And this is why my boys aren't potty trained!

Have you tried to find some cute and NEAT big boy undies like Spiderman or some other figure/icon they love? I have found that praise is the only way to go on potty training and the others need to zip their mouth if they can't say something good!

What would happen if you stopped buying the pullups? Yes "they" might nag you a bit, but these are your children and "they" have no business trying to tell you how to raise them. If "they" want your kids in pullups, "they" can darn well buy them with their own money! The only time "they" should have any input is if what you are doing is putting the kids in danger. I don't think a wet bum constitutes danger.

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Foxy the problem isn't with you per say it is with the rest of your family. On the other hand who is the rest of the family that they hold power over you on how you raise your kids or train them to go to the bathroom or anything else for that matter. That would be the day someone tell me how to raise my kids without an invitation to do so. If your kids can walk run and play they can most certainly find there way to a bathroom and do their business. Recently on one of those awareness news stories they were saying in is only children in America that stay in diapers for longer then a year. For me raising my kids I like them trained within a year but if not for sure they would not be reaching their second birthday wearing a diaper. I have no problem with the pull ups at bed time in case of accident but they were taught to wake me up if that were possible. I do realize some kids don't know or can't catch themselves in their deep sleep. Sore subject for me. Get a load of the girl from Sabrina the teenage witch... her son is over three years old and she has a show now on the net about potty training. If you ask me they should have someone who is working on training their kid long before that to do the show.

Pull-ups were not around for my first 3 children and they trained very easily. With my 4th, pull-ups were the new. I bought a package. I used maybe 2 and gave the rest away.They were in my mind about the most ridiculous way to train a child. Beyond the desire to be a "big" kid, the biggest incentive for a child to run to the bathroom is that they don't like the feeling of being wet. It isn't comfortable for them when they have accidents. Even when they are naked under long shirts, if they don't run to the bathroom, then they still have the pee all over them and have to stop their play and get cleaned up and bathed. It doesn't take them long to get the concept that it is much better to stop for a minute than to stop for 30 mins. Another thing....I bought all my girls cool undies that they picked out themselves. They did not want to soil them and it made them feel so proud to be wearing them. Pull ups are just diapers that go on differently. It prolongs the training. The other's didn't interfere too much in my training of her but getting her away from the bottle was another story! Very similar to what you are going thru.

foxyfire it is your home and your kids so why cannot the rest of your family keep hands off your way of potty training. you so should back you up and the others should just butt out. these kids will learn under your tutledge and keep the rest of the f amily' out of the loop. stand up to your relatives it is your home and your kids.

I think pull ups do hinder one being potty trained. And the way you are doing it would be the way I would do it as well. I didn't have any trouble at all with training my oldest daughter. Since she was waking up dry from sleeping and her naps, I started setting her on the potty as soon as she woke up and she was trained by 11 months old. Now I didn't have the same success with my youngest daughter and she was about 3 before she was trained. Oh no, 3 in diapers as much as they cost. I was glad that I never even had two in diapers at the same time.

I hate to tattle tale on my little girl. But, when she was just about two or three years old,when we were potty training her, if I put her in a diaper at all, she refused to use the toilet. She would literally use the diaper, even if she were fully awake. We had to simply forgo potty training pants and Pull ups and diapers of all kinds for the daytime. Otherwise she refused to use the bathroom. They get confused and think they're supposed to go in those Pull ups. I don't know why more people don't see that. Part of learning self control for the bladder is to be able to wear big kid under pants and underwear and regular clothes. And, the sooner the child starts the learning process, the easier it will be. That's what I found with mine. I didn't rush her. But, when she was ready, she let me know, that she didn't want to wear diapers anymore. And, that's when we began. But, it took well over a year to perfect the no-diaper process. You're right about Pull ups, being just big kid diapers. Some women use them for their kids, cause they're afraid of getting pee on the carpet. But, we have stone tile floors, so it wasn't an issue for us. You're doing the right thing. That technique worked for me, too. Now, mine is 100% potty trained for both day and night. My secret for night time potty training was to cut out the bottle at an early age. And, also cut out liquids within one hour of bedtime. And, if needed, then only one sip of water. And, mine goes to the bathroom at least twice before bedtime. Hope those tips help. You are doing a super job on your own. Please don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Trust your own best judgement.

I really hate it when people interfere with how YOU want to raise your kid-- or something. I think having only a long shirt on for potty training is completely acceptable. The children have to learn sometime and it sounds like you are doing a great job. tell everyone to leave you alone :)

It does sound like negativity and mixed messages are really not helping. I don't understand how everyone thinks pull ups are the way to go (I am 24 and was potty trained with out them and as my son is getting ready to be potty trained I think they are ridiculous, not to mention terrible to change should one poop in them). People are so stupid, how many were potty trained before pull ups? EVERYONE! ERRR...angry with you!

I would personally make a stand and do it the way you want no matter how much others nag and moan at you. All these special pull up and extra dry type nappies just encourage children to be lazy and not use the potty or the toilet whereas the old ones that got them wet would make them uncomfortable so more likely to want to be out of them early. Clever marketing ploy by nappy manufacturers to sell more eh! If you can put up with the nagging perserve and you will probably find after two weeks you may only have one of the three in nappies or maybe none at all. Ellie :D

Are these YOUR children? Until you stand up and tell everybody else that you have heard enough of their opinions and have wasted all the money on pull-ups that you plan to. you will be going to the school and changing their pull-ups when they are in first grade. I know you don't want advice but this can't be good for your children! Potty training is a significant building block to learning other things.

Foxy You are right!! I mothered three boys. Been there, done that. I figure if they're old enough to walk they're old enough to find the bathroom. Let them go naked under their shirts every time you can. And, make them clean up any mess they make---they'll learn. You might have to ignore (or beat up) the rest of the family. All the best , and it really DOES work.

You are so very right... you are mom you do what you need to do to potty your kids, I agree pull ups are just pull down diapers an added expense you don't need, they didn't have pull ups back in the day how did they potty trin kids ...commandoooo. or just undies nothing wrong with that. My grandson is two and he runs around all in nothing we go to the store he wears undies if he has an accident then oh well we clean up and move on. I find that if you put diapers on them they tend to go in diapers and don't bother to use the potty I mean why should they they have a diaper on yes even a pull up is a diaper. Kids dont like to feel wet so when they have undies or nothing they learn to use the potty sooner. You just do what you think is right and what works for you ...

I agree with the people who stated maybe your best bet would be to get them some boy underwear like with Spiderman, etc. on them to where they feel like Big boys to where they will want to use the Big boy restroom instead of having an accident. I know many people who have done this and have had huge success from doing that. It may not always work at first, but your boys will get the idea, and want to use the restroom instead. Personally, I feel that continuing to use Pullups and stuff like that only encourages them to not want to be potty trained, so if you try the other way I think it would be the way to go. Wishing you the best.

The thing that I learned about potty training is that it has to be their acomplishment and not ours. I agree not using pull ups during the day. Tell people to mind their business, but also be prepared to do alot of laundry. They will get tired of feeling wet and start wanting to go on their own. Good luck and keep doing what you are doing, that is all we can do.

i think you just stop buying pullups. make then understand taht they should be potty trained. reward them if they do not have any accidents? by the way, how old are they now?

i know how frustrating potty training is and you are right pull ups are just big kid diapers my daughter is two and i did the whole pull up thing and she never once went potty i just stopped buying the pull ups kept her in panties all day and now she is almost completely trained. dont worry about what other people say they are your boys and you know whats best for them :)

I reckon that potty training is a hard thing to do,especially as boys seem lazier than girls.My grandson has only just cottoned on to it all,and this weeks visit has been the first ever that he has used the toilet.He came with no pull up on and went and used the toilet...a big step for him...my daughter has been trying hard with him for ages..but he just couldnt seem to get the hang of it.

I'm sorry, I don't think you want advise so I won't offer any, and honestly I don't have any. My 3 boys just one day decided to do it on their own I guess. I didn't use pull-up or anything like that so I don't know how that goes. But, I can say best of luck and I hope it really starts going the way that you want it to!!!