How do you let your child know they're doing a good job?

Besides extra hugs and kisses and the telling them how proud we are, they may get an extra treat like their favorite meal for dinner or a special dessert. Nothing big and definitely not a toy (they have too many of those as it is, lol). They also may get extra when it is time to hand out the allowance. That depends on what they did and how far they went above and beyond their regular chore duties.

well i think that rewarding a child for doing a good job is definatly a good thing. we all like to feel that what we do matters to the ones we love the most. so i would definately treat my kid (if i ever have one) to a meal they like or perhaps to mcdonalds. and if they did something that was exceptional work then i dont see anything wrong with rewarding them with something a little bigger. perhaps take them out to dinner and take them to the movies afterwords if there is anything they want to see. if not then perhaps a gift would be appropreate reward for thier good work, within reason of course. but that would be reserved for older kids too. so to me the type of reward would depend on what they did and how well they did it. but i would definatly give some type of reward if my kid did something without asking. after all, later in life on the job, don't most employers reward good work in some fashion? every one likes to feel good about what they have accomplished and a lot of times people like to be rewarded with something when they do. its just how we are. we like to be recognised for our efforts or we feel like there is no point and start to get the attitude "why try, no one cares anyway?" Unfortunatly kids can have the same type of feeling form when they arn't given recognision of some kind for thier good work.

How about a trip to the park or ice cream store. Someplace that you don't go often. Tell her that helping you made it so you could spend a little extra time with her.

I usually hug my son and tell him WHY I feel he's done a good job. He likes that more than just the hug and telling him he's done a good job. Another thing with my son is that he doesn't really like been praised...it somehow puts him off from doing the job again. Funny I know...but in his little head he feels that if mom appreciates it then she feels I'm doing it for her..while that's not really the case...I'm doing it coz I really want to do it. I understand what he means (not sure if anyone else would)....so I usually give him a treat that he likes...a favourite snack..or allow a half an hour of video games...sometimes I ask him what he wants to do(things I normally don't let him do) and then let him do it for a while.

I would not give toys and gifts for doing chores, but I might say something like "You did such a good job helping me get done fast, I have time to play a game with you (or read a book, etc.) That would give real meaning to the idea that members of a family work together and spend time together. If you pay her, or reward her, you are treating her like an employee, not a team member.

Mine get an allowance each week for their chores that they do, if they go out of their way to do extra chores without me asking them then I usually give them extra money or I will treat them to some sweets. I always reward good behaviour with a gift of some sort, so that they never feel that they are taken for granted.

Hello! I think that hugs and praise are a wonderful way to reward your kids for work they do around the house. I didn't start giving my kids an allowance all the time when they were little because I didn't want them to think that they would get money every time for helping out. However, when they have ever done even more than usual if we are in town I would let them pick something out that they really wanted or I would surprise them myself when they didn't expect with something special. My reasons for feeling this way was when I was little and my daddy was still living he brought me something home from work every night. When he passed away when I was seven years old my mother was left in a bind and there was no way she could do this for me. It made it hard for her because I had been spoiled by my daddy thinking I should get anything I wanted whenever I wanted it. That is why I have never been one to buy my kids something every time we went to a store. I just give them extra when they do extra at home and at their birthday/Christmas.

We can praise ther good works andI usually treat the kids like a movie or eat out. It is always good to show them that we appreciate if they have been helpful in the house. Praises and encouragemnt usually boost their confidence and raise their self esteem.

A hug could mean different like being happy because your child made a good deed, comfort when they are hurt, showing love, and a lot more. I think a gift or a treat is not meant to spoil a child but like all rewards - regardless of whether it is a material or non-tangible objects, are meant to reinforce the behavior. It is better that you reward a child when they have done something good than buy then expensive gifts all the time. If you think she deserves additional gifts, then give it to her. My 5-year old daughter consider cooking a gift or treat so I allow here to beat the egg for her sandwich or mix the pancake mixture and let her watch me cook them. There are instances when we would trade - we would allow her to watch TV as soon as she finished reading. There are indeed lots of ways to reward our children so choose what suits your child's wants and needs.

its common practice here for a weekly allowance. payment for work done. it helps them learn there work ethics, how to prioritize (work first - play after)how to handle money, save, etc. if the chores arent done, allowance isnt paid. i dont think kids should just simply get an allowance for being in existance. for "extra" stuff done, bigger jobs that arent normally the routine chores.. bonuses are added to the allowances. for just being nice? a squish & kiss and an "im very proud of yer behavior, youre a wonderful person!" is quite sufficient. on particlarly GOOD days.. chores are done, homework is done, niceties have been enacted, extras done without being asked, etc etc.. then either extra priviledges are given (such as staying up a little later to watch a favorite tv show, extra time playing a computer game, etc) or gifts are given. gifts dont spoil unless it is done constantly so it becomes expected payment for good behavior. if they never know when or even if theyll recieve something of a surprise.. the behavior is just done because it is the right thing to do, and not motivated by greed. pride in self for a job well done, is much more important than a collection of toys.

that's so sweet of your kid! ^_^ i think giving presents or rewards won't spoil kids. i think instead, it'd give them more encouragement to help out some more. i don;t have a kid yet but when my mum or dad gives me reward for a good job (sometimes for just making an effort ^_^), i feel really inspired to do more.. they usually buy me cake since i have a VERY active sweet tooth ^_^v

When I was little my dad would give me a couple of dollars or take me to McDonalds. Telling your child is a good thing to do though. It makes her feel proud of herself. This is just a suggestion you could take her to lunch or bake cookies afterwards. You don't always have to give them something but it was a big thing when I was little to get that 2 dollars or eat lunch with my dad. Hope this helps some. Good luck

Really its a wonderful and joyful day to you....parents is the fst persons who wil pround wen thier kids wil do or got success. next cme to ur part....hug is not enough v have to give more n more to remember the things ....if ur kid is below the age of 7 ...really hug wil not work out !!! v have to give the things which is remember to thier lifes

Hi You are doing a good job your child is still alive so you have done well. The next thing is rewards are great and so is verbal communication like you done a wonderful job sweetie i really appreicate you doing ...... Rewards are not bribs as such its like school when you do well you get a sticker or stamp with good job. There is not much difference expecpt from the parents it comes from the heart not just for the money. I myself have a rewards chart i put what the reward will be if she gets 4 stamps. Sometimes its $10 , others its 2 days at a local gym centre for kids and others its a bigger reward. My daughter is 15mths and i am teaching her how to appreicate what she gets and that in life you have to earn things they just dont come to you. I myself am 22 yrs old but i have some clue of life lol. I hope this helps

i don't have a child yet at the moment... but when i do have one in the future, i will reward them with praise... i think it is enough and the child will be happy enough if they know that their good behaviour is acknowledged... i don't want to make it a habit of giving them monetary or treat rewards whenever they do a good job... it will become a bad habit to them... take care and have a nice day...

I always tell my son what a good job he did. I also give him stickers, or let him spend some extra time outside, or playing whatever he wants to play. He also might get to pick something for a snack that we don't have very often (like some kind of junk food IF we already have it in the house).

I read somewhere not to go over board with letting your child know they did a good job b/c they would always be expecting that and then when you don't go over board then they will stop doing it. I do let my child know when she did a good job. I will tell her and usually give her a kiss. Shes only 2 lol. Right now we are working on a Dora potty chart. She was potty trained before but got lazy and so once she fills up that chart I told her she will get a surprise so she has been wanting to do it more which is nice.

Your child is very good to clean the house. And what you to is very efficient. Praising your child is the most direct way. I will do the same like you. As to the gifts, I don't think I must give them to my child. And my child has to understand that this is his responsibility and it is the symbol that he already grows up. I love China

When i see that my kids are doing a good job, i say it out loud to them and buy them what they need. For example, the did a great job in their art homework and i know that they want to excel in arts, i buy them a good set of crayons and drawing books. i want to be supportive as possible.

I dont have kids but can I just say, I remember being a chil and doing something good and I think youd be suprised by how much your children appreciat the praise, especially as they get older. And of course I dont think the odd treat hurts.