The words that we say to one another.. The way that we treat one another...

i always try to be very careful with my words. i always try to put myself in the other person's shoes bvefore i tell somethjing, actually i may also have felt bad if somebody told me somethiong rude. it really have implications.

cream this is a great discussion. I know I sometimes go' overboard when I am passionate about something and then 'I have to retract what I say which is so hard if not impossible to do. so the best thing is to think long and hard first before you open your mouth and speak or write in this case. Much easier to rethink than to have to apologize.

cream97, Some people have said harsh words or have insulted me. Some of them have also ridiculed me or have said untrue things. Of course, my heart was hurt badly. However, I have realized that it is a real life. You can't always expect people to be nice all the time. Some of them may disagree with me. That's fine with me. As long as it is constructive criticism, I will try to understand it. Simon Cowell of American Idol, for instance, is a blunt person. But I do know that he is just trying to make a constructive criticism. Although the words are often hurt, it won't make me down. Life should be enjoyable. I don't care what others are saying to me. After all, God is not blind and I believe in Him and trust on Him.

I always try to treat people the way i want to be treated. I've learnt that you can build up or break down someone with the tongue. My mom always said that the tongue is a powerful thing, and i believe this. I know how a kind word can lift your spirit, because there were times when the kindness of a stranger changed my outlook on life. I also know how mean and thoughtless words can damage a persons faith in humanity. So with this in mind i always try to be considerate to others.

I am polite to my friends around me.But,some times ,we couldn't know what they think ,so we couldn't ensure that we won't hurt someone .Don't too compunctions to ourself,because everyone would be sensitive about especially things or thought.So,say what you want to say and do what you want to do,as long as you are polite.

I was raised in a very negative family. It is quite horrible to be raised and exposed to such negativity and never fully understand why people look at you like an alien from outer space when that's all you know. Now as an adult I am anti-negative. I can't be around negative people they will pull you down and they never say anything nice about anyone. It's bad Karma I on purpose will build people up, a smile, an encouraging word, bringing peace to the work area & family. Confronting negativity and drowning out the worm before it causes a path of destruction is the best thing. Being positive kind & loving you can not go wrong because you will get positive love & kindness back.

Hi cream97! I completely agree with you. Hurting words can always wound one's heart and most of the time, those words will never be forgotten and will somehow affect his/her life. That is why I am very careful with my words especially when I am hurt or angry. Hurting words when already said can never be taken back. And so most of the time, when I am angry I keep quiet until I cool down and I could really think straight so that I wouldn't say anything that will hurt anyone. Take Care and God Bless! Happy Mylotting!

I agree with what you say. Most of the time, I try to think what I have to say to someone before actually saying it. I always want to make sure that he/she will not be offended on what I am about to say. But if it needs to be said, I have to say some harsh words to friends, in order to help them. I have to say the truth but it might hurt so I explain well and choose my words carefully.

Being the target of cruelty and teasing much of my childhood, I have always tried not to hurt others. Sometimes I'll read something on a message board that has me thinking man, what an idiot! But when I reply, I do so as politely as I can and try to see their point of view so I usually end up learning something from that person and glad that I treated them with respect. In "real" life I try to be considerate. It may be the only kindness that person receives all day, you never know.

Yes cream , it is always said that ' slaps can be forgotten and so can be forgiven but insults or sharp words one says can never be forgotten nor be forgiven. It is very difficult for a person to forget the insults he had heard from others, he'll keep remembering them through out his life. That's why it is said think twice before you say something when you are angry and also to count till ten before saying anything in anger. I would like to say that I was like that in my younger days , because I thought I was being blunt and frank with everyone. Even now I am blunt and frank but I have learnt to smoothen and soften my words and se that I do not hurt anyone intentionally. If someone misunderstands me I cannot do anything about it isn't it?

Some people use words as a form of abuse and will bully someone who has low self-esteem by always making personal remarks which will make them feel even less about themself. Sensitive people can also be hurt and damaged by an unthinking comment. Some people can never forgive what they hear said about them by someone else. Words can also be used to boost someone's confidence, make them know they are valued and can brighten up somebody's day, if used for good effect. Sometimes words matter more than actions. Love can be expressed and should be told as well as shown. Words of comfort or of praise can stay in the memory forever too.

As a general rule, if you treat others with the respect that you would wish others to treat you with you are on the right track. If you keep in mind how you would want people to treat you and/or talk to you then you will usually be doing well. Not only can what you say stay with someone for a very long time but what you say to someone might affect them in such a way that they then go out into the world and affect someone else in the same way, starting a chain reaction. Think about that.

Well, i agree, we should refrain from being rude and bad with the people around us. I am not proud that i don't always manage to keep a perfect clean and positive attitude to the ones surrounding me although they deserve it - i sometimes get upset and forget to be as good as i would like to be. But as a measure to fix this i try to give them compliments as often as i can, so i can lift their moral up.

im a silent type.. i just show my carelessness to my close ones and or relatives.. and we get used to it for we had the same atittudes.. but sometimes i know i do hurt feelings, and i directly apologize to them.. like here in myLot.. i sometimes go stereotype commenting on the posts but i dont take it as an offensive comment.. :D

It like a saying I really believe, " sticks and stones may break my bones but words cause permanent damage."I am nice until it is time not to be nice.

first, you must know a person's personality. it may not be that closer, but at least you need to know them somehow. because different people does have different way of responding and treating things. it does include the words they hear from the people around them. second, is you must put yourself on other people's shoes. try to understand their feelings the way you understand yourself, and you'll be pretty sure that, somehow, you'll not add the list of their heartaches over the harsh words they hear. and the most important thing is always treat other's the way you want to be treated. prefer to use positive words that will be nice to other people's heart. it's another way to touch other peoples lives, by being nice to them in words more than in action. so before you utter words, think of it, ask yourself. will it touch other people's lives, or will it beak their soul?

I try to choose my words carefully prior to speaking with people, am not perfect, but I do my best. Hurting people with use of words can be remembered for a lifetime. I can remember things that were told to me when I was quite young and those words still lives on in my mind. WORDS CAN HURT AND WORDS CAN HEAL. Choice words are better than gold. It is said"IT IS NOT WHAT GOES INTO A MAN DEFILES HIM,BUT IT IS WHAT COMES UP OUT OF HIS MOUTH".

I always try to be careful of what I say to others. Even when joking around, what we say can be carried to the extremes.

Yes we should be polite while talking to others. We can not take back the words once said. We should always bear this in mind that if we say some thing bad and hurt others while we are angry, some times our words will haunt the listner for a long period. We should avoid such situtations from our conversation. We should be ourselves while talking to others. Should speak politely to others who ever may be the person we are talking to. Should think before uttering words and should always be aware about what we say.

when I have been told that words is an art,i agree with your point of view.some guys can't get along with any person,just because his inappropriate words, they don't even have a good friend.All of us have knew this kind of person,so the words can have a huge impact on somone. i'm a newcomer and my English is very poor.please don't ridicule me