mom I had thesame thing happen to me and after somuch of it i just plain said excuse me and walked off leavingthem yakkingaway for nothing. you do not owe them anything as they were the ones who started in on you.

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As a stay at home mom of 5, I completely understand where you're coming from, on all points. My own mother tried to do the same thing, and funny thing was, she was such a bad parent to me, I moved out of her house when I was 12. Just stand your ground and voice your opinion. Eventually the unwanted advice will die down.

first of all i am sure you are a great mom. no one else can define who you are and what you do and you should not allow them to. pat yourself on the back at the end of the day for a job well done and know that your child will benefit from having her mommy there with her to raise her. we do not need to look to others for respect because we do not need them to validate what we do and who we are. we know our own hearts and how much we do each and every day for our children. moms are some of the strongest people i know and we can run rings around most people but we do not need to stand in judgement and we do not need their approval. be glad for who you are and what you are to your child and the heck with everyone else.