I don't want to pretend

When u are hurt by something that your bf says to u, u should tell him so.. There's no point in crying and hiding in 1 corner, like u say nobody understands u.. U and him and everybody are humans, we do make mistakes unknowingly.. Unless u know for sure that he said that things just to hurt u because he is jealous or angry, than by all means ignore him.. Cry it out, let it go, express it out and vent it out in watever ways u can.. U can dun talk to anyone about this thing right now, but u can open up slowly 1 day.. Wat matters is the present..

That's one thing I like about being able to write. I can express my thoughts and feelings freely when I want to. So whatever is on your mind right now, go ahead and write what you want. Everyone here is ready to read your thoughts!

can I call you dear? I usually call my female friends DEAR, and they do so as well. Dear, I think most girls are sensitive. I am one of them, too. And that's really hateful for most time. I wish myself to be so insensitive that I could ignore his not calling me up, and that I could forget the hurting words he said in the quarrel, and that I could think more about myself but not him. However, with a sensitive nature, I cannot change anything. So, I quit him finally. And he said nothing. My traditional Chinese girls will always 'think this is my faults. Had I....' things like this. Well, if it is really his fault, I think at least 'sorry' should be heart. Good luck.

People can be oblivious to the fact that what they do or say may actually do or say. I'm guilty of this sometimes. I sometimes blurt out something and I wouldnt know that I already hurt someone. My advice is that you tell them that you're hurt by what they said or what they did. I'm sure they'll be more sensitive the next time around.

my darling you dont have to lie here, you can express your feelings and write them down, who knows, you will probabaly find someone that has gone through the same thing like you , and you can find someone that understand you

No need of you to worry about this now. Try to relax. Involve in some thing which will make you relax like listening soft music or watching a movie or things like that. After a while and after you become better, you can think about the whole episode. Rethink about the situation and assess whether it was yours or your boy friend's fault. After assessing and viewing the details of the matter, approch him and have a discussion with him. Just explain him what was your intention and how much you were hurt by his behaviour. Try to make him understand your feelings in a very soft manner. I think he will realize his fault and then tell him how much you care for him and how much you hurt when he behave like this. And also how important he is in your life.

if you will not tell him he hurt you, how will he know, and he will do it again because he doesn't know he hurt you, the only way to ever make the situation better is to let him know how you feel, you are being childish right now, he is not a mind reader he does not know what is inside your mind. If you tell him you can find out if it was a misunderstanding and make it better, but if you don't tell him it will never get better.

i think its your way to release the anger or pain. but what happened to you, that i do not know. but it seems something serious. don't be sorry. life is cycle thing. it will have good and bad things at times.

Hey there, well as widely known , the hurt caused by close people stays like a wound,it hurts more because u never saw it coming from whom you thought were only supposed to tell u good stuff since they are close peoeple that you love. But sometimes words that hurt are constructive, they may teach us and give us a reason to keep moving on ... U know what they say , fall down seven times but stand up eight.. What is not clear here is what your bf has told u , he may have shared the truth about smthing but u couldn't tolerate,it may have a good side if u look for it. But if he has hurted u in anyway other than having the purpose to help or to develop you personality, you musn't keep silence. I'm not sayin make a fuzz out of it, but u can simply talk to him, because the key to a good relationship is honesty. Be honest, tell him what hurts u , and gently ask him if he could not repeat it.. The art of communication is such a great weapon to win all battles :) Good luck (K) .. and one thing left, as long as cryin makes u feel better, cry! :)

sometimes we don't notice that we said words to our loves ones beyond our knowledge that we hurt them. it will be worst if the one didn't accept it that they can also say things that can hurt to anybody. i accept i am also sensitive with this but i will tell myself that what if i also say thing that can hurt to others, do they also feel what i felt? anyway, thanks for being you. not pretending on what you feel right now.

gxnfly you really need to tell your boyfriend that he hurt you because if he does not know perhaps he did not realize he had hurt you. if he loves you and you love him you need to be honest with him. be gentle but firm and say you hurt me bad by andthen tell him how he hurt you. He deserves to know and if he is that insensitive maybe he is not the right one for you.

Ohh these kind of things happen to anyone in life ... even they happen to me ... i too never care about those who don't care me .. but when it comes to those who play a part in my life i will be hurt ... i think we must learn to be mechanical in our lives. I will just try to be that from now on.

Sorry to hear that gxnfly, but I have heard all my life that if youre pretending to be happy when your are not, the only person you are fooling is yourself. When you harbor negative feeling such as this, it affects you, your relationship, and those around you. I would think that if he truly loves you (and you should know if this is so) that you should be able to talk about anything and it will only draw the two of you closer together. Though it may be difficult, sometimes the things that are the most difficult also carry the greatest rewards.

Its better to let it out than keep it in I hoe you could talk about it with you bf when things cooled down. I mean he might be really aware that he hurt you and talking to him might prevent him doing it in the future.

No need to pretend here gxnfly - let it all out, it helps when you do in mylot. It's nice when friends rally around and comfort you too - takes a little of the load off. When your ready, I think you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him that what he said to you hurt you to the core. Tell him how sensitive you are (unless he hasn't figured that out for himself) and what he says means a whole lot more than what anyone else says to you. Tell him how much he means to you and what he says is just as important to you and if said negatively, hurts you a great deal. I'm sure he will understand how you feel and your honesty too. Don't pretend that it is alright when it isn't, it only makes it worse for you and then you might just burst and create something more out of nothing (if you know what i mean). It happens to me too at times. I hope your able to work it out and feel better too.

Maybe you can get counseling so you will be able to express yourself better to those you do care about! You should be able to tell your boyfriend that he hurt your feelings! A counselor can tel you if you are dealing with life in a healthy way or not!

I think you should tell him that what he said hurt you. He may not have meant it the way you took it. Sometimes we just have to have faith in our partner that they don't mean to hurt us. Things come out wrong and we take them the wrong way. Or they don't realize we are sensative about it. Talk to him and get it all straightened out. I'm sure you'll feel better after.