Anyone have an adult child whom have moved far away?
By nanajanet
@nanajanet (4436)
United States
May 31, 2008 7:22pm CST
My daughter, and my granddaughter, live with us. I love having them here but there is a small chance they may move far away. I lost my son four years ago, so they are all we have left.
Has anyone else been there? If so, how do you deal with it? Do you visit them much? Do you miss them a lot?
Thanks.
5 responses
@sun2day (1062)
• Virgin Islands (U.S.)
1 Jun 08
That can be tough on you, but the time comes when we have to cut that knot and let the fly. My one daugther is in the military overses with her family. I spent some time with them in the USA, but not overses, hoping to visit with them sometime;but dont know how soon. She has a new baby that I have not seen yet. You do miss them when they leave home, it is a big void in your life.
But the other daugther lives here with her kids.
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
2 Jun 08
I think it will be hard for us, if she moves away, because she was living away from home, but on my staff, before I retired. So I saw her a lot. Then she moved back home when she became pregnant (dad took off), and needed assistance. So, we have been with her and the baby since she was born and we would miss her so much.
I know what it's like to miss a child badly, because we lost our only son four years ago, so they are all I have right now. I know I would survive, as I have survived that, but still, it's hard.
I know I can't force her to stay, nor would I want to do that to her. I would not want to have my own parents do that to me, although, my mom has tried, lol.
@Barbietre (1438)
• United States
1 Jun 08
Well I do not have to tell you the answer to this one, you already know. I was hard enough when you moved far away. But remember we are still close. Look at how often we communicate these days with each other. As long as you maintain contact it is not so bad. and just think of it as a good reason to travel.
So details please???
Barb
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
1 Jun 08
Vague details but just comments about maybe moving here or there. Nothing concrete, but it makes me think that it would hurt. Not so much if I still had Keith here, but at least I know that we could find a way to afford to go see her.
Maybe it's not seeing the baby grow up. I don't mean living in our house, that I know will end eventually, as it should, but if they move very far away. I can't stop it, it's not my life, but still, when I think about it, it makes me sad.
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
7 Jun 08
I still have a long time until my child is old enough to move away (he's only 2 years old), but I know how it feels to be the adult child far from home. My husband is in the Air Force, and we are currently stationed 1100 miles from home. My mom has been to see me 2 times, and my dad once in the three years we've lived here. My son and I have been home 5 times, my husband was with us every time except one.
I think the hardest part for my parents is that my dad didn't get to meet my son until he was 4 months old. My mom and my little sister came up to see him right after he was born. They arrived at my house the same day I got out of the hospital. But they only got to stay for a few days, because my mom had to go back to work. They still miss my son like crazy. They just barely get to know all of his newest likes and dislikes each time they see him, and then it's time for us to go back home again.
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
7 Jun 08
I guess that I am blessed to have that child in my life everyday and still have my daughter nearby. You have to be grateful for what you DO have, yes?
Hugs to all!
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
4 Jun 08
I was an adult and married living about 45 minutes away from my parents, when they retired and moved far away from me. I missed them terribly. We try to visit as often as possible, but it is not easy.
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Thanks for your comments. I know others have been there, like my sister, whose son is in Calif. and does not keep in touch with anyone, with his wife and kids.
That's the stinky part of life.
@sautrey (9)
• United States
4 Jun 08
My son, who is now 28, moved to Canada from Floida about 8 years ago. Since he has been gone, we lost my youngest son and his wife at the age of 21. Now their daughter (my granddaughter) is living with my husband and I as our child.She was 1 1/2 years old when she came, and is 6 now.
It is hard to deal with family change, but there are always others who can fill our empty hearts, both young and old.
